I found the love of my life and then I lost him. I feel like a part of me is missing without him in my life. I feel like he will always have a place in my heart, because he was the first man I ever loved. I know I shouldn't feel this way, but I do. I don't want to forget about him, but I also want to move on with my life. He has moved on with his life and I should do the same. I want him to be happy he deserves that. I wonder if you ever really get over your first love completly? I've tryed dating other people, but nothing ever really works out the way I want it too. I feel like I had one chance at true love and happiness with him and I blew it. I don't know if I will ever find it again. How do I move on with my life and find happiness within myself?
2006-10-10 16:12:03 · 12 answers · asked by Apy S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
haha i just been through that like last week but this week i figure that what good would it do me to mope at least i know he wouldn't want that..........i try to occupy myself with lots of work but when that doesn't work it really helps to talk to some one you know.............so if you need someone to talk to and i am online you can talk to me if you want..........i know how you feel and well the pain will never go away but it will heal somewhat and leave a scar however there is nothing that time can't wash away .........try and focus on other guys around you because there migth be someone who is will to take that place and be there for you ..........i know it is hard to open up to someone else......or so you think but look on the bright side you are finally free too so you are not obligated to feel a certain way for someone any more you have more freedom...........good luck and hold on it will pass for sure trust me..........lol : )
2006-10-10 16:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by hahaha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time can truly heal a broken heart. It's hard to lose someone, especially your first love. But that doesn't mean that you can never love again. You have to convince yourself it's time to move on, and sometimes a good way to do that is to get your mind off it for a while.
You can do that by joining a social or community organization, perhaps a charitable group that supports a cause near and dear to your heart. Helping others can help you feel better and perhaps give you something else to focus on. You'll meet a lot of nice people, and who knows, maybe your next love.
Just remember that no matter what happens in life, you will always be a special person.
2006-10-10 16:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by Social_Butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take time for yourself now. You can't make anyone happy if you're not happy with yourself. Find something you can get involved with and put your energy into that, eventually you'll start feeling better. Love will find you at the most unexpected places. You should be able to be happy being alone first, before you can make anyone else happy. Take it slow, you will find love again. Good Luck!
2006-10-10 16:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by Julie G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When something ends... we tend to obsess about the good times.... and forget about the bad times. I don't think all was good in that relationship... otherwise you guys wouldn't have parted.
You will find happiness again... and who knows maybe you guys will find back together again, but in the meantime.... have a life!
Sometimes it's better to leave the past in the past.... whatever sentimentalities and memories you are stucked with in your mind... no one can take that away... except by getting back together with that person again and you get smacked in the face by reality... and you wished you guys never got together again.... at least you have those good memories for the rest of your life. Learn to live with it. Time will heal.... and remember you are a woman... we are strong in mind- we are survivors!!!!
2006-10-10 16:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.
this happened to me before. and me crying and sobbing and begging and crying some more and just go in the past and all that didnt help at all. you should move on with your life, even tho..i know girl..it is really really really hard.
if it was really meant to be. i think he'll notice that this is all a big mistake and realize that your the girl he wants and needs.
sometimes when you show a guy that you miss him too much and you cant move on, they dont really want you.
when my bf saw that i was all sad and begging and not moving on..he could care less about me..
but then finally when i started going out with my friends, just having friends there supporting me and telling me that im going to be fine..you'll kinda get used to it..and he'll notice that you dont really want him anymore..THATS when they usually come back..
im not saying all breakups are like this..but it happens..and maybe thats the way it is for you but then maybe not..
i would seriously suggest to spend more time with your friends and just have fun because it will take your mind off of him..and who knows you might meet someone..
true love will come again, but its best if you wait it out dont go searching too hard just to move on..because you cant really move on that way... true love will come once you stop searching..
seriously just have fun.
2006-10-10 16:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by stefani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought exactly the same thing three years ago! I thought it was all over for me and that I lost the one pesron who loved and understood me more than anyone else. It took me a while but I have met someone new. She is perfect. I still think about my ex-girlfriend and still feel sad about it ending but it ended so I could meet my new girlfriend!
It is hard to hear and you don't really believe it for a start but, you will meet someone new - when you are ready.
2006-10-10 16:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Brad NZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to move on, start thinking about YOURSELF and not him. Its all about you now and not about him. trust me, u can do it. and life is a long way ahead; as in a long long way ahead. if i were u, i will definitely move on, knowing he already has. u cannot turn back time, u cannot make him love u again, nothing can make u and him together again and that is a fact.
will u be able to do it? yes, u can. if u want to do it, u will. stop thinking about him and start thinking about urself. u will be in a much better situation.
i have had love and lost many times myself. so trust me.. u can, if u will it so badly - for your sake.
2006-10-10 16:17:00 · answer #7 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way once where I felt I lost my soulmate. Took 6 years for time to let my heart love again, but it did. Breath in, breath out...
Allow yourself time at night to grieve your loss, but not all of your time. Commit yourself to other things and keep busy and let thoses shattered heart pieces time to rebuild,...for they will.
Learn to love yourself and heal yourself. That is your first priority.
2006-10-10 16:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by Bonnie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time heals everything, i recently lost someone i love, just take a deep breath, things will start looking better for the good again, dont worry, love ya, muah muah
2006-10-10 16:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by start w/ laughs ends witha fight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take it one day at a time. it hurts but soon the days become fewer that you think of him. just go out with friends and keep occupied somehow.
2006-10-10 16:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by sharon p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋