The guy im dating and only been dating for about a year just told me he is getting restationed to across the country come january. And he has known about this since before we started dating. At first he told me that i should come with him and now its a different story he says i cant come with him. I really dont see the point to this relationship except the convience for sex. I want another opinion though? I find this as a relationship with an expiration date. Does anyone else agree with me on that?
2006-10-10 18:16:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree. There is no point. If he doesn't want you to be with him in the future it makes no sense for you to be with him now. The sooner you both admit it's over, the sooner you can get on with your life.
2006-10-10 18:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to me it seems like you are unhappy with thats going on as of late, and if you drag it out too long your time and effort in making the whole relationship work is wasted so I say if you are unhappy with anything, talk to your partner about it and if you still can't find an answer then by all means leave... why waste your youth and time on someone who don't think highly of you. I'm sure you, yourself knows that you deserve whats best for you and honestly hearing about what you wrote, you are extremely unhappy. It will be hard at first but in time, everything has a place and time and everything will come together once again :)
2006-10-11 01:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by jason w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There would be no reason that you could not come with him...except that he does not want you there. I would say that he is taking advantage and it is time to get rid of him....Don't call him, don't tell him you are leaving him. To be honest he probably does not care. It seems as though he does not even deserve the courtesy of knowing what is going on. A year is way to long to waste on this guy and so would a minute more. Go and have some fun and do not be one of those girls who is always there for the wrong guy who will never care about her.
2006-10-11 01:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you girl. I was in the same situation. He wanted us to be together forever up until the week before he left. I found out later it was just because he had been talking to a girl over there and had made similar plans with her. I think it is only about sex now and he has no intentions of furthering your relationship. My passed experiences have shown me if i sense that something isnt right then more than likely its not. You need to save yourself any more heartache and get out now. Let him go find some other girl to be his flunky until he leaves. You can do so much better then him anywayz.
2006-10-11 01:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by Danetrian M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an expiration date to me....that's not really a bad thing. He's not the one for you or you wouldn't be asking this question, so you'd probably have ended in a messy break up anyway. This way you avoid the drama, you know what's coming, so enjoy the time left. And who said convenience sex is a bad thing?
2006-10-11 01:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by amj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should of been Real from the start, but he wasn't so how can you believe anything else he has to say, just leave him no matter how you feel for him, just move on Sweety , and don't look back, or if you continue you will only be hurting yourself. He was real and that is all you need to know, you shouldn't have to ask him anything anymore.
2006-10-11 01:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship like that. I don't think this will be a lasting relationship. Mine was strictly about the convenience of sex as well. And as much as I wanted to believe otherwise, it wasn't changing and his actions began speaking louder than his words.
I would not advise you to stay in it, it's not worth it. Why would you want to stay in a relationship (long-distance or not) if you knew that it was because sex was convenient, or in your words...you were being used?
I'd hate to see you get hurt in this matter because of some guy who can't work out his issues.
2006-10-11 01:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by zrose86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for you, or not. Don't let this bring you down. Keep your chin up, and move on. Who want's to move across the country before they realize that there isn't a future. Sounds to me like you have a good head on your shoulders. Good Luck!
2006-10-11 01:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girrl! yes he is definitly using you. Never go with someone if their not going to marry you first. Give him a last sex goodbye! Start looking for someone who wants to be with you mentally and physically. Good luck!
2006-10-11 01:25:13 · answer #9 · answered by Wm.Dauhgter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems he doesnt know wat he wants to do with his life?u didnt mentioned his age if he's around 20-25 then i'd say he's looking for excuses (baseless) to go away frm u.who knws cud b he wont be out of town,its jst an excuse to move.Stop having sex and see hw he reacts if he gets mad then u'll no he was using u.i think u hav to giv him space let him decide wat he wants to do with his life.it'l be useless to force him in a relationship wher he doesnt feel at ease.Be strong dr these are ups and downs and all round the world pple are enduring things like dat.so prepare urself
2006-10-11 01:22:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋