Girls over 21 tell me EVERYTHING you look for in a man?

Question

Personality wise mainly ..... I mean you tend to whinge about everything. Too boring, too immature, too inseisitive, TOO sensitive, too clingy, commitmentphobe ..... it's difficult to understand you. Please, I will give a good dix points to the top answer on this, but explain in some detail EXACTLY what makes the perfect man

Answer 1

I'd have to say that in a good man, we are looking for a man that has the right balance of. . .
-humor without being rude or picking on too much
-maturity, but able to be silly or childlike when it is appropriate
-boring? well, I think we all feel life can be boring, we kind of expect the men to liven things up a bit, and also be able to do nothing and enjoy it...Confusing, I know, but that is true. Because if your happing doing nothing, you can get lost in being happy, no harm in that.
-clingy? I like clingy, but not in the obsessive sense, in a "i pick you first" sort of way.
-Freedom? But think of the girl...I like to be able to do what I want, as men do. Think about if she's sitting at home doing nothing when you go out. Plan to be doing other things on the same day so this conflict doesn't happen. And make specific plans to actually spend time together...This little thing makes a woman feel wanted and special.
-Ahh. Commitment...Well, 5 years, and no engagment here...It would be nice to have boundries. To know where you stand. Be honest about this for sure. Not to push for marriage, but atleast to commit and know that is doesn't matter, you're together. Men don't get this though. To do this, you either need to push away or pull together.
-Main life altering point?!! Well, in this sense, pull together to feel like a team player. A relationship is like being a team player, if you're not doing your part to make it work, well then, maybe there are better players to have on your team.
-Like at work, as with relationships, you want to be the one who goes over and above what is expected to make sure that you get the respect of the bosses , or your partner. Respect becomes questionable in a relationship when you don't feel the man is doing this.
-Appreciate your woman.Not just when you're argueing, saying yes I do appreciate you. Be specific, and say thank you I'm glad you did (THIS) for me, this makes me happy...etc.
-Yes, women do feel happy in making the man happy, and vise versa, isn't this true?It's a win-win situation when you are really trying to make eachother happy.
-COMPLIMENTS are very important, as a woman, when i feel that i have to fish for compliments, its exhausting. I want a man to tell me this over and over and over and over...lol but true! In life, we all have to repeat ourselves to get the point across. Shouldn't this be true in this sense.

Well, I am going on and on, but hope this helps make some woman very happy with you!!!

Answer 2

no matter what stage a relationship is in you are 'settling down' she wants to date other guys but keep you on the back burner and as plan b. if she didnt want to settle down why does she have a boyfriend and not one night stands... an indication will be how long does she stay with this new guy? women always keep lingerers on the side incase they need some sort of help or rescuing. you sound like an amazing guy, dont let this chick use u. i know you love her but this will fade. be greatful you had the experience, im sure it has made you a better person, but by hanging onto old feelings you are more likely to be hurt again and again. she knows she can get ur attention on a whim now, shes done it before and she knows now she can do this so is likey to hold onto the idea that you are a reliable man she can call when she needs help. if you want to settle down then u need to find someone else. im sorry i was a young carer myself and it gets to a point when you someone is taking you for a ride.

Answer 3

hey i am 25, and luckily i already have my perfect guy

the 'perfect man' can be quite a different one for every girl

for me, my man has got to be sensitive, understanding, caring, loving and gentle - all these qualities not only so that he treats me nicely but also our future children. yes, I want to able to see that my man will one day be a good father, and imbibe his qualities and talents and manners in my children.

he has got to have a sense of humour, so when life's not really on the up, he can lighten things up a bit and has the ability to laugh at the problems and reduce my stress rather than increase it.

he must not have an inflated male ego - so that me and him can be 'equals' in the relationship rather than superior-inferior. he should listen to my opinions - even if he doesnt agree with them, so we can always talk openly without any worries of what the other will think.

he must be appreciative and have an eye for detail - i dont want to come home to a man who doesnt notice i've got a new top on ! yes you guys - we shop and dress and put make up for you lot ! and if you dont even notice it, its kind of boring

i am not expecting him to be brad pitt, but he must pay attention to himself, you know dress up a bit, put an effort in looking smart, keep clean and trim, so when me and him walk into a party together, we both look good.

and he has got to be faithful and love me like he loves no one else ! and he will get the same in return :)

well that more or less sums up - dont ask much do we ?

Answer 4

I can answer this because I have the perfect man!! My fiancee is sensitive but not to the point he's a wimp. He is completely open and honest with me. It wonderful because he's my bestfriend in the world. When I have a bad day at work, I come home, he knows just by looking at me that i've had a bad day. The man will rub my feet and cook dinner. (he's worked all day too mind you). We don't have any trust issues. He's funny. We can be laying in bed together and he'll just bring up one of those "inside jokes" and we'll start laughing. My parents love him and his love me. We go out and hang out together. We study together, we go to church together. Although we do a lot together, we know when to give each other space when it's time too. I get lunch dates at work, flowers, walks on the beach, "just because" cards. I think his best quality is that he pay attention to the little things. Things that usually only matter to women and not to men. Like he can tell you what I was wearing the day we met, I can send him to any restaurant to get dinner and he won't need to ask me what I want, he'll already know. He's really perfect. If a man can be your man as well as your bestfriend, listen, pay attention, learn his woman, be sensitive to her feelings but not cry during the lion king, know how to make you laugh, know when to act goofy and know when it's time to be serious, want to give his woman quality time but not try and suffocate her, get along with her friends and family and be romantic, He's the one!!!

Answer 5

I like a man who is kind, but not too gushy, funny but not too slap stick, has good values but doesn't preach, strong but can show vulnerability, masculine but in touch with their feminine side, enjoy sport but not all the time, like a drink but know when to stop, and basically someone who genuinely likes women. I don't think there is such a thing as a perfect man or a perfect woman but I think the fact that you are trying to find out what we like is a big turn on, as a lot of men wouldn't give a dam what women thought about them,

Answer 6

I would have to say:

I love a guy who has a great smile.
warm eyes (because your eyes are the windows to your soul)
Great Teeth - nothing worse than bad teeth and stinky breathe.
I like him to smell fresh and clean and not like he just got out of bed. (no throwing aftershave on cause your too lazy to shower, that's nasty)
Smart, funny, charming! Not arrogant
A man who looks at me when i talk to him, understands and is compassionate.
Who is not selfish, and thinks of the other person!
Some one who is in tune with his fem side. But not in the gayish sense.
A guy who is independent but knows when u need him.
A gentleman, and i guy who loves to be active.

I'm not into men who watch footy all day and drink beer. Hang with their mates 24/7 and come see u when they feel the urge.. < BIG BIG NO NO.
You must have your own interests - that does not include beer and footy.. lol

ONe more.. thing.. I guy who answers my questions and does not aviode them.

Someone i can talk too. I want you to be my best friend too

Be honest, but not so its hurtful

Hope this helps

Answer 7

Hello !

Great question... Thot inducing anyways :)

I dont think there is any thing such as a perfect Man or Woman... it kinda depends on how people are themselves !

And even THAT is not true sometimes... n I shud know ! I I am crazily in love with this guy who is my complete opposite !

I think ATTRACTION just plays a major part in who you end up liking, or being with... and attraction is NEVER a choice :)

Just for descriptions tho... someone who CARES but isnt possessive, someone who commits but knows when to let go, someone who respects women but also knows when to be assertive, someone who knows when to hear and when to speak... and someone who doesnt need to be told what to do (cant elaborate on this !!)
Hope that helps!

Answer 8

A man must:-
1. make me laugh, be fun to be around
2. be intelligent
3. be kind
4. be sincere
5. not be arrogant
6. be gentle
7. be able to commit, and be faithful.
A list of pre-requisites for a serious relationship. If its only for a bit of fun its a different story!!!

Answer 9

It's not about making a list or something you can put on paper exactly - its about finding someone with whom you have so much in common, who understands, respects and loves you - someone can make you laugh, who can hold your interest/attention, with whom you can converse on the same level, can share your interests with but not to the exclusion of everyone else. If you dont have anything in common in the first place a relationship will always be doomed to fail.

Basically, they should be your best friend and you should want to wake up next to him, every day, for forever and never be bored.

Answer 10

OK perfect man personality wise would be:

Sympathic - actually feel sorry for us when need be and buy us chocolates and give us control of the telly!
Funny - can make us laugh but recognise when hes pissing us off and stop it there
Considerate - have a bit of cop on! Stop putting yourselves first and have a bit of consideration for the ladies!!! Like when theres a big football match on - instead of organising a piss up down the pub with the lads with no concern for your lady you SHOULD be thinking - hmmm Id better ring herself and see if she'd mind me leaving her on her own for evening!!!! (ok Im being ambitious here!!!)
Clingy - show us you love us but dont smother us!!! Give us space and dont freak out if you see us talking to another guy!!
Moodiness - when you're in a strop feck off for a few hours and dont take it out on us!
Gratitude - when we do something nice for ye - say thank you and show us ye appreciate it!! A muttered "ta" whilst walking out the door is NOT sufficient enough!!!!
Patience - if you're going to come shopping with us - EXPECT to be stood on your feet for hours and dont be whinging and cribbing!!! We're women - its what we do!!! If you cant shut up and stop moaning - dont come!!! Simple as!!

Well babes - theres just a few examples that I would consider to make quite a fine catch - personality wise -! hope they help! xx