Are children worth it?

Question

Every parent i've met is so stressed and unhappy about being a parent. Maybe not everyone, but sometimes i think that having children only makes couples have less time for eachother and things they want to accomplish. You have to pay more, work more, spoil them and make them happy. From all the child abuse and such, do you think children are worth having and why?

Answer 1

Well, the older you get, the more you realize it's not all about you.
Kids are the only thing left that's worth new tomarrows, when you pare life down.
Also reproducing yourself because you're so terrific kind of thing.
True, the physical and emotional work is stressful. And the time and money.
It's worth it, or the whole human race wouldn't be doing it.
I love it, but yes, I am busy 100% of the time, and make sure I go out with hubby once a week!!!

Answer 2

I have three kids, two girls 14 and 8 and a 7 year old son. I spend most of my time running them to sports, school events, scouts helping with homework, dealing with teenage crisis and so much more. My house is usualy turned upside down from them and their friends, I go without things I would like to have so they can have what they need and a lot of what they want. I get up tired and go to bed exhausted. I am not just mom I am chauffer, cook, maid, nurse, psychiatrist, cub scout leader, girl scout leader, soccer coach, plumber, referee, teacher and everything else you can imagine. If lucky my husband and I have an hour a day for actual time together after the kids are tucked in for the night but even with all of that there is nothing and I do mean nothing that I enjoy more in life. My kids are my reason for living and make life worth while. Seeing their faces when they are excited about something or getting a hug and an I love you for no reason is worth every sacrafice that we have made. The love of a child is the only unconditional love a person will ever really know and I know someday they will grow up leave home and start a family of their own and then my husband and I will have our time and hey then I can get that new living room suite that doesn't have to be child proof!

Answer 3

It depends on what type of person you are, many people don't realize how big of a responsibility children are, you are taking care of another person who is totally dependant upon you, they do take up your time and money, I think many people have children right after they get married, because that is what they know, you get married and have a family, most of them in my opinion should wait awhile to have children, get your finances toghether and have the things that you want before thinking about children, when you finally move out of your parents house you should take time to find and be yourself and set up and establish goals then after you have had all the fun you could want and are well established financially then have children if you wait for a while after you get married then (about 5 years) then you can see if your relationship will last with your partner and if it is stable enough to enter kids into, if you are the person who is career oriented and want other things in your life and have no room for children, then don't have any there are many people out there who have no desire to have kids, and that is fine, just take the time to look at yourself and your life to see if a child or children will fit into it, I have one child and I had him at 18, I have learned to work my life around him, it is not easy at times, but I cannot see my life without him and he is now 8, I want another child, but won't try for another one until he is 10 or 11, because right now I have neither the time nor the finances for another child, it is good to give yourself choises, I don't think everyone should have children and there are some people out there that have a lot of children that really shouldn't have had any because they don't take care of them like they should and it creates a vicious cycle and there are those that can't have children that would be really good parents, it isn't fair, not for the good people and not for the children born to bad parents. It is something to think about.

Answer 4

YES!! I think children are worth it! I'm a first time mom of a 4 month old and he is my angel! It is stressful and hard but the happiness he brings me is worth every minute! That gummy smile I see every morning just makes my day! And to be honest it doesn't really cost too much more to have a child. Being a parent is becoming self-less to some extent, so what would that make those who don't want children because of their own priorities?.. selfish (but that's my opinion). My husband and I make time for one another, we have date nights every couple of weeks to spend some alone time together. Children are a blessing from God!

Answer 5

I think children are worth everything you work for. You get to be an example and show and teach them. Before I had kids I couldn't picture my life with them and now that I have four children I couldn't picture my life without them. My children have been and always will be worth the hard work, effort and the love that I receive from them every day. I could be having a bad day and all it takes is a smile. And just always knowing that I have four miracles at home waiting for me when I'm at work and I know this because when I come home they all run up to me with hugs and kisses and I have to say that is one of the most wonderful feelings a person can have.

Answer 6

They are worth it merely because they will give an illusion of hope for the future.
Let's face it - for most people, if not spending time and efforts on their children what will they be doing? Climbing the corporate ladder only to find that - in your 40's you are deem too old and too expensive to retain? Or spending "quality time" hanging out with friends at Starbucks or the mall?
Therefore among all the shallow and empty things that most humans do - raising children still seems more meaningful then most.

Answer 7

I'm a single mum to a 5 year old. After a 9 year relationship with his father I left when my son was 6 months old. I have struggled both financially and emotionally, all because I have my son. If I didn't have him, life would be alot easier in many ways. But not for anything would I go back in time and not have him. The simple pleasures a child can bring into your life out weighs any difficulties you may come across. I wouldn't change my life for anything.

Answer 8

It's a very personal decision between u n your spouse. There r no doubt some joys to have n of course, some pain must go with it too. However, the days r over when people want to have children to "carry on" the surname of the head of the house ... or help them in the fields. Women and society, have become too urbanized to feel the need for children and to some extent, we have become a little more selfish, n want to have/enjoy our own life too.

Answer 9

My son is the light of my life. He has more wisdom and is more intuitive then many adults I have met. Children are wonderful, unfortunately, parents generally rely too much on tv and some people don't know how to raise them. You don't have to buy them, kids just want someone to spend quality time with them doing something on their level. If you are selfish and want your own world, then don't have kids, if you want to take the time to embrace a beautiful life in addition to your own, then kids are the best. They grow up quick and then the couple will have plenty of time.

Answer 10

I think it is different for every parent.My answer is yes for me. My children bring so much joy to my life and I have raised 3 by myself for 16 yrs. But I feel like being a mom is a blessing and I would not trade one day with any of my children. Not the good the bad or the ugly and I have seen alot of hard times. But I must say I have good kids. They respect me and appreciate the sacrifices I've made for our family. So my answer is YES,YES,YES