I want to have another baby in 3 years but My husband doesn't want to. I don't know what to do. I understand why he doesn't. We have a boy and a girl. But I had them so close together that I can't imagine not having another baby ever. My son is 18 months old and my daughter is 8 months old. IF they had been a couple of years apart, then I might be ok with not having any more babies.
But that's not the case.
I really want one more. What should I do?? How do I make him realize how much I want another baby and if I can't convice him that we should, how do I deal with the loss of never having another baby?????
What do you think????
2006-10-10 17:13:25 · 14 answers · asked by Tired-Mom 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I have 2 boys 12 months apart, and am pregnant with number three, due in 8 weeks. My boys are 2&3 (almost) you know what my husband and I said only 2..then the boys got a bit older, and it was my husband who said he wanted one more. Let them get a bit older, and when your husband watches them grow, and develop...he will change his mind. Right now, in all honesty,he peobably sees the tols it takes on you and doesnt want to see you go thru more.... but liek i said when the 8 month old starts walking and talking and having a personality of its own...... give him time to miss the infant stage. He feels like hes been in it for 18 months!!!!
2006-10-10 17:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by bangbanks72 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your shoes. My girls are 4 years apart and for along time I had my heart set on having 3. My husband however had different plans. I finally came around to his way of thinking and was perfectly happy with the 2 beautiful girls I had. They're 8 and 4 and very independant. To have another baby would be like starting over. Well, I'm currently 9 weeks pg with #3...a birth control baby. So you never know what will happen in 3 years. You might come around to his way of thinking or vise versa. Only time will tell...enjoy the 2 you have. I honestly think that most women will always have that desire to be pg again, no matter how difficult thier previous pg were or how old they are. So while I don't think that feeling will go away, the desire to raise another child might. Good luck with whatever happens and congrats on the 2 healthy children you have already been blessed with.
2006-10-10 17:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him time, they're young yet so he probably just needs time without a baby for a while. By the way, my son is 15 months and my daughter is 4 months and I want another baby in 2 to 3 years when I graduate from nursing school. My husband doesn't understand why because we already have a boy and a girl but he's such a good dad I'm sure he'll warm up to it by then, and so will yours. Good luck and if you ever need an ear to listen feel free to email me.
2006-10-10 17:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by dolly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if he really loves you he will consider it. But since your not planning it for soon give him a chance. We have 2 girls and they are 8 and 6 we weren't really planning for any more kids. At a point we wanted to have a boy ( not gauranteed tho) Well Im about to have a baby in Jan. now NOT planned and its a boy he is SO very excited and within the last yr he did kinda say some stuff about wanting a baby cus ours are so big now. But be happy you have one of each. Maybe he'll come around for you or you can tell him your on the pill then ( accidents happen :) good luck to you
2006-10-10 17:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by navigator_girl_1982 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 04:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and 15 month old son also and my husband tells me the same thing. my best answer would be to wait the 3 years and see how you like it you may change your mind and he may also all you can really do is wait. as they get older he will see how they are and if he really wants another child
2006-10-10 17:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by ladyjuggla 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can completely understand where you are coming from, My son is 6 and in kindergarten and my daughter is 3 and i have been wanting another baby, my husband doesn't want another one either.... If you want to wait and have another one in 3 years then in about 2 years start asking him again he may change his mind.. I'm still trying to convince my husband to have another one also... Sorry if i was no help I just wanted to let you know I completely understand your situation =)
2006-10-10 17:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by Heather C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait a couple of years before bringing it up again. You don't know for sure how either of you will feel in three years. He'll probably come around...Babies are so cute and bring so much joy into your life, he may change his mind by then. But it would be nice to have a few months out of diapers first, wouldn't it?
2006-10-10 17:19:00 · answer #8 · answered by venusiaint 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let your 2 babies grow up the nconsider having another one! I know you said three years from now but all men see is the present! He needs time to be without a baby! You can't force someone to have a baby with you! You guys need to talk about this more! Maybe you should drop it for now and let him have time with the 2 babies you have now!
2006-10-10 17:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by Dana J 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient, he might decide to have another one, but your other 2 are so young he probably feels a bit overwhelmed. I have 3 and I can tell you from experience, it's MUCH harder to take care of 3 than it is 2.
2006-10-10 17:23:17 · answer #10 · answered by razorbacks_rule 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋