I know this girl in two of my classes that I have
a huge crush on. She sits next to me :) I don`t know if she has a boyfriend and we`re just friends that occassionaly talk.When I talk with her, I run out of things to talk about. I`m just too shy. If I ask her to go hang out to places like the mall or the theaters and rejects the offer, it will feel wierd to see each other again or even talk. I need help on what to do or any suggestions. Thank You!
2006-10-10 20:00:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I`m afraid that I might scare her off if I ask her these types of things. I`m also not good with jokes...
2006-10-10 20:03:45 · update #1
you have to put yourself out there and each time that you do it helps overcome the shyness. I say go for it....if she rejects you as time passes it will make things less akward. But if you don't ask you might not ever get the chance to go anywhere with this except a classroom friendship/.
2006-10-10 20:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by xxsanchabonitaxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you guys have a class together and you talk. That's as good as it gets for meeting someone.
Now it's time to take it to the next level, all you need to do is continue the friendship. Test the waters, turn it up a notch; step up the talk a bit, walk her to her next class, ask her if she'd like to sync for lunch. So many opportunities to turn it up before diving right in for the kill. Here's where you have a great opportunity to gage her interest level a little more and easy recover from any low risk crashes.
Strategies? Have some things to talk about and always ask her how her weekend was. Focus less on what you're going to say and more on what she's saying, ask questions, be intrigued and be a good listener, be responsive. Girls like that stuff.
Once you build a little more confidence in her and learn about her interests a little more, it will be easy for you to go to the next level and ask her out. You find out she's into folk art, you find out where the next folk art tent sale is and invite her. This way, it's more natural, obviously you'd extend the invite since she's in to that sort of thing and so are you by the way (wink, wink).
Folk art is a lame example, but you get what i'm saying right?
Never underestimate the power of simple, friendly, conversation. You're on the right track. Keep it going.
2006-10-11 03:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by divad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ONLY thing U can do 2 find out is ask her! Don't B shy.
All she can do is tell U what U DON'T want 2 hear! Rejection
sucks, but it's a part of life! Trust me. If she's not interested
move on.......one woman's loss is another woman's treasure!
Remember that & do whatever U feel is comfortable 2 U!
U'll B fine!
Good luck & don't sweat it if U strike out!! Everybody does & if
thay tell U any different, they're lying!!
Smooches, Milkshake
2006-10-11 03:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by MILKSHAKE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the big deal with just coming out and askin her?? it's not like the world will end if she says no. you just get over it and move on. even if she does reject you you should still talk to her or she will think you are only after one thing. so just ask her.
2006-10-11 03:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about suggesting a discussion on course work, on a cup of coffee, somewhere quite and peaceful!
2006-10-11 03:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by SS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..., this is a tough one. I guess the only thing you can do now is to try to help her out with her classwork and/or homework and see what happens.
2006-10-11 03:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't go on yahoo for an answer. You should find out what she likes to do and always be yourself.
2006-10-11 03:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really like this girl then you need to just ask her out maybe she wants you to ask her you cant sit back all your life being scared of taking risk's .....good luck
2006-10-11 03:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by dogfaceboy626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u are being too fast for her.First, break her shyness by finding out something that really tickles her fancy or interest and relate to her with it.
2006-10-11 03:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by joddie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋