2006-10-10 22:36:15 · 13 answers · asked by George B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You should get married because you are not your parents and the reasons they have decided to dissolve their marriage (or in this case void it) may not apply to you. You should not let their problems dictate your future happiness.
2006-10-10 22:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by BarbKor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that it's discouraging thinking about marriage when so many people around us are getting divorced or annulled, but you need to realize that their reasons for their actions don't pertain to you and your relationship. For as many relationships that fail, there are many that don't.
Marriage takes work, nothing is easy about living with another person 24/7. The rewards are well worth any sacrifices that are made by both people involved. As long as you are willing to make the effort and your partner is too, things should be okay.
Remember, communication and trust are two of the most important issues in any relationship, as long as you have those, you should be okay. Perhaps your parents didn't.
2006-10-11 07:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To quote Renee zelwegger " you complete me " I don't believe in living together. I don't believe in the " try it before you buy it" theory. My father for his second marriage lived with her for 18 months before marriage. It lasted less than 6 months.
There is no better feeling than knowing that she is there. By getting married you are saying to her and the world that she is the one.That is what completes her.
Don't let your parents failure affect you. Learn if you can from their success and failure.
I have been happily married for 13 yrs with 4 kids. I can't imagine it any other way. Both of my parents were married 3 times and both of my sisters are on their second. I have seen it all and if I had to do it again I would marry her again and twice on sunday!! The bond is incredible !! BY making that commitment you let her know its for real. If not, there will always be doubt as to how committed you are.
Sorry, I'm done. I am very passionate about marriage.
I,m not answering am I ? If you know in your heart that you have found the right person then do it.If you have doubts... then wait.
2006-10-11 10:28:51 · answer #3 · answered by rock d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage really isnt for everyone. It's like the moral thing people do to profess their undying love for one another but I really think you can do it married or unmarried. It really depends on the person and their outlook on their life and marriage itself. I don't think you must be married to be happy or have children or even have the life that married people have you can still do it married or not...it is a sacred vow most people take with them but then you have both men and women who dont uphold the solmon vow of marriage so i say its your decision and what ever you decide you should always let a partner know before things get to serious if all you want is to stay unmarried but then again you may end up married if you find someone who makes you feel like no one else does...good luck...by the way you are not your parents either you are totally differnt person with different ideals...
2006-10-11 09:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly Id like to ask how they can get annuled, I thought you could only do that if you didnt have kids??
You need to get married for your own reasons not for your parents reasons or anybody else's!!
2006-10-11 06:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be put of by ever getting married in the future because your parents marriage didn't work out. Not all marriages go that way and there must of been reasons why your folks didn't work out. Have you spoken to them about how you feel as i would it may enlighten.
2006-10-11 06:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by sez75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married means you commit yourself to that other person to live with your whole lifetime. It seems to be hard in our society our days to be married bec so many people get devorced. I can understand your fear especially bec you experience it first hand. But having said that there are ways you can help a marriage to succeed. It starts with the time before you're married. Wait for the right person and don't date everybody who comes along your way. Just spend time with other singles. You marry your best friend. Spend a lot of time (not sex) together to come to know each other. Find some premarrital classes. Then when you get married commit to never threaden with devorce, it's not an option. It is not always easy but if you stick to your spouse and are willing to go with them through thick and thin marriage is one of the most rewarding things you can experience. You have to be willing to change and give though but that also means you will receive back.There will be no other person you know so well and who knows you so well then your spouse. you become "one" with them( even if you still are your one person, hard to understand in a way) This is a special closeness you never can experience with anybody.You can not get that closeness in a non marrital relationship, bec you might just check out if it gets hard. But hard times actually pull you closer to each other and there will be challenges and things that will bug you about your spouse but you can learn to deal with that .And besides that devorce is a heart break especially for the children. My husband was devorced (his exwife left him)but it is always a challenge. One important aspect in all of this is for me to have God's help. I can not do it by myself. He helps me in all things. I never regreted it to get married to my husband. Our relationship doesn't just happen we have to work at it and forster it but that is part of live. We are married now for 14 years, my parents were married for 42 years before my dad died. It is so much worth it.
2006-10-11 06:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by Rika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to get married, it's completly up to yourself if you get married. Just because your parents marriage didn't work out doesn't mean yours won't.
2006-10-11 05:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you should get married because you love the person you are with and want to make your commitment to each other known to the world.
Just because other people's marriages dont work does not mean yours won't.
2006-10-11 05:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by tay_jen1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everybody lives has his life, that`s why if you decide to get married you should get married
2006-10-11 05:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by - Storm - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋