living a lie?

Question

so my entire class at an all girls school think i am this boy's girlfriend ( which i'm not we're just an item, not bf/gf) and they all think we've been to second base ( which we haven't) and all thisa other stuff, but i haven't told the that they're wrong. should i tell them that none of it's true ? i dont know what i should do cuz then i don't know what they will think of me even thought that shouldn't matter. all the girls in my class are the type to go to a party and suck face in a corner, but i'm not and neither is my boy. i'm just really confused.
HELP!

Answer 1

They suck face in the corner because they want the boys to like them. Look at you, you your boy likes you and you and him don't even do all of that... Kudos to ya. Let the other chicks in your class know that you and your boy have not gotten down like that yet but that you and him like each other anyway without all of that... They will wish that the boys they suck face with liked them that much...

Answer 2

Well, my personal belief is that honesty is the best policy. So I'de say tell them they are wrong. Odds are nobody will hold it against you. besides what can they say? You are just proveing that you have higher standards. That is nothing to be ashamed of. I have to say that I am proud of you. There is nothing wrong with takeing your time, I know it's hard but honestly it will only make it that much more special. And don't forget you want to be shure its the right one. Good luck and keep your standards high, there are not enough girls like that anymore and it's something to be proud of not ashamed of.

Answer 3

I think you should be true to yourself. Which outcome will you live with best? Telling them what they want to hear or what you think is the right thing to tell them. As hard as it may be, the more times someone comprises or lies the easier it becomes to do it again. So as an outsider i say tell them the real story. Consider what they may think if you don't tell them and they find it to not be true? you'll be worse off. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

It is none of their business. Let them think what they want. If you tell them the truth they are just going to make something up anyway.

Let them be sluts alone. Don't fall into their game. They need someone to gossip about.

Answer 5

I totally agree with Mighty. They are probably jealous that you have someone you can count on and be with. You don't have to tell them it isn't true unless they ask...then tell them it isn't and that you and your boyfriend aren't that type...say you have something special, and you both are totally happy and more than fine with it. If they start teasing you, just say you don't like the idea of acting like a slut, and would rather have morals.

Answer 6

I can't say my original comment cause it may be considered sexist.

why not just suck face and so atleast you can talk about it in a current sense rather then as a lie.

Or be honest and suffer some prestige.. but if you explain it by saying that the reason you did was to____ keep things stable or to feel comfortable around them etc... it might be valid..
it is still a lie but you most likely had a good reason for lying.. every lie has an emotional reason (usually desire for the best relationship posible using facts to mislead a circumstance.

Embelishment etc.. although being honest is important.. you must relize that a "lie" only exists within an "expected" cultural reaction.. where as removed from the semantics of our communication, language etc.. we all represent the truth of our "being"

so even though you think you lied, you only think you lied because you don't understand the full truth of your communication..

in that sense you are lieing to yourself.. and you don't fully understand you told the truth, but misleading the other party by "assuming you know" how they would veiw your statement.

while this appears to be a lie what it actually is is rhetoric.

I've found when in the past i thought i may have mislead someone (accidentally or non premeditated) i.e. i have never schemed to lie. and later tried to explain the miscommunication, i've found myself needing to even lie about lieing because some facts were very much valid, however the interpretation of the facts, was not, although the semantics did i suppose leave room for alternate interpretation.

the answer of course is to bring your male friend in on the lie, and ask what he thinks about sucking face, incase you need to fool them in the future.. like get photos of you sucking face.. even if it isn't sincere.. just so you can get your image how it best suits the situation...

or NO no lieing is wrong...

etc.. and just ask for forgiveness.. etc.. I think that is why catholics may talk to confessors.. so they can just avoid the issue completely.

i would tell them right away... but I'm not you am I?

lying is a way of communicating "what you mean" the direct result of the extended result may differ, we are not 100% logical language creatures us humans.. we are "emotional and "psychological" creatures who use mediums of occult sociocultural systems to create identities with our perceptions in the world.

the analytical or over logical analysis of psychology is based upon social standards.. while you can live within a cultural system.. the cultural system is not the "real" total system. we have inate capacities to understand qualties of meaning "or empathy" or emotional capacities that derive from in neurochemical and biological basis to have a stimulus response process to interpret physical stimuluses, as well as the sense mnemonic capacities to derive the meanings of our environment and illicit responses.

While totally emotional, mental, physical or cultural systems fail to fully explain a paradoxial reality.. if we include spiritual and divine sentiments to the mix, we should realize that while one of our systems is creating an idea , other sentiments will also explain things.

you may not be tuned into all your interpretive systems yet, but at an unconcious and temporal mnemonic system, the divine design of our makeup as entities in reality create a fully interpreted truth.

There is a paradoxial issue of course.. and that rests on the divine purpose and the system of self composition, or prioritization of interaction. If you understand that you are set.

essentially your reason for lieing "was still attempting to do something" it was an action.

now many cultures veiw lieing as a naughty thing because it disrupts our mental/physical processes in the physiopsychoanalytical process.. however lieing is a very real thing.. it is just that lieing reminds us we don't really know.. but that in itself is a lie about culture.. we do know.. it is just what type of communication or "facts" we utilize and make synonomous with "truth" facts arn't truth they are facts. so you did not lie, you demonstrated a "false fact" or falacy. it is only a lie if they know, that is they see the full truth. (and nothing but the truth etc..) Of course support of the truth.. leads to truth while falacy leads to falacy (what a tangled web we weave.. etc.. would you like kids, maybe a little to young to decide? because the other people don't interpret you as being "uniform" except by changing the mode of cultural interaction. (while that is something else entirely and called knowingly "manipulation" and that may be even "naughtier")

while that is a lot like lying.. it isn't exactly the same, because a "healthy minded person" wouldn't register the fact as the truth..

they would see it as "a statement at that time, in relation to the situation.. anything more is overanalysis and unproovable, within the scope of your own reality.. and in all honesty shouldn't have bearing.

although I think facts weight heavily in history i think a healthy minded person should wholey seperate - experience from secondary source explinations.. because they arn't explaining the experience.. they are adapting to the current environment.

Much the same, our current actions in mind of s/r is that we act based upon our current environment internal and external..

there is a great emphasis in "socioscientific" modern society to place great weights upon logical reoccurances, in mind of knowledge of empirical basis for creation of situations which past derived will be ideal to some goal or purpose. "intent"

it isn't required... however it seems people like to be "in control" rather then a child of reality.. however in full understanding it is quite redundant both ways. however the prod is the concept of "evil" or "pain" etc.. however that is a balance.. but that perhaps is life..?

all in all it will sort itself out.. if you are for supporting empirical process then I suggest telling the truth so they can register you as a lier, however if you support emotive submission to reality then live the lie.

Answer 7

You don't need to justify yourself to anyone, but it's respectful to your boy to set the record straight if someone asks you. Just be yourself.

Answer 8

well you can either live a lie or tell the truth. that lie isnt going to hurt anybody anyways

Answer 9

well yeah you should tell them the truth you don't want them thinking your a slut now do you.gl

Answer 10

i wouldn't pay any attention to them. this is your life, and this is between you and this boy, not you, this boy, and other people. people love to hate people who've got their lives more together than they do.