my sister accused me of something i did not do. she never proved anything. she just made accusations because there wasnt anyone else to blame. she hasnt spoken to me in 5 yr.s do you think our relationship can ever be mended after so much damage has been done?
2006-10-10 21:32:07 · 8 answers · asked by sherry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is tough! When I was a child my grandmother automatically accused me of everything that happened. She'd say, "Marsha done it" and in her mind, that solved the issue. One day, my aunt told her, "Mom, if the old cat had kittens, you'd say 'Marsha done it'." That became a family saying to solve everything and 40 years later, I still remember being blamed for everything. If you didn't do it, you don't have to carry your sister's burden. She's the one that's losing out on good times with you. Sometimes, no matter how bad it hurts, you just have to let go and move on!
2006-10-10 23:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No doubt by now your sister realizes that you didn't do whatever it was that she accused you of. You don't mention whether or not any of your other family members believed her or not. It sounds to me like you want to patch up this problem. There's a chance that she wants to 'make up' as well, but doesn't know how, or she's afraid that you're still angry with her. Pick up a pen, and write a letter to her. Tell her that you forgive her for falsely accusing you, and that you'd like to let bygones be bygones. Tell her you love her and miss her. (Assuming that you do!). After that, the next move is up to her. If she doesn't respond, then all you can do is wait for the day she'll be ready to take the steps to mend your relationship. Be prepared, the letter could cause more trouble. But if it's been five years since you've spoken, I don't see that things could be any worse between the two of you. Good luck!
2006-10-10 21:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by hrprrbn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness mends all things but there has to be cooperation from both sides, this means you and your sister must come to an agreement to try your absolute best to make things work out between the two of you.
If she is blaming you and you are not the one to blame for, chances are that she does not have any evidence to accuse you of the crime that you comit. Therefore, its your turn to come up with evidence to prove her wrong, but to do so in a respectful manner,
You want to make sure that you arent doing this out of slefishness.
If worse comes to worse and you find it next to impossible to save yourself against being blammed, let her know that you do not agree with her accusations but that you are still interested in the well being of your relatioship if that is that case.
As time goes by and she sees your genuine concern, then she might come to realize that whatever it is she is accusing you of is not true.
If not, think of it this way
what comes around goes around and whatever goes up must come down
thats just the way life works
and if today she is blamming you falsely
perhaps tomorrow she will find herlsef in your shoes and that will give you the opportunity to be there for her and to once more remid her that you too were once blamed falsely by her
oh, and be patient, it took 5 years to grow this far appart, give it at least double to make your relationship be just as strong as it should.
2006-10-10 21:38:43 · answer #3 · answered by geniusflightnurse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sherry
This is a common thing for relatives to get angry and she has been unfair to accuse you.
But however i would like to add that maybe her anger and not talking due to the fact that she loves you lot and got hurt as she believed that it was you.
The best thing i can request you do for now is to send her a card or email or letter explaining her what hapened really, how you miss her and how much you want to solve things out.
Believe in yourself, believe in the love you hold for her, believe in God. Everything gonna be alright.
Good luck dear!
2006-10-10 21:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by fatmah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it isnt my fault ,i will not care of her accusation .
As for one of my friends ,when someone accuses her of something she didnt do,she often shouts :"it is not my fault,i didnt do it!!!" i think it is also a way to go out your stress!
2006-10-10 21:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by lovely_kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Yes. Yes. My sister did many things to me and I forgave her because she is my sister. So forgive her and and move on.
2006-10-10 21:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by Tedi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly did she accuse you of??? More details.
2006-10-10 21:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah learn to forgive &forget.
2006-10-10 21:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋