Recently, my son(he is 8) and I was in an accident. Lately, he has been freaking out when he rides in the car and when crossing the street. He gets all nervous and has a terrified look on his face. What can I do to help him through this?
2006-10-10 16:40:23 · 9 answers · asked by The One 4 Fun 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
just be supportive and let him know that accidents happen, like when he falls and hurts his knee, or falls off his bicycle and that you worry about him too, but no matter what ever happens you love him and will so your best to take care of him for as long as you can.....and that it is okay to be scared, it is normal, but you have to keep doing things you always have done, just because accidents happen doesn't mean you should be afraid all the time.Just let him know he can talk to you about whatever is bothering him no matter what it is, you will listen and do your best to help him......hope i helped....good luck with your son...
2006-10-10 16:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by nascar_cr8zy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. My son and I hit a part of the road where the pavement was broken and it was night and my car flipped. I was young and stupid and thought we were invincible and so neither of us was wearing a seatbelt. God was blessing me so much and I thank him to this day. Neither of us was hurt at all. From that point on, we have never ridden in a vehicle without wearing our seatbelts. But for a more complete answer, my son was showing these reactions, also. I sat him down and explained to him that sometimes people are in accidents and we are very blessed that we are okay, but that it made me even more careful we would always wear a seatbelt to protect us and although we cannot control other drivers, if he will help me be on the lookout, maybe we can avoid the bad ones. I also explained that the accident was no one's fault but that the county had repaired the road, so that spot was no longer a danger. For a while, he was very watchful during car rides, but eventually he relaxed after he saw that I was being very careful and also after a time of no more accidents. Like any traumatic event in your son's life, it will take time, but with your encouragement, he will relax.
2006-10-11 04:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by Candy D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him about how many times people ride in cars and don't get hurt. tell him he's already had his share of accidents and he shouldn't be in another for a very long time. Let him watch the street from afar and see a lot of cars not crashing. If you are religious you could tell him god will watch out for him. Let him take it slow if he is really scared. See a shrink if he doesn't get over it in a couple of months.
2006-10-10 16:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by mati 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just keep talking too him. Tell him it was an accident and that god was watching over and thats why your ok. Let him talk to the school counsler, Hes in school right? Let him write down how he feels and draw a picture of it. Other wise just tell him its ok to be scared and that he should be cautious but not terrified of vehicles... Good Luck
2006-10-10 17:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by navigator_girl_1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be with him when he is riding in the car or crossing the street and continually reassure him that everything is OK. Please make sure you are not transferring your own fears to him also. It depends a lot on what type and how bad the accident was. Be patient, understanding, and reassuring.
2006-10-10 16:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by Oenophile... (Lynn) 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Allow him to speak about his fears, he may need you to start the conversation.
If this doesn't help try occupying his mind during drives, with books, game boy, etc... Then when you arrive at your destination tell him, see that wasn't so bad.
Positive reinforcement. Good luck.
2006-10-11 03:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by razzyrascal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fly everywhere
2006-10-10 19:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a shrink could help, otherwise, let it take its time, be supportive like you have been
2006-10-10 16:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
drive better.
2006-10-10 16:47:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋