am i that unattractive?

Question

I am 21, a virgin and never had a gf, and this is not by choice. I am not waiting for this amazing girl to come along, its just that girls dont seem to be that interested in me more than friends. Any that remotely show an interest to me i dont even feel attracted to whatsoever. i have become more shy towards girls, and whenever they are talking to me i continually wonder why they would want to. i dont feel like i have anythin to offer as there arent any people that have shown an interest in me in the past, apart from family. i have also been suffering depression since my father passed away in 04, and this just increases it. i am not very attractive (short, red hair, freckles, very hairy coverin my back and chest, suffer from eczema) and was recently bashed leading to a nasty scar running across my nose. I feel like its just another reason for someone to not be attracted to me. just dont see how anyone will see me more than a friend

Answer 1

Girls dig jerks, remember? They don't want 'nice guys'. Grow a pair and get what you DESERVE to have.

Answer 2

Honey, U will find that person, I promise! There is some-1 4
every-1. I am soo sorry 2 hear about U're father....If U R suffering
from depression, I have GREAT news 4 U!!!! Go see a doctor
& ask him about EBLIFY- it's a mood enhancer, also ask about
LEXAPRO. 2-gether they work wonders!!! I promise U that U
will notice a change in U're moods & B happier.
Try 2 be more confident & do different things 2 meet different
groups of people. Get out there & have fun w/life, don't sulk.
U will meet someone!! Try 2 C a doctor!! I swear by those
meds. They helped me immensley.

Good luck honey
Smooches, Milkshake

Answer 3

I wouldn't say it's a matter of unattractiveness but the way you present yourself. You've also gotta be the one to show interest insteado f waiting to see whether the new girl is gonna pass on you too. Girls like a sense of confidence and someone nice, not "jerks". It depends on how you make them feel when you're around them and really making the initiative yourself. Try just talking to them more often and don't worry what they think. If it's not meant to be with that person then you can move on.

Answer 4

Your main problem is not your physical attractiveness. Based upon you post, it seems like you suffer from low self-confidence and have no self-esteem. So, your first objective is to increase you confidence and self-esteem. You can do this by participating more in your hobbies - if you don't have any hobbies, then find some. Excel in you hobbies, be really good at at a couple of things, then you self-confidence and self-esteem will increase. As your confidence and self-esteem increase, then you'll be more attractive to women. Hope this helps you out. Good luck!

Answer 5

I say grow a little confidence and beleive it or not we don't want assholes. COnfidence is sexy no matter what you look like. Make girls laugh they love humor in a guy. Red heads rock trust me my brother has the same issues but the hairy back and hes engaged. Just be yourself be funny and be confident if you feel comfeble in your skin we will see that and be more likely to be attracted.

Answer 6

Darling what on earth makes you think that what everyone looks for is exterior? Not all women are that way. You are still considerably young and have nothing to fear as far as being ugly. You sound just delightful. Its the personality that matters the very most and I'm not the only one who sees it this way. We all have a soul mate out there and you will find her, I promise. Just don't fret so much and just be who you are and learn to be comfortable in your own skin and she will happen on you before you even know it!

Answer 7

To put it bluntly, you have no confidence in yourself and you don't love yourself.

I was exactly like you at 21. Here's what happened to me. I got a job in construction. I eventually befriended some carpenters and other craftmen. They started to take me places like bars and strip joints and I started to grow a pair of balls. Hanging around tough guys helped me a lot.

BTW, I'm butt ugly. Next, with my small pair of balls, I started to talk to women. I would fail 99.9 percent of the time. They told me to leave, and go away. They would make fun of me, and then tell me to go away. I did it over and over and over and over again. Why? Because each time I failed and got rejected, I learned a little more of what to say and I would always go back to my friends and they would give me an atta-boy for trying. Eventually, my confidence grew and I began to love myself.

I'm telling you straight. The more you fail, the more you learn. Don't look it as a negative and just a learning experience.

So fail faster to succeed sooner.

I'm happily married to a beautiful woman because she's attracted to my personality and confidence. No joke.

Answer 8

This is going to sound wrong, but, I'll say it anyway: no matter how unattractive you are, there is always someone out there for you.

In fact, at my university, I'd say the unattractive people are the ones who are in long-term relationships and actually in love, not the socially attractive people.

Sounds wrong, but true.

Don't worry about it. There is someone out there.

Answer 9

You are as gorgeous as you believe yourself to be and other people see in you how you feel inside.Without your wishing it, you project (non verbally) your self belief. Try and change the little voice inside that puts you down, instead, try and be kind to yourself. Why wouldn't anyone want to know you? You have as much right to be gorgeous, talented, brilliant and fabulous as the next man. YOU'RE OK - KEEP GOING x

Answer 10

Dude, stop being a wuss.

Once you pop your cherry you'll look at the world completley differently. The world will then look at you differently. Do what it takes even if you have to pay for it.

Get it over with. You need to stop being a boy and become a man.

Answer 11

hon, get some help with your depression.

And time to reprogram your brain to STOP that negative self talk.

Most of attractivness is how you present and hold yourself. You can look confident (fake it until you make it) or you can look downtrodden and glum. You have a choice.

Think about your dad, would he want you to spend the rest of your life depressed? I lost my dad too. and then I lost my son. I have time that I grieve. But, I know that both of them would want me to be joyful in this life and make the best that you can of the years that you have. left. You have the oppertunity to live the years that your dad didn't get to. Make him proud.

And get some confident in who you are.