My ex-fiance broke up last year but we continued to date each other on and off. We broke up for many reasons but the short version is that we got engaged too soon and other issues came up that I wasn't ready for. I love this man a lot and more and more each day. He's told me that he thinks about marrying me and every now and then talks about it. Example: He'll say, when we get married...... or if we get married.........
Question: Is it a possibility it could happen? How long should i stay in the relationship if he doesn't propose again?
We have a 13 year age difference (i'm younger) should I really put a time limit on when i have to be engaged by?
2006-10-10 18:23:42 · 10 answers · asked by m_harvery 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i would like to add that
i was the one that called it off originally and please add reasons to support your answers.
Thanks for everyone's feedback
2006-10-10 19:07:43 · update #1
I was engaged to my husband and then we called it off the first time he felt we were moving to quickly. We ended badly at first but then worked it out and pursued 9 months of dating on and off and a lond distance relationship (2000 miles) when he got stationed in san diego. I didn't give up for 9 kept at it, and then said i was done of the games and maybe we should just quit it, he called me crying and told he was sorry he needed me in his life and he was just scared but now he realizes it is scarier not to have me in his life. So i said you should just marry me and i'll move to San Diego. Next week I will be married for a year, and i tell you it was worth every minute of 9 months of exhaustion. I feel for you because that in between place is the worse place to be do i mention it, dont i? It is crazy and it hurts. If you love him tell him you want to marry him, cut out the middle man. If you take a stance though and he still doesn't want you or to commit he is not worth it. Don't be afraid especially if you know he loves you. If you want a traditional proposal it is ok to tell him how you feel and that you want to marry him, that may be what he needs to act. He may be unsure if your still willing after the first engagement didn't work. In some way reasure him. The age difference will work if you are on love with eachother my husbands parents have been married for 22 years and there is an 11 year gap between them (she is younger). Good luck and i hope i was some help. P.S. Don't forget to enjoy it when it comes!!!
2006-10-10 19:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by Margaret g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly assume there's a good chance, if the relationship is getting stronger. Try to enjoy each moment you have with each other and maybe try living together before rushing into engagement again. I wouldn't put a time limit on it, instead, I would talk to him about it and see what his plans are for the future. I really hope things work out for you, God bless!
2006-10-10 18:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by feathereafter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There shouldn't be a question of time when it comes to loving someone. He is taking his time (as you both should) due to the fact you broke it off once already & wants to make sure you both really are right for each other. It sounds like he is thinking about it otherwise he wouldn't mention it. You weren't ready before, so it sounds to me like he is taking time to make sure you will be now. Sounds like a very mature way of looking out for your future.
2006-10-10 18:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious about getting married then just go ahead and ask him yourself. Don't wait for him to propose because you are a woman of the millenium now and you don't have to wait around for him. If he runs away then you'll know that he's not serious but if you want to get married, then do so!
2006-10-10 19:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me the biggest problem is the age difference, which can hinder and colour everything else. You need to find someone of your generation to be with.
2006-10-11 02:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the on and off thing usually doesn;t work out. girl just move along
2006-10-10 18:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by ShellyBelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is by all means normal, then as long as there is love, respect and mutrual feelings, anything is possible.
but if he is one of those weirdoes, abnormal man, then , well, hard to say. ..
2006-10-10 18:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless of the circumstances, it is unlikely that if you have broken it off that you will ever marry.
2006-10-10 18:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by new yorkr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young enough....move along.
2006-10-10 18:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by 5150 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no move on
2006-10-10 18:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋