My friend told me her boyfriend and her were having sex a while back and she wanted him to stop but he wouldn't and she kept trying to push him off and screaming at him for at least 5 minutes. But he just kept having sex with her. Later, he told her that he just blanked out and didn't hear her. Would you consider that rape? He apologized later. Would you forgive him?
Also a couple of months later while they were having sex he took off his condom without telling her. She was upset because she had told him several times she didn't like having unprotected sex.
2006-10-10 16:15:17 · 70 answers · asked by lilgracie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would consider it rape because he was basically trying to force her into the situation
apoligy isn't acceptable especially with an excuse like i couldn't hear i mean really be honest HOW COULD YOU BELIEVE THAT!!!
after taking that off i think it wouldn't be rape but it would be disrespesct
i say have her dump him and take it to a lawyer and see what he says
hope i helped!!!
ten points please?
2006-10-10 16:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Tammi =] 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The question is does SHE consider it rape? Yes, if SHE went to a police station and made a complaint, it would be treated as a rape case. In fact, if she made a complaint about the condom incident, even that is consider rape because she did NOT consent to unprotected sex. The sad fact is, she would have to convince an officer to investigate and follow-up on it. The incident clearly was illegal but the sad truth is that with the weak, underpaid, overworked prosecutors in our system and the Police who bust their butts only to have the case refused by a prosecutor, and the highly paid defense attorneys using every trick in the book... almost ANY criminal case needs to be taken to just the right officer to get a satisfactory disposition. Your friend would need to be able to justify who SHE feels about the incident.
2006-10-10 16:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by spedtrap 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely Rape, Report It To The Police & Tell Her To Get Rid Of Him... He SHOULD Respect The Fact That She Doesnt Want Unprotected Sex, And So She Shouldnt...
This Guy Needs A HUGE Reality Check...
Best Of Luck To Your Friend
2006-10-10 16:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, that was rape. He had no excuse to proceed from the moment she said, "No." I'm married, and I don't have the right to rape my wife (not that I ever would). If he "blanked out", then he needs to go to the mental ward, because he has serious problems. He does not deserve forgiveness, and your friend was foolish to do so, and even more so to stay with him afterwards. I'm sorry if you didn't expect such harsh words, but while the first incident was not her fault at all, the second was, IMHO, partly hers. She knew he was untrustworthy, and, honestly, a rapist, and yet she still stayed with him. Your friend needs to get away from him as soon as possible, for her sake.
2006-10-10 16:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by Space Case 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes obviously thats rape, if he respected her he would stop. I mean if its done with the consent of one partner alone, then it is rape. What the hell did he mean by "blanked out"?. If he actually loved her then he would stop the moment she asked him too. Mistakes are commited once in a while, not one after the another.The first time he blanked out....and the next time he tore off the condom without even asking her!!!!!!- Gross, awfull, Your friend realyy needs to get rid of this idiot. I mean he is usin her for his own sexuall pleasures.....and trully I dont respect such guys. Maybe the first tiome he blanked it(unlikely as it seems) but then the next time he was in his senses, what if she gets pregnent or something like that, she is the one who is going to suffer and get the brunt of it. SHE NEEDS TO DUMP HIM
2006-10-11 23:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ananya R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it was just foreplay and he forced the sex, it is rape. consenting sex isn't rape while in the middle of it. the woman may be getting sore and want to stop and if forcably held down that can be considered part rape, but mostly being held against ones will. if he is acting like a fool, taking off the condom, etc, she would be better off dumping him.
2006-10-10 16:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by hollywood71@verizon.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is an incredible jerk!!!!!! He's also a criminal and a rapist in my opinion. There are certainly times when a guy can be led on by a woman unfairly, but 5 MINUTES of NO!!! That to me should be good for up to 5 YEARS with a roommate named "horny Bruno" for the so called boyfriend.... or at least for as long as it takes him to appreciate the female role....
2006-10-10 16:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is being very foolish. Yes that was rape. If she says NO and he won't stop, it's rape. And if he removed a condom, he could infect her with a dangerous STD or make her pregnant. Why is she still with this abuser? No, she should not forgive him. She needs to find someone who is not a rapist and a head case.
2006-10-10 16:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, the condom thing is shady as hell, though it's usually done by women trying to get pregnant! That is rape either way, and she should dump him for THAT.
As far as stopping in the middle of sex, pushing and screaming and yelling "STOP" are totally normal things to do while enjoying sex.
If I were in the guy's position for THAT, I'd think I was giving her the best orgasm of her life, and would think it very inconsiderate of myself to stop in the middle! That's why you pick a code word/phrase!
She should work out a code phrase with him to remove any doubt the next time she wants to stop in the middle. Although if I were here, I wouldn't give him a next time because of the condom thing...
2006-10-10 16:19:47 · answer #9 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is rape. She can press charges on him if she wants. If someone else finds out they could have him convicted since he didn't stop when she told him to stop or gave a body language that indicates she wants to stop. The screaming should give him a clue that he should stop. He should never take off his condom until he is finished and out of her.
2006-10-10 16:18:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋