I had an affair with a man from work and am now pregnant. i know it is his. i am married to a man i love, and want to be with him 4ever, i just made a really stupid mistake when i had this one and only affair. the man i had an affair with looks very similar to my hubby, and doesnt want anything to do with the child, he just wants to forget the whole thing.
should i have the child and not tell my hubby and just let him think its his? i do not believe in abortion.
has this happened to any other women in here and what did you do?
2006-10-10 16:38:27 · 15 answers · asked by amy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
(Galatians 6:7) 7 Do not be misled: God is not one to be mocked. For whatever a man ( or woman ) is sowing, this he will also reap;
I'm sorry...
Sometimes we just have to face the consequnces..
Talk to your husband.
2006-10-10 16:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by David 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First thing, is if you tell your husband, he is not gonna trust you for a long time!! You just mentally destroyed him!! He's gonna think that you are cheating on him all the time!! I felt this way!! On the other hand you could tell him your preg and since the other man doesn't want to have anything to with you or the baby, you could tell him it's his!! The truth is always the best way to go though!! What happens if he finds out later that it's not his?? You have that to think about too!! Try talking to him with your minister and let him know that you want forgivness and to raise the child as his own!! That sounds like a great idea!! Talk to your minister with your husband he will likely understand and be more forgiving and reassure him it won't happen again, and that you love him very much and your sorry that you put this kind of strain on your marriage!! Let him know that you knew it was wrong, and made a really bad stupid choice! I feel for ya sista!! I really hope everything works out for the better for ya email me and let me know what happens!! Talking to your minister with your husband and letting him (minister) know about your sin will give you forgiveness with your minister and GOD and your husband!!
2006-10-11 03:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should tell your husband the truth. Do you really want to live with the guilt of this for the rest of your life? And, if your child--God forbid--has a health problem and needs some sort of transplant, he should know that he probably won't be able to help. Also, due to dominant traits, the child may have an irrefutable difference in appearance to either of you and he'll find out anyway.
I don't understand why you're morally against abortion but morally okay with cheating on your husband. If you're having sex, you know this is always a risk. And if you're cheating, it's a HUGE risk. I'm sure you know you should not have done this. Own up to it.
2006-10-10 17:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you loved your husband, you would come clean and obtain a DNA test.
This whole "Not tell my hubby" shows you are 1) not sorry for what you did 2) Not mature enough 3) Need to grow up and accept consequences you caused.
You are not truly in love if you are thinking of allowing this child who has a chance of being this affair's, to be played off as your husband's.
If you don't believe in abortion.
Then how can you believe in affair's and thinking of lying even more to your husband??????????
Seek marriage counseling. Come forth and do DNA.
Not fair to this unborn child to be born in such a situation. Then when become older, the truth will come out and your consequence would be 10X harder to the point of loosing husband and child due to your selfishness thinking.
2006-10-10 20:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you sure are in a mess. Are you absolutely sure the baby isn't your husband's?
This is really gonna hurt but you are going to have to tell your husband. You are going to have to suffer the consequences of your actions, whatever they may be. You cannot start this child's life off with a lie.
And maybe at one time Mr. I-want-to-forget-about-it could have walked away, but not in this day of DNA testing. His mistake is about to become quite tangible & the courts will see to that. And what if the child has health problems. If tested all this will be found out anyway.
You may love your husband, but you need to find out why you had a affair with this co-worker. Something is lacking in you or in your relationship for you to have done this. This marriage is going to need counselling if it is going to try & stay together.
2006-10-10 17:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your tacky affair have to do with wedding planning? Clearly you don't deserve your husband and he is too good for you, since you are going to try and deceive him in so heinous a fashion. So your against abortion but pro cheating, that's nice, I'm sure your husband appreciates that.
2006-10-10 16:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all u should of never of had a affair if u really love this man u wouldn't have even thought about it so I would just think who u really love it's neither of them! Also always be honest!!!!!!!!
2006-10-10 16:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by PROBLEM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you say that you love your husband if you had an affair with another man? That's what I don't understand!
2006-10-10 17:46:59 · answer #8 · answered by belverana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it hasn't happened to me. But I think you need to 'fess up to your husband. It would make me sick to see a man in love with a child that wasn't his, without his knowing. I'm not saying get an abortion, I don't believe in it either. Just let your husband know what's up, he deserves to know.
2006-10-10 16:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by ★Fetal☆ ★And ☆ ★Weeping☆ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to own up to your mistake. lying to your husband is you taking the easy way out...how unfair of you to be so selfish. tell your husband he has the RIGHT to know. i have no friggin idea why ppl cheat. you guys have no heart.
2006-10-10 16:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by Angelwings87 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋