I had an affair with a man from work and am now pregnant. i know it is his. i am married to a man i love, and want to be with him 4ever, i just made a really stupid mistake when i had this one and only affair. the man i had an affair with looks very similar to my hubby, and doesnt want anything to do with the child, he just wants to forget the whole thing.
should i have the child and not tell my hubby and just let him think its his? i do not believe in abortion.
has this happened to any other women in here and what did you do?
2006-10-10 16:38:13 · 25 answers · asked by amy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BUSTED!!!!!!!!!!!!
tell your husband what a bad girl youve been lets hope he doesnt drop your *** for now ruining his life...next time u have an affair wrap it up buttercup
2006-10-10 16:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by terra c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to think of what is best for the child. Knowing who the father is may be important down the road for the child's medical history. Your husband may not be the biological father, but that doesn't mean that he isn't capable of loving and raising this child. Honesty is always the best policy, you may have to live with the concequences, but it will be easier than living with guilt, worry and fear of being found out later. You should probably also address why you had an affair in the first place. Maybe some marriage councelling would help. There are people who have posted that you disgust them, and that you deserve what you get, but there are equally as many people who can sympathasize and support you, and been there.
2016-03-28 04:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your husband. Obviously there's something wrong with the marriage to begin with that caused you to have an affair. It's not fair to him to lead him on. What if there's an emergency in the future and the kid needs blood...he'll find out then and it'll hurt even worse. A kid won't save your marriage and pretending it's his makes is even worse. You guys need to sit down and talk to each other straight up and be honest if you really want to do have this baby. Don't bring it into this world as a lie surrounded by negative energy.
2006-10-10 16:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! Sounds like a "Jerry Springer" show waiting to happen...well, if you continue your pregnancy, you'll hurt your husband, ruin your marriage, and when the baby gets older, you'll have to explain why he/she doesn't have a father.
If I were you, I would get an abortion. Say a bunch of "hail Mary's" and never have another affair ever again with another man. If you keep this baby, your husband will eventually figure out it isn't his, and he will hate you for what you've done and probably divorce you. So, quit being a tramp and keep your mouth shut. Good luck.
2006-10-10 16:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have the child and just dont tell ur husband about it. go on with life as if the child is his. u will hurt ur husband so bad if u tell him u had an affair and got pregnant. for sure, it would be hard for him to forgive u and even when he does, there will be complications in the future.
so stop the guilty feeling. i know its better said than done. but have the child - abortion will let husband know the affair, dont tell the husband. sometimes honesty will get u in a bad light.
2006-10-10 16:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to tell your husband. Yes it will hurt him and he might even leave you for a little while. but I believe that in the end, if he truly cares about you, then he will understand. But he has every right to know. What happens if 5 years down the road that the daddy of the baby decides he wants the child... your husband will find out and never will trust you again. Please tell your husband, just be prepared for the worst, but hope for the best.
2006-10-10 16:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this was a mistake you made and you realized it. now you are still in love with hubby so telling him about it wont make it go away but it may devastate all involved. think about the child. i would just have it an not say anything rite now if you are able to do it.
2006-10-10 16:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by hamhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell your husband, no matter how difficult it may be. have the child and hopefully your husband will forgive you. you need counseling to address why you would have an affair when you are married to the man you love and the man you want to be with 4ever.
2006-10-10 16:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HMMMMM. well i think it is a really really dumb idea to try and lie to your husband and act like it is his child!!!!(how would you feel when he is tellin his friends how the baby looks like him?) you have to make a serious decision and i think the right thing to do is to tell him(if you do not have abortion) either way it goes you may lose him cus if he finds out in 1 or 10 years from now he will definitely leave youthen so you chances are better now.............GOOD LUCK
2006-10-10 16:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid it will come out later in life...then what? Tell him the truth and accept the consequences. You made a mistake, don't make another trying to cover the first one up.
2006-10-10 16:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋