i have been with my girlfriend for about a year, but before we were together for a few months, after wich we broke up and one of my friends went for her. now we are back together, he and i are not friends, but she and him are really good friends. he keeps making subtle moves on her, trying to grab her and such. i really dont like the two of them hanging out together, and they both know that. i know he still has feelings, but she refuses to believe it. they dont hang out as much anymore, but it seems almost every conversation we have, she brings him up somehow. i know she loves me, and that she wouldnt ever do anything with him, but i am still scared that he will make more and more moves on her until he gets what he wants. what should i do?
2006-10-10 17:52:41 · 8 answers · asked by cah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't tell her that he still has feelings for her. You are working against yourself by telling her that. It sounds as if he just wants to have sex with her, which doesn't have to mean he has feelings for her. When you tell her that he still has feelings for her, than she thinks he may like her for more than sex and makes him more appealing.
Another thing, she probably likes the attention he gives her. Otherwise, why would she be around a person that will not respect her boundaries (by trying to grab her). If you don't know why, than ask her.
I don't think it sounds like your style to kick ***, so I wouldn't recommend it. If you see him grab her though, you have to step up.
2006-10-10 18:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know nothing would happen between them....it allready has! They were together. Tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable when she talks about him all the time and you need to find out if she is really over him. Sounds to me like she has not moved on. Why did the two of you break up in the first place? Why did they break up? You need to do more investigating. If you are having doubs about the relationship there is a reason.
2006-10-11 00:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by twysty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loved you, she wouldn't hang out with him. Tell her this and if she gets mad and refuses, break up with her. If she loves you, she will drop him and go back to you. If she doesn't, move on. Do you really want to be in a relationship where you are constantly worrying about another guy moving in on your girl? Belive me all of the aggrivation isn't worth it. She obviously has no respect for your relationship
2006-10-11 01:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by kristina n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of her. if she doesn't have enough respect for you and your feelings....than kick her to the curb...like your soo called friend. it takes two to tangle...and three is just too damn crowded. i can see why its hard for you to trust the issue...but i wouldn't keep my ex around my new man. it's just too awkward. even though i'm friends with them...i don't hang out with them...and they don't grab on me in front of my man. she should know better...you should know better...truth hurts...but you only have in your life...what you allow in your life...stop and think...is it worth all this wondering-pondering. just end it while you can...unless she makes an effort of relieving your trust issues. than maybe. obviously shes not willing. sooo you have to be the one to say enough is enough.
2006-10-11 01:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by babymama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you be very clear and tell her that because they once dated you wish for her to stop hanging with him ,and then you need to tell him to back off .you are smart you know what he is up to .tell them both .you are not wrong in feeling uncomfortable with it .
2006-10-11 00:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know how u feel n listen to what she has to say to ur answer. its hard to let someone go, and that guy is taking it a little far...haha. anyways, just talk to ur girlfriend and tell her how u feel about that guy
2006-10-11 00:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by angie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
like angel
if he continues to do this punch him out
2006-10-11 01:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by fragle2c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEAT HIS ***...
2006-10-11 00:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by Kamikaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋