I am 26 and dated a guy in high school from the time I was 16 till right before I turned 18. He got into drugs really bad so we broke up. He was always good to me I just couldnt handle seeing him ruin his life like that and wasn't going to go down with him. Last Saturday he was murdered walking down the street at 3 in the morning (trying to buy dope I'm sure)
His funeral is in the morning at 10 I really want to go but my husband is really upset about it. Should I go. Would you be mad?
2006-10-10 16:22:22 · 23 answers · asked by megs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go... what is he bothered by... no competition the dude is dead... have him go with you...maybe go to the visitation and skip the funeral... good luck
2006-10-10 16:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by curious dad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds like the most pothetic human being I've heard of, why did you marry that guy? Maybe you would have been better off with the druggie...Jealous of a dead guy...WTF???
He was your friend, if you need to go to the funeral for your own reasons then go...your husband will survive, get home and give him some make up xes...while thinking about your dead ex of course...
2006-10-10 23:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Army Guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would really need to know a little more about your husbands objections of your going. After all the man is dead he should not be a threat to your relationship. I would think it would be OK. It seems to me that you may need this for closure. Funerals are for the living you know. If not I do not understand why you want to go.
2006-10-10 23:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this. Why do you really want to do this?
An ex boyfriend from around 8 years ago?
You must do what you must do but I agree with your husband.
Sure there is a little bit of jealousy going on but why would there not be.
You should have been long over this guy and most certainly after you married.
If this had been and ex-husband that you loved one time it may be understandable but not a boy-friend.
Good luck to you
2006-10-10 23:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wanting to go seems like you have kept feelings from him but on the other hand your ex has passed and you spent 2 yrs of your life with him. Either way you both need to sit down and discuss this. There are some underlying feelings that are not being expressed. Your ex has passed and he should be able to see passed that.
2006-10-10 23:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by GRISSIOM PURE GENIUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go. For crying out loud, the man is dead. Your husband is being pathetic.
You will never see this person again. It will just give you some peace and maybe the opportunity to support his family who I am sure are greiving beyond belief.
Go on and no I would not be mad.
2006-10-11 18:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not mad at all. Go to the funeral. Grieve him and move on. I am sure that your husband would understand.
I can only see things getting worse for your husband if he doesn't allow you the time to grieve.
2006-10-10 23:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by Brad NZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that the right thing to do would be to pay your respect to his family to show that you have compassion for what they must be going through but your husband has NO RIGHT TO BE MAD i say that because the poor man is dead its not like hes gona come back to get you your husband needs to stop the bullshit right now for real you married him setteled down and made a life with him so he should relax the poor guy is no longer a threat to you or him good luck ......M
2006-10-10 23:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Maria M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the funeral. No, I wouldn't be mad if my mate went to the funeral of a friend. It might be good for your husband to go with you.
2006-10-10 23:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by appalachian_panther 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your husband has some growing up to do. Go anyway. If it causes hassles, that will open your eyes to your husband! This is controlling behavior and a possible hint of abuse to come.
2006-10-10 23:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by silentnonrev 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he was a firend so do go to pay your respesct at least. you do owe that much dont you think? and if you husband is a loving caring suppourt husband like he should be iam sure he wont be mad at you for it. i mean how can he what would he do and or expect from you if he was in your spot?
2006-10-10 23:27:00 · answer #11 · answered by virgoplayer1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋