i have 3 children aged 12, 8 and 3. they are all children of 3 different doctors i worked with (i am a nurse). i am married to a great man, he is a mechanic. He thinks all three children are his. I just always acted like they were his, and he has been a great father. I just wanted children from physicians, because i want smart, successful "genes". all my children function way higher than other children there age. They are all at the top of their classes and are really going to be successful, just like their doctor daddies. I am very glad I had the affairs and got pregnant by these doctors. my question is that should i finally let my husband know? my mother is pushing me to tell him, because she just found out about all this from my co-worker (long story).. My mom wants me to tell him. Should I? Do you think he will understand?
2006-10-10 17:22:00 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You are disgusting.
What happened to helping your children learn? Why do you assume that a doctor can pass "smart" genes to his children?
I hope he kicks your skank *** to the curb..
2006-10-10 17:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has a right to know but my question to you is why do you think he SHOULD understand??? You cheated on him at least 3 times. Do the father's of the children know about the kids? This was cold and insensitive! If you wanted the children of a doctor, you should have married a doctor, not a mechanic! About the genes, who says these doctors have good genes, let alone "smart" genes that are being passed along? There is always someone at the bottom of each class!
2006-10-11 00:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by when's my next vacation??? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what kind of woman are you! Do Not expect yr husband to understand what you had done! Your husband has been working hard to support the 3 kids & you. But the 3 kids are NOT HIS!
You had cheated on him at least 3 times. What do u think he will do after he heard what u will said about 3 kids, that they are fathered by different man and NONE is His! U ruined not only yr husband & 3 kids lives but yours too. You should go for brain wash for doing these.
2006-10-11 01:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by Renew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to bad the children are the only smart ones. when the 12 & 8 year old find out, 3 is too young, just think how hurt they will be. do the doctors know they have children by you. hope nothing happens to the kids and they need some type of tranfusion, bone marrow for example and your husand finds out he is not the father. another ? do the doctors wives know about the children, and what about their children. lady you really thought things over before you went to bed with 3someones. hate to say it , but what ever happens you deserve
2006-10-11 17:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by mamma bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like something from a soap opera! You should have been honest in the first place. No offense. how hurtful to find out that not only are the kids you thought were yours.. belong to another man but that your wife, was lying and deceptive as well as cheating on you to get those children. I think that was pretty selfish, and yes you should tell him. I just hope that he is the great man that you say he is and forgives you.
Sweet H... Your right, I wouldnt at least not easily, but we are suppossed to forgive, doesnt mean that I would.. just that I feel for the poor guy, and the fact that he probably loves her...
2006-10-11 00:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by blondeokie73 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LOL. Pretty good fiction. IF this is not fiction, this is a sad, sad picture of you as a human being. You are NOT God, even though you've tried to play like you are. I do not think that your children will someday thank you for choosing their DNA material the way you did. They are real flesh and blood and you've tampered with their lives in a pretty awful way. Just because you say you chose the DNA of "smart" men absolutely does NOT guarantee you that your children will be smart OR happy. They might become high school drop-outs high on drugs or living on the streets. You never know. Given the circumstances of your children's alleged conception, you've given them a whole pile of lifetime issues. The chances of your children being unhappy and screwed up are pretty high. If your children are not currently in therapy, after you tell this "great father" of theirs that you defrauded him, they are going to need a really good therapist...and I doubt that even that really good therapist will help them OR him forgive you. You've robbed, lied to and cheated on this "great man" that you are married to. Actually, legally, you could and would be charged with fraud. So, my advice is YES... absolutely tell this good man what you've done to him. He deserves to know what he's married to. Eventually...whether or not you tell him, he WILL find out. You will be exposed now, or 30 years from now. Your choice.
2006-10-11 00:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by D S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fear your mother will tell him if you do not. It's going to be hard, but I think it's going to be necessary.
I think you should start by acknowledging this was a very, very foolish thing for you to do. Doctors are not necessarily all that smart, and smarts are not necessarily inherited, and smarts are also not the only significant thing about kids.
It is very likely that your husband's good fathering is what made those kids what they are. If you start by admitting you were wrong (you were, and you probably know it), you may be forgiven. I suspect your husband is a good enough man to love the kids anyway, but it's going to be quite a blow to him.
Then you have to tell the kids. I do not envy you that job, either.
2006-10-11 00:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK let me get this straight...You have 3 kids with 3 different doctors and the whole time you were married??? If you had sex with your husband then how do you know they are from the affairs???? What are the odds???? If this is so, you need to tell your husband, this secret is huge and be prepared for your husband to leave...
2006-10-11 00:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This story smells! You are a nurse so you know the consequences of not knowing the health history of the biological fathers of your children in the event anyone or all fall seriously ill in need of bone marrow, body part transplants, etc. Thus, without this information, especially DNA proof matches, they are at grave risk of dieing if illnesses occurs. But you know this and so do their alleged doctor fathers. I think the story and you are full of crap! Am I wrong?
2006-10-11 00:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think he would understand and I wouldn't blame him in the least.
What is wrong with you? Sleeping around, cheating on your husband and you think he should be accepting? Look at how many years you have done this! Do you not care in the slightest about how your husband would feel to know that he has worked hard to raise kids that were fathered by any Dr. Tom, Dick or Harry that you happened to work with? That he believed were his own children?
Women as shallow as you give other women a bad name. Thanks a bunch.
2006-10-11 00:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
UNDERSTAND? Would you understand if he told you he wanted to have children with more attractive women than you, just to help the children out of course. NO he'll NEVER understand. If you value your marriage keep your mouth shut and your legs closed. And by the way you married this man, are you ashamed of your choice and if so "who are you?" You have justified, to yourself only, sleeping around. What good would it do to ever tell this man what you've done? Don't listen to your mother! Good Luck!!!
2006-10-11 07:12:01 · answer #11 · answered by red-e03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋