what can i do if i mess up my words because I'm afraid of what other will think of me?

Question

Lately, I've been feeling really insecure with myself. I have a hard time talking to people because I always mess up my words and that has led me to close off to many of my friends. I'm just too afraid of other's judgements and their opinons about me that it consumes my mind whenever I talk. I'm scared of people not listening or interrupting me to the point that it's unreasonable and my thoughts become a big jumble. What can I do? I feel so hopeless and I hate myself for being this way =( I don't have anyone to talk to about this so please any advice is gladly taken!

Answer 1

How is there any good reason at all for worrying about what people think of you? No matter who it is? The only thing you need to worry about is how you think about yourself.

Be yourself, don't worry man. If they can't like you for who you REALLY are, they don't deserve to be around you.

Answer 2

Anyone who judges you over so minor a thing is not your friend, and their opinions don't count. I do not know how old you are or if a boy or girl. Taking the chance a few times will let you know who your friends, and there will be friends. Talking with your parents, or a friend's parents, may help. If you are just entering middle school, high school, or going through some other change in your life, the feelings you describe are normal; most of the people your age feel the same way. The main thing is, talk about it with someone and each time you will overcome some of that fear

And when I stumble over my tongue, I make a joke about it, like, Looks like I need a new tongue or maybe a new brain? Humor will relax the situation for everyone. A person who can laugh at themselves without putting down other people are the most appreciated.

Answer 3

Every one has good qualities within them.. you need to search and find yours..Whether it involves being quiet or gregarious, be what you are and do it well.. other people will think what they will no matter what you do or say.. Just get it said and let the chips fall where they may...Your good qualities may even make them jealous.... as you will be much more sure of yourself and they still are not there yet. Most of the more outgoing people are that way, to cover up their insecurities... think!!! Everyone does not cover up their insecurities in the same way. If you look closely, you will see people happy on the outside but, crying on the inside. Is a common phenomena. You may be helping someone else, just by helping yourself.!!

Answer 4

Well, first of all, you need to relax. The more you worry about it, the worse it will affect you in that situation. Secondly, start thinking about all the positives about yourself, focus on those. What you focus on grows - and that goes for positive or negative. Thirdly, say what you will and do what you want, because those who mind, don't matter, and those who matter, don't mind. To help you in the beginning stages of your self-help journey, perhaps you could write things down that you want to say to someone, and then practice by reading it out loud when your alone. That may boost your confidence in the beginning when you need it most. The more you practice, the more confident you will become, and sooner than you know it, you will be the confident, happy person that you want to be. Remember that your life and yourself is your choice. You can be who you want to be. Just think like that person, and you will be that person. Good luck and take care!

Answer 5

like new found glory often says "its not ur falult so pleas stop your crying now" you cant always live in fear or you will die of lonlyness. what you need to do is to go get the person you feel closest too and practice talking. make sure you take deep breaths every once and a while. that means all 2 steps: inhale and exhale. try to ease the tention, tell jokes, talk about embarassing moments.

most importanly THINK POSITIVE
hating yourself, feeling hopeless, fear; they just makes it worse

and last and mostly is to smile.

Answer 6

you should be yourself. If others are making you nervous talk slower and think about what you are going to say. If they are your friends then they won't make fun of you but love you as you are. You sound like a very nice and smart person don't sell your self short. If someone keeps interupting you they are just rude and want to make themselves feel important. You just relax you are just fine. Don't take yourself so seriously. there is only a few times when what we say is so important...fire..and i just farted!!!!! relax..i made you laugh huh?

Answer 7

dude you gotta wake up and get out of that state of mind, you just cant care, we are all once or now in your situation. Find ways to get over it and take it day by day. I know man im the same way, i always make up excuses when my friends are like "why arent you talking" im like, "yeah im tired". IM me on yahoo well talk more.

Answer 8

It sounds as though you have an anxiety disorder-many people do. Ask your doctor for medication to clear out the 'static' in your head. Good luck and DON'T hate yourself!

Answer 9

initially i was going to reply Stop caring what others think but after reading the rest of your question it is clear to me you suffer from some form of anxiety disorder. anxiety disorders are very real and very treatable.you probably have social anxiety. see a doctor and tell him all your symptoms honestly.you will be glad you did when you get to feel normal!

Answer 10

i agree with areyouready, take your time, think about what you want to say, and how to get it across. try this, sitting at home alone, think about you would say if you are hanging out and someone asks you your opinion of something, or any question that might come up really, politics, career goals, anything. think about your answer ahead of time, and eventually you may not have to do that anymore.