Is it rare for your x to forget about you even if you took her virginity?

Question

I think i find it rare because usually when you take a girl's virginity and was her first boyfriend, that girl usually clings around you, even after break up, even if she hates your guts, she still is always around in your life.

Not in my case. After all the emotional and verbal abuse I done to my X in the 8 months of our relationship, she dont even call me, see me, or even talk to me that much.

I know i lost everyone's trust at my school because im a recovering "tell ppl's business" type of person. So thats probably one of the reasons why my X only calls me for services, etc. like computer help, directions, etc, and never call to say hi, hows ur day.

Its just hard to recover from the break up since she was my first love and plus we stay a building apart and go to da same college. So I can't just shake her off that easily. So for that first question, does that happen a lot, and how should i recover from the breakup, and do you think she might come back to be wit me someday?

even after that i shown a lot of change, she still dont even give me any attention at all...she even started talkin to some other dude from newyork and even went to go see him when she went with her roommate to ny for the break

she says shes not lookin for another relationship right now

and also i still care deeply for her. if this was like back home, and was like 5-10 miles away, i would of been gotten over her, but since we are like 2 minutes away...then its hard to get back wit her...

also the college i go to has a lot of linebackers (big girls, ugly girls), and all the cute girls are taken or too scared to mess with black ppl. so thats why i wanna get back wit her....i wanna show that i changed for the better of me and everyone else and i wanna make it work....

but she just tells me to go relax and find something constructive to do and forget about her like she doesnt have no overlap about the relationship...

its also very hard to talk to her...like when she talks to me, it only last for like 5 minutes, but when she talks to everyone else, the conversation lasts for hours...

do u think were are not compatible for one another?

Answer 1

She must be a strong, courageous woman to avoid you even though the emotional ties must be strong. It sounds like you didn't treat her very well and if she is younger than 25, it is really good for her emotional and mental health that she take time to recover from the abuse of this relationship, grow up a bit as an adult, and then maybe in the future, if you change perhaps she may come back to you (but for her sake I would hope she doesn't).

Relationships require self sacrifice and caring more about the other person than yourself. In future relationships you should try your best to see who your girlfriend is, encourage her, fulfill her emotional needs, etc... not just get what you need out of the relationship. Good relationships are HARD work, but they are SO worth it!

Perhaps this break up will give you time to see what areas of your personality are good and what areas still need work! :) We are all a 'work in progress'... a beautiful piece of art that isn't finished yet.

To deal with the breakup... I encourage you to spend time with friends... talk, play games, go out for coffee, etc. Develop your own hobbies and interests. Try to see your X as a friend and in time, the feelings of hurt will pass. It took me about 6 months before I was able to speak to a guy who broke my heart. That time spent away was so important for my emotional and personal development. It will be very rewarding for you also. This will give you time to evaluate what you will do differently in your next relationship. So make the most of this time of healing! :)

Answer 2

Hmm, properly i don't remember the day as quickly as I lost it the two and im a woman. maybe if it became the variety of great deal, maybe you wasn't waiting for it. Im not that botherd, reason on the time i needed it and that i felt waiting, i assume on the time i choose it became abit extra particular yet intercourse is alot extra perfect now then it became first few situations. So i've got been given over it. If he knew it became a huge deal then im not shocked your indignant, i think of i could be if i presumed it became a huge deal and that i instructed him that too. yet in simple terms by way of fact he cant remember the day does not mean it wasn't particular for him the two. Yea he's being a typical guy, i mean maybe some adult men could remember yet not extremely maximum. My boyfriend did not understand as quickly as we began going out that's substantial (aniversies ect) i could tell him the form you sense so can he remember substantial stuff for the destiny yet i wouldnt proceed to exist it becuase its interior the previous and he can attempt and be taught from his errors. yet while he retains doing it interior the destiny then its time to rigidity. wish ive helped! :)

Answer 3

How do you know what she is thinking are you a mind reader i dont think so .She will know who took her virginity but that doesnt mean she will hang around you she thinks its over and i say it is forever find someone new and get on with living have a nice day.

Answer 4

uhhhh i think i just need to quote you "After all the emotional and verbal abuse I done to my X in the 8 months of our relationship," yeah that might have something MAJOR to do with it.

Answer 5

Bummer!

Answer 6

oh come on, gt another gal. no pt reminiscing de past. she s onli as gd as when u last had sex with her. beside u poke her cherry n u r a lucky chap. find other cherries to poke

Answer 7

it is rare indeed. it looks like ur x had sex with u but was not emotionally in any way involved with u. to her sex is just sex. maybe she was obsessed with breaking her virginity and had to get someone, of which u were a victim.

Answer 8

check it out, on the real it sounds like she got someone else. a homie dont go out like a sukka 4get her go out wit her sis or her homegirl or any ol tramp keep it g dawg. chin up homie they a dime a duz. pimpit.

Answer 9

Well you abused the hell outta her so why should she be all clingy to you? She is gone buddy. She ain't coming back so you can kiss her good bye...

Answer 10

its not rare, its quite common, hard as it seems
she will remember you, but thats different.