I met someone on-line, and we have grown to like each very much. However, in the past he has been brutalized by his parents and family for having a long-distance relationship becase they think that its not a good way to develop a real relationship. And they really wouldn't like the fact that he has met a young lady on the internet, because they've heard bad stories of meeting people off the internet. So this keeps him from telling his parents about me for fear of disapproval from his family, and he really really loves his family and cares about what they think, so i understand that. But i feel like im being suckered because this means i can't really visit him, and his family will want to know who i am, and then he'll have to say how we met and then everything will go crazy, like me. So Please, i need someones opinions/answers, somethin to get me through this.
2006-10-10 19:05:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
before jumping to any conclusions, why not meet his family first? then, see what happens. if it's such a big deal, then tell him not to tell his parents. if you want to meet, go to a hotel somewhere instead of staying at his place. i don't really know what happen to him in the past, but this is the present and the past should stay in the past. anyways, i met my boyfriend online and we've been together for the last 4 years and 3 months now. i've met all of his family members and they love me, unfortunately, he's only met one of my sisters in which my sister adores him. i'm not ready for him to meet the rest of my family just because he's still going to uni. and he's way younger than i am. once he graduates from school which he will in spring 2008, then i'll have him meet the rest of my family. also, he's 1,000 miles away from me but we do trust each other completely and we're pretty sure we're going to spend the rest of our lives together. so, you guys might want to try something similar to our situation if at all possible.
2006-10-10 19:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got two strikes against this relationship going anywhere. First, it's at a distance, and second, it's on the Internet. My advice is to use the Internet for research and email and use real life for relationships. And, he doesn't tell his parents about you, and he cares what his family thinks about this being an inappropriate relationship? Oops, I think I just heard the umpire yell, "Strike Three".
2006-10-10 19:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this might not be the best advice your gonna get, but how about just telling his parents that u guys didnt meet online, that u actually knew each other in real life. Plus is he loves you, why should it matter what his family thinks, but you did mention that he cares about them but that doesnt mean he should end the relationship just because his parents dont approve it....Ex: Romeo & Juliet ♥
Hope I helped & Good Luck to both of you =)
2006-10-10 19:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by ms_ricanluv88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing about on line relationships, you never know how old they are nor what they look like!
Those stories are more often true than not!
Long distant relationships seldom work out even when they are on the up and up! Then when you put that in the mix like you have, OUCH! at best!
Only you can decide what you should do of course!
2006-10-10 19:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how far apart you live. my partner and i lived in different states. we dated for 5 years and then got married. 9th anniversary this year. long distance relationships builds trust between the two people. the way to meet his parents is one of you go on a holiday to where the other person lives and "just happen to meet". that way he can tell his parents that he met you at the pub or where ever you choose
2006-10-10 19:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by andoice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's been brutalized by his parents and family for having a long-distance relationship? What did they do beat him to a bloody pulp with a hammer? I don't think you have a clue what brutalized means. Try picking up a dictionary once in a while.
2006-10-10 19:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the two of you are still young and you will have problems trying to sustain a long distance relationship. If there are problems now, you're really looking for trouble down the road. Best to calm this friendship down and look for a local love.
2006-10-10 19:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-19 04:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, okay first of all these things never work. Okay youre talking about a guy who hasnt seen you, the family hasnt seen you....got its just so weird. Sorry but these cases make me wanna fall asleep...please just date someone real who lives close to you. Stop making things more complex.
:) Peace.
2006-10-10 19:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know 3 couples who met online and they have a better relationship than me! hahahha tell him if he cares he would share
if he is ashamed of you then leave... you cant be with someone who hides you and thinks that what you have is shamefull or wrong
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2006-10-10 19:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by areyoureadyb? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋