Should I ask him out!! I need your help!?

Question

There is this really really shy guy who i like, and who kinda likes me. He isn't the most wonderful, dreamy guy, but he is so nice.
He gave me his email yesterday and we've emailed a few times. We barely know each other, and only have one class together. (It's gym, so we talk a lot.) Should I ask him out, or should I just keep flirting until he does?! He's shy, so I'm not sure how long I'll have to wait.....
I HATE making 1st moves...........
WAIT OR DATE?!

I'm pretty sure nobody else likes him....

.....I could give him m phone # and see if he calls me. If he does, we could talk on the phone and get to know each other better......what do u think of that?

Answer 1

I'm sure you're nervous but keep in mind that if you like him, 5 other people out there probably like him as well and you better make a move before they do.

Answer 2

Oh my dear, it's 2006 now. Who's move the 1st move, doesnt matter. At least you did ask! Since you said he is shy, so how long must you wait eh? Actually it's good he gave you his email. Email him & ask that will nt make u feel so embarrassing right? Ask him for a movie or anything he is good at e.g.. Gym. Get him to coach you on that ya.. Gd Luck. Cheers.

Answer 3

I think you should wait to see where it leads. Build your
friendship or whatever you call it to the point where the
time is right, he will want to ask you out, or if you ask him
out, he will easily say yes. If you come on too strong too
fast, he might not respond or back off altogether, since you
said he is shy. Looks aren't everything. There are shallow people who look good, but probably aren't the type of people
you want as boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse/fiancee. You need to
have more than physical attraction to make it work.

Answer 4

date!

Answer 5

Wait.
And limit your flirting.
Take a breath.

If he hasn't asked you out, it may be that he's not ready to be dating (doesn't feel he knows you well enough, doesn't think he can afford it, etc.). Take some time to get to know each other via e-mail and face to face first without the added pressure of dating or trying to get a date.

Answer 6

If it was me, I'd invite the person somewhere lowkey, and see what happens from there.
It all depends on your age, if you under 15, ask him to go to the mall, and share a milkshake, 15 -20, ask him to a movie, or something, maybe bowling...20 plus, go for a drink, but place a strict time level to be there............like an hour.....then bail out, leaving phone number, and wait to see if he calls you..............

Answer 7

Hmmm overall it seems you need this to be a balanced relationship, you need to make it clear that your interested in him with your best flirting and then follow it up with asking him how he spends his free time. Ball is definatly in his court though and if the fear of rejection really is the thing that is stopping him then by you easing this fear he's more likely to ask you out and this would be a really positive and needed step in how he feels about himself, his confidence and his relationship with you.

Answer 8

if ur nto sure bout making the first move you cna make waht i call a "semi-move" next time your talking say something like " so waht are you doing friday night" if he says "nothing" then say "me too, I heard there was this really cool concert at the club.... sound interesting to you?" that way you've asled him out without reall asking him out. Warning-- only smarter guys will figure this out ...... sumtiems it will fly right over "not so smart" guys heads.

Answer 9

If you really like him, go ahead and ask him out. He might be shy and never ask. Guys, I'm sure don't like always having to do the asking and fear being rejected. Go for it.

Answer 10

slow down you barely know the guy i think you should wait. if he is shy then you will probably scare him away by asking him out now. get to know him first.