It's like i'm in a relationship (for now), and i'm having to end communications with some of my male friends. Then, the same goes for some of my male friends. They are dating, some considering marriage, and their girlfriends are having a problem with them communicating with women of the opposite sex. These are people I knew before they began relationships, and vice versa. Does being in a relationship always mean you have to stop communicating with the opposite sex? Why?
2006-10-10 16:50:19 · 5 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have a very good question i must say.
Heres what i think. I think its to do with the increased levels of insecurities we humans have developed. Why have we developed them? Well....we are faced with millions of different kinds of advertisments everyday is a starter. You are literally told to the face if you dont look good , you are nothing! (many womens mags say that). Dnt ask how i know even tho i am a guy! lol
This sense of insecurity builds up, and it gets hard seeing your loved one, even talk his/her opposite sex.
I felt this way about my gf. She even mentioning a football player, or actor got me soo hurt, although i never told her that. Because i know it is my own weakness. It is because i love her so much! well now shes left me anyway so no big deal for her, but you see the point im making? Its a mixture of actual love and insecurity.
EVERYONE has insecurity, even the most confident person walking down the street! This leads to problems such as yours.
How to solve? Well.....COMMUNIATION and UNDERSTANDING. I cannot say enough, these 2 are the key to any relationship! 99.9% of the time most beautiful love stories break up ONLY because of misunderstandings, lack of communications LEADING to frustration and then giving up!
I only wish i knew a way to communicate this to everyone in a simple way, and even teach it to myself.... then definatly the world will be a better place.
Sorry i got a little carried away in answering.
Message to user called KATHY : EVERYONE HAS INSECURITIES!!! There is no one on this planet that does not. Stupid little girl...
2006-10-10 16:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by DudeWantsAnswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems kinda kooky to give up good friends for something that is nothing more than a hopeful prospect. It is not right to give up platonic opposite-sex friends until you are certain that you've met somone where the relationship is solidly heading towards permanency. Anything less than that is an uncalled for sacrifice.
2006-10-10 17:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an opposite sex who likes to be with your opposite sex. Its called insecurity! So if they are having a problem its their problem and I would think twice about dating an insecure person!
2006-10-10 16:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its not ALWAYS like that... it has alot to do with ones self esteem/ insecurities... my ex was a very insecure person... and i (even though i shouldnt have) stoped talking to all my guy friends....but you should put yourself in their shoes.. as for me, i asked myself if i would like a bunch of girls calling him.. even though they are "just friends".. not so much i didnt trust him.. just couldnt trust these girls, that i didnt even know... now im in a new relationship, and i will talk to my guy friends on the phone in front of my dude,,, just so he knows that they are JUST FRIENDS...
2006-10-10 17:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by yVETTe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO IT REALLY DOES 'NT
2006-10-10 16:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋