But it is hard for me to belieave since I have body dysmorphic disorder and social anxiety disorder and can't really see why am attractive but this girl is like a model and am scared to look at since I think it may remind her of how hideous I am and how she could do alot better. But in reality I want her and I think she finds me attractive but just seems like she could do better and stuff and well it just gets so confuseing inbetween all of this that I can't really type it all. But can how I overcome this?
2006-10-10 17:22:28 · 13 answers · asked by a guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
True love is blind... or one would hope.
2006-10-10 17:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by futurefbiguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, please don't sell yourself short! I have muscular dystrophy, am diabetic and hearing impaired. As a guy, I have had the same feelings as you. This woman looks beyond the visual to see into the content of your character. She could be the gateway to a restoration of your confidence and self-worth. Being disabled, I am unable to see you as hideous. I will grant you this, that it is hard to know how non-disabled individuals will react to those people with disabilities. Some have enormous hearts and other run away in fear displaying a lack of compassion and depth. When you look at this woman again, think of how she looks to you and smile.
2006-10-10 17:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell how old you are for an accurate answer. My thoughts are that you're a teen and this girl probably sees more in you than you see in yourself. Just be who you are and take things one small step at a time. Find the confidence that you are great, and OF COURSE beautiful girls are attracted to you! You're a HOT SEXY LOVE MUFFIN OF A MAN!
2006-10-10 17:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like she is a person who cares more about the person than all the superficial crap out there. She has a crush on you because you are a wonderful person and she sees you, not an image but you. I know that with BDD it is very hard to see yourself as others see you. If you like this person and trust her, have faith in her that she sees you beautiful as you are regardless of what you think of yourself, and that you are allowed to be liked and enjoy it. You deserve hapiness.
2006-10-10 17:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by amj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you a nice guy? Honestly. Because kindness is a quality that real (not fake) people will notice. And possibly be attracted to. Is she happy when she is with you? If she is, then don't worry, and keep doing what you're doing. Good luck.
2006-10-10 17:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same kinda fears when i first got naked with my fiancee. i have acne scar on my back. anyway what im trying to get at is that what seems like a big deal to you is normally just something trivial to others she probably doesnt even notice. its only a problem if you make it a problem. have confidence in yourslef dude and she wont even notice. go for it!
2006-10-10 17:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What gives one man more of a right to have a beautiful girl than another?!
That "out of my league" crap is baloney. Those who never dare, never discover!
2006-10-10 17:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are so aware of your "disorders" then certainly finish the chapter and fix yourself. You don't get to use it as an excuse the rest of your life.
2006-10-10 17:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. She might see something in you that she loves that is more important to her than looks.
2006-10-10 17:32:35 · answer #9 · answered by dogooder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u seem really interested in her and maybe she is looking past what everyone else is seeing on the outside and is attracted to your personality. maybe you should just become closer in touch with her and see where it takes you!!!
2006-10-10 17:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by allstar_female 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out her true feelings, if she has a thing for you then go for it. It would prove that while many girls are shallow not all are.
2006-10-10 17:24:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋