I don't want things to end up akward and i'm not having s*x because I'm saving for marraige, but I don't want him to think he has done anything wrong or that I don't love him. please help
2006-10-10 16:38:16 · 18 answers · asked by Melvina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just let him know what you want to do. You have to know what is too far. Set your limit and don't let him cross the line. If you let him go further than you want just once, you will end up having sex. No one can set that limit for you, you have to do that yourself. Good for you, I am very proud of you. I told my sister today, sex is like smoking. Once you have had it, you want more. It is dare I say addicting. If you sleep with this boyfriend, you will more than likely sleep with the rest of them you have in your future. So stand your ground, I wish I would have. I just gave in and had sex, and now I really wish I hadn't...
2006-10-10 16:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? Saving sex for marriage is a testy issue in my opinion. He might really like you but not having sex may weaken your relationship while having actual loving sex will definitely strenthen it. Don't just do it for the sake of it but if you know that he really wants to be with you forever than what is the harm in doing it before hand? Do you do other things, blowing, tongueing, sucking etc? If so then that should be enough
2006-10-10 23:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You just have to be honest and up front. Honesty almost all is the best way to come cross unless it will completely hurts their feelings but even then you gotta think about yourself sometimes and respect yourself and your beliefs!!!
2006-10-10 23:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by LO 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him in a nice way that your just not ready for sex yet but that you still love him and that you guys can do other things instead of sex.
2006-10-10 23:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by sweet gurl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well, think about this, im a dude and a virgin, and my last name is virgin. let me tell you. nothing is worse than having that last name. trust me. but if you dont want to hurt him, just tell him its not him its just that your not ready for that kind of comitment.
2006-10-10 23:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by Player 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Explain to him that sex equals marriage to you.
If he tells you it hurts him, he's playing you. Watch out!
Careful though, you might make him want to marry you!
2006-10-10 23:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
good for you just let him know up front that that's the way it is and if he loves you he will not do it you may louse him good luck to you
2006-10-10 23:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be honest and set yr boundries with him. if he loves you he should respect them. if he cant handle it let him go. read tips on relationships and more to help you on this site
2006-10-10 23:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by honey 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
tell him you dont want to have sex till marraige......if he loves you he will respect that
2006-10-10 23:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by Justin 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he loves you, he will respect your wishes. Have a heart-to-heart discussion with him about this.
2006-10-10 23:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋