2006-10-10 21:17:59 · 14 answers · asked by LILY 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You will have plenty of time to look back and wonder. Just look forward and have the best life possible. You cannot change what has happened. Worse things have happened.
2006-10-10 21:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel ashamed! I was 14 when I had my first son, and of course, it was unplanned. At first, people looked at me funny and I was talked about and people thought I was this horrible person. My son is now 8 (I am 23) and he is a wonderful boy! I graduated from high school at the top of my class and had a job and took care of my son. I did have the help of my parents, and that helped alot. I now have two more sons and am married to a great guy. I have never looked back and thought "oh my god, what did I do?" He is wonderful and my life is good. I know its not ideal to be a teen mom, but if you give all you have to give for your child, then it doesnt really matter how old you are. If your child can grow up and think that his life wasnt too bad, then you did your job. Just try your hardest and let him know you love him, and dont worry about what other people think.
2006-10-13 23:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by holly w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many things make us feel ashamed and embarrassed. However, you have conquered something that some women will never go through...being a Mom. What I mean by that is that some women can't become pregnant at all. They go through years of depression and not feeling complete because that can't have a child. No matter what, you have chosen to have and raise this child and that, to me, shows a women of strength and responsibility. At times, things will seem unfair and perhaps frustrating , but take a deep breath count to 10 and start from the beginning. Just remember this little one is counting on you...teach him/her from right and wrong and be a good example and I guarantee the day of his/her graduation you will not be ashamed but PROUD of what you have accomplished! I'll be praying for you!
2006-10-11 04:38:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lil3120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will time and time.You shouldnt though!Because that child is the most important thing in your life right now.Yeah you'll look back on the fun you used to have before hand.Thank of it this way.....Your a mother now.You got what it takes to do what you gotta do.You can do what it takes to make up for what you missed in School.Dont ever let anyone down you or doubt you.If you quit School you can go back or take your GED.I was in your shoes once.I was a teen mother when I started out.I had my first when I was 16,my second when I was 17 getting ready to turn 18.Then had my third at 23 and last at 24.Now I'm 25!Its hard I know.You'll get through it.Just keep up your faith,hope,your spirits,and your head up.Say I can do this every day.Who cares what other people say?Who cares what other thank?Dont ever feel ashamed.Because it takes 2 to do it.You'll learn what I'm talking about as you go.Take it one year,month,and step at a time.If you need help ask your parents or a friend.Good Luck to you!
2006-10-13 02:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by Kristy V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel ashamed? You are a mom. Whenever you came to know that you are pregnant, from that time you might feel something special. One cannot forget those feelings. From that time, you were a mom. All the things you were feeling, only one mother can feel it. It shows were able to be a mom. For that age doesn't matter. Even, while a small girl becomes a mom of her dall, she takes very good care of her dall. So all the best & be proud to be a mom. Don't think about the age. Think about the maturity you have. Take care of your child. Bye.
2006-10-11 04:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by sulekha c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I was 16 when I had my first son.(I turned 17 6 weeks later) and he was the best thing to happen in life!! I wasn't doing good in school, but once I had him I got better I even started to get A's and B's!! It's because of him that I graduated!! Your a mom now for a reason, no one should make you feel bad for that. GOD has these plans for you. GOD BLESS you and your family and I hope you feel better about your situation!!
2006-10-11 14:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by mamaof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forgive yourself and move on. Listen, you are awesome for choosing to give birth instead of abort. I pray a blessing on you for that alone. As you age, you will realize everyone has something that they are not so proud of. When you tell people in the future of getting pregnant at 17, (it took 2 people to make this baby) don't apologize for it or say, "I made a mistake", this mistake won't affect anyone as much as it does you. I have a friend who has always had more money than me and more opportunities. We both got married, but I am the only one who was able to produce a child. I was always secretly jealous of her ability to take care of her finances and always have the things she wanted. But for some reason God saw fit to give me a beautiful son. Girl, we are rich! That baby thinks that you are everything that is good in the world. You get to be that child's superhero. Parenthood is the great equalizer because regardless of how much money you have, you can still be a great parent by just reading to them, playing with them, singing to them, sharing nature with them. You were chosen to give birth to this child because God knew that you were worthy!
So hold your head up.
2006-10-11 05:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by starmoishe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's done is done, nothing you can do now. Just be the best Mom you can and give your child all the love you got. At least you didn't take the easy way out and get an abortion. Life will be hard, but it will be worth it being a great Mom and seeing your child grow up to be a great person.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-11 04:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by Flip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should never be ashamed.You made a mistake we all do but you gave life and that is a very wonderful thing many women may never be able to experience.And if anyone says other wise then screw them. I don't know if you believe in God or not but if you do he says in the Bible that it is a blessing to give birth.Never be ashamed.
2006-10-11 15:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Jaybezchild 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not feel ashamed. Your baby is a blessing by God and nobody can take that from you. To say you feel ashamed is like saying you are ashamed of your baby which I doubt you are.
Dont care what nobody says if it wasnt meant to be then it wouldnt have happened.
2006-10-11 04:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋