...and you personally found their requests to be morally wrong, would you go through with what they wanted anyway, after they've passed on. Or would you find an alternative with which you were more comfortable?
2006-10-10 19:26:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You don't say what it is that you find to be morally wrong with the persons last wishes. So if the question is hypothetical then the answer would probably have to be that you should come as near humanly possible to carrying out their last wishes as you can. My mom just recently passed away and we carried out all her last wishes accept for one. She had asked to have her service in the chapel of the funeral home where her body was. After seeing the volume of people who came to pay their respects my family and I decided to have her service in the church. It was the only logical thing to do as there were 300 or so people in attendence. We would have been unable to fit that group in the chapel at the funeral home. She was a very humble, unassuming person that is why she wanted to have the service in the chapel. As silly as it sounds, we struggled with changing her plans, but in the long run we have come to feel like it was the best decision. So with that in mind I would say that it is very important to carry out the last wishes of a loved one as closely as you can. It is after all their life that is being remembered.
2006-10-11 00:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by Only hell mama ever raised 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He turned to me, and Cap, says he, I'll cash in this trip, I guess;
And if I do, I'm asking that you won't refuse my last request.
Well he seemed so low that I couldn't say no; then he says with a sort of moan:
It's the cursed cold, and it's got right hold till I'm chilled clean through to the bone.
Yet taint being dead, it's my awful dread of the icy grave that pains;
So I want you to swear that, foul or fair, you'll cremate my last remains.
A pal's last need is a thing to heed, so I swore I would not fail; From The Cremation Of Sam McGee. And there sat Sam, looking cool and calm, in the heart of the furnace roar;
And he wore a smile you could see a mile, and he said; Please close that door.
It's fine in here, but I greatly fear you'll let in the cold and storm. Since I left Plumtree down in Tennessee, it's the first time I've been warm.
2006-10-11 03:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd find an alternative. But I'm pretty liberal minded, if they wanted to go to a singles club and find a lady to come home with while I picked up the tab, I could live with that. If they had a list of enemies and wanted to pay everyone a visit, I'd intervene there.
2006-10-11 06:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Morally wrong in what way? You should've elaborated a little. But I'm big on the "who does it help/hurt" question. If their last wish hurts no one (physically, mentally,or emotionally) but is morally wrong in your eyes... then whats really wrong with it? If there's a way to carry out the wish in a way that feels more comfortable to you then so be it... at least you tried.
2006-10-11 02:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's their body, it really should be their decision. However, if you've been put in this position, and they're still alive, I'd suggest telling them of your discomfort. if it's too late for that- I'd suggest passing the task on to someone else. You shouldn't have to compromise your beliefs- but it is not right to go against someone's wishes in a matter of such importance.
2006-10-11 03:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by kivrin9 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were to carry out the last wishes as far as health care decisions, I feel like the person who has to suffer is the one who has a right to their health care decisions. As far as withdrawal of care or not taking extraordinary measures, that is also their decision. If after they passed on, I would try to carry out their wishes on burial and division of property.
2006-10-11 02:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by Godb4me 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do anything illegal. But the dying person would know that, and they wouldn't put me in charge of it, anyway. Now, if it's not illegal, and it was this person's last wish, I would definitely do it, making it clear to who it may correspond, what the reasons are for me to do it.
2006-10-11 02:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be true to your beliefs & yourself.
Me personally, if the person was alive when they asked me to do something I disagreed with I would tell them no. If they have already passed & it was in their will, I would find another way of handeling the situation.
2006-10-11 05:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly what a great question!
I would honour thier last wishes, even if I was morally against it. If they trusted you to do what they wanted, then you cannot betray that trust.
Good luck.!
2006-10-11 02:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by stevebrit2004 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would not agree to handle the affairs if I found them distasteful. I believe someones wishes should be honored.
2006-10-11 02:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋