ok me and my ex have been apart for about 7 mouths and i still think of her a lot. i have done just about everything i can think of to show her that i still care for her and that i want to work things out but she keeps telling me that there will never be me and her agian. but the thing i hate is every few weeks she will talk to me and it kills me b/c it make me think about her agian and what not . so what im asking is am i in love and will i ever get her back and if there is a way tell me how?
2006-10-10 18:32:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it was love, you wouldn't have to ask this question. Infatuation perhaps. If you truly loved the woman you would respect her feelings and let her have her space. Be her friend, but don't allow yourself to be a doormat either.
2006-10-10 19:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by Carole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mention that you are apart for 7 months but don't say that the two of you are filing for divorce. Sometimes couples separate to give themselves a break, to think things out, and then reassess their relationship. However, it sounds like she has made up her mind and doesn't want you back. If this is true, you need to let her go, and move on with your own life. Don't cling to her with all these thoughts of how great it will be if she only gives you a second chance. My guess is, you passed 'second chance' years ago. If you the two of you are meant to be together, you'll find each other. And if not, separating is the right choice.
2006-10-11 01:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should back off a little and then try calling. If she sounds like she's happy you called then maybe she would be willing to start fresh. Otherwise, she may be placating you to avoid feelings of guilt for not wanting to continue loving you. Don't be afraid to confront the hurt you'll feel knowing it's over. People often find that they care for people even after they're gone. That's normal with all broken relationships. It's just that some relationships are not gonna happen again, and that's just the way it is.
2006-10-11 01:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by DanaZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now is the time to move on....She loves having that control over you especially since it is not a socially acceptable hold. I know I was the same way. If it is ment to be then you have to stop the cycle right now. No girl wants a drooling fool. Sorry :( but it is true.
If she is really in love with you she will respect your decision and maybe mature enough to handle you two as a couple
2006-10-11 01:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a simple clue. Just date her best friend and treat her real well, then when she finds out, she will want you back, then date all the rest of her hot friends and really make her made for you.
She will beg you to come back to her, by that time, you will not want her back, because you will have found another girl who is better at everything she was not, mabe something that she would not do, the other girl will and does everything 10 times better.
2006-10-11 01:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yikes. thats tough....i know this must be tormenting you, but if she has already told u there wont be another chance then i think you should just try to find a better girl. trust me, there are tons of other girls out there. but if u honestly feel like u are in love, and u would rather be with this girl than any other girl in the world, dont give up. do spontaneous and fun things...keep her excited, and try to romance her a little. if you're getting the "friend" vibe, change what you're doing. sorry, i know this is extremely difficult for you. best of luck.
2006-10-11 01:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by ryan 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give yourself some space for now. Let yourself grow a little without her. Don't think about her, don't try to contact her. Let yourself find new people and explore new things. Then put a note on your calendar for 6 months from now. When you see it then, re-evaluate your feelings.
Love ya William!! ;)
2006-10-11 01:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in a dilema sumwhat like that...ppl tell me he doesnt mean it when he says he loves me but i think he does...what i am trying to say is maybe she does still love you and the reason she says there wont be u and her again is cause she feels that she is hurting you and she doesnt wanna and so the only way to prevent that is not be with you.....trust me i feel that way alot and then i tell the guy i dont wanna talk to them or see them so that i dont have to feel the guilt of hurting him or letting him down
2006-10-11 01:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by love_lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do some dating for now and see if your feelings change after some time. but believe me once you are over her and with someone else shell want you back. girls always want what they cant have. and she knows you'll take her back when ever she wants
2006-10-11 01:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Alicia W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes proboly playing hard to get and still likes you,it kindof depends 2...how did you brake you?i think its not reall love its just the stuff your brains telling you not your hart.
2006-10-11 01:39:19 · answer #10 · answered by hannah1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋