I can tell that my parents don't really care for my boyfriend. They act nice in front of him but they have told me before that they think I can do better. His family doesn't have a whole lot of money and mine is pretty well off. They say they want me to have as easy of a life I can and they want the best for me. I know my dad secretly wishes we would break up. I want to marry him! Him and I had a lot of prob. in the beg. of our relationship but we have made it past all of the drama. My dad says that there is just something about him he doesn't like. He doesn't tell me this though, I have to hear it from my mom. I feel as if I'm letting them down. How can I make them see that i'm serious? Oh yea, hes also of a diff. race.
2006-10-10 17:14:48 · 5 answers · asked by eyesmileandgiggle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think there is really anything you can do. I have had this same problem, and I also married him. They like him now, but they still think i can do better. Your family, if they're anything like mine, probably won't think anyone is good enough for you. You just have to go with your own feelings, and don't let others sway you. You could also try telling your parents the good things about your boyfriend, like stuff he does for you; and leave the bad stuff out, like when you have a fight and your mad at your boyfriend. I feel for you, and I hope everything works out.
2006-10-10 17:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by BJ M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that your parents, who want what is best for you, are seeing things that you don't see or maybe don't want to see. But what they think is best for you also may be very different than what you think is best for you. If your heart is telling you that everything is right between you and your guy, you can't worry about what your parents think. Money does make things easier but it's the challenges and struggles we take on and overcome that make life fulfilling. You can tell your parents that he is the man you intend to marry and that it totally offends you and hurts you when they talk down about him and you wont be listening to it anymore. You can make an excuse to depart or hang up each time they start talking down about him. Time (obviously lots of time) and seeing that you're happy with your man will probably bring about a certain level of acceptance.
2006-10-11 00:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think race has any thing to do with it and you may truely love this guy and that's great, but as a person who has been on both sides of the fence. I came from a good family and married a man who after we were married abused me. We suffered 7 years of hard times, financially and other. If I had listened to my parents it would have saved me from years of heart ache. Parents wants what is best for you PLEASE listen to them!! They can see things you are blind to.
2006-10-11 00:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by really???? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that's your dads problem, just his race. True love with overcome any obstacles you come across, you love the guy and you want to marry him, then you do it! This is your life. Your parents need to understand that even though he's different and they don't like him, you do and because of that you're going to stay with him no matter what their opinion or wishes are.
2006-10-11 00:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents HATED the guy I was with all thru hgh school, the guy asked me to marry him, and something told me no, in fact i just found out yesterday, that he and his father are in prison for 19 years on drug dealing charges......listen to your parents sweetie, it may be hard, but they can somehow see things you can't....
2006-10-11 00:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by mysticalfairygoddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋