Shouldn't the women do the cooking and cleaning up the dishes for Thanksgiving dinner?

Question

That is the way it is in my family and I figure since the men do more hard work than women, that the women can do that kind of stuff....besides it is a good bonding time for women and makes them feel needed. I'm supposed to go to my girlfriend's house though and the have this system where the guys do the dishes and the women cook. I'm not a woman and I don't think that is right. Am I right here?!?!

Answer 1

no you are not right. "it is easyer for a man to stand in the heat of battle 3 times than it is for a woman to bear one child" (i bet you cant tell me where that quote comes from. no one else has got it right yet) besides i am a teen guy, and i am going to be a chef after college. so at all the family meals people beg me to cook. all the best chefs in the world are men. so to put if off on the women is not always right. and men should halp with the dishes, come on the women do a lot of hard work that they never get credit for.

Answer 2

For what it's worth, I offer this:

Let me begin by saying that I see nothing wrong with this shared work thing. Let the women cook and the men clean or whatever that family think is right. Let me also say that I am a man, and I do not like sports.

Why tell you that? Once a woman found out that I do NOT follow football. She told me that I should. I asked why, the only answer she could offer was "Because you're a guy" I had her right there. I asked if I understood her correctly the ONLY reason I should follow football was because I am a guy. She acknowledged that this is what she said and meant. I replied "Well following that logic, why aren't you as a woman, at home, barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen?"

Before women everywhere get mad, understand this. I don't think that, I just wanted to use her logic against her.Having said this, the person that posted the original question is probably trying to use some humor. So all of the people here that are now angry with him...get a sense of humor.

Answer 3

I am a woman,

Thanksgiving is about family, tradition and sharing. Most families these day require both parents to work, so men are NOT doing all the hard work. Taking care of hearth and home is a 24/7 job and most women do most of it AND have a job outside the house as well. It may be tradition in a lot of homes for Mom do all the cooking and cleaning, but that does not make it a requirement for her to do it all.

If your girlfriends family has a tradition that if the women cook then the men cleanup, good for them, that's called sharing and that's what it's all about. If you don't want to share or just can't get into the spirit of the season, then stay home. Or go back to your cave.

A woman does not need to cleanup after you to feel needed, no one does.

Answer 4

If the guy makes all the money for the family then it's alright for the woman to cook and do the dishes for Thanksgiving dinner. But it's also sweet to help out because cooking is already tiring and I'm sure it's not just cooking that the woman does. Women who stay home do more than men who work. Women get up earlier to fix breakfast, to get the kids ready for school... to do grocery shopping, pay bills, run errands, wash clothes, fold clothes, clean house, help with homework, massage the husband if he needs it, women barely have enough time to take care of themselves when they're a stay at home mom... so give her some slack and help out.

Answer 5

50 years ago you might have been right but it is the new time and one should change and accept new things......in this day and age, women and men work and live equally. both work hard equally [not like 50years ago] men can bonding experience as well as women can..since thanksgiving is a family gathering, both men and women should cook together, share to work cooking the meal, sharing the dinner equally, and the clean up should also be equal.........it is not a woman thing or a man thing, it is a family thing......this does not mean the man is weak or sissy, it means the man is a wise, and strong man, and accepting equal roles .....the only thing a man can not do is to have a baby, that is woman's work....the rest should be 50-50..............[i trust that this is the only thing about sharing chores that will remain that the women has to do and the man can sit down and smoke his cigar]

Answer 6

Do not feel that way. I always help with the dishes, trash, after Thanksgiving Dinner. There is nothing wrong with the guys helping out, since the ladies slaved in the kitchen for 2 or 3 days prepping for the holiday meal.
Do you think the dinner is cooked within 1 or 2 hours, no it is not.
It makes the ladies feel good as well when the guys, kids help out in the kitchen.
I am not a woman, but you are wrong for not wanting to help out.

Answer 7

Sounds a little old-fashioned to me. And define "more hard work." If you could carry a baby for nine months and then give birth, raise the child and handle everything else around the house, I think then you could justify that statement. Until then, let's not get into the men vs. women debate.

So, back to your original question of who should clean up. Actually, those who spent all day in the kitchen cooking the meal shouldn't have to clean it up. Everyone else who enjoyed the meal can do the dishes. That's how it's done in my family. The chef(s) gets to relax while everyone else (men and women) cleans up the mess.

Answer 8

No you are not right. Woman do more then men. We Work at a job 40 hours a week. Then after work we clean up, give kids baths, do the dishes, and everything that the men leave laying around we pick up. So on Thanksgiving the men should let their wives and girlfriends to know how thankful you are of them doing this job 24 hours a day 7 days a week.

Answer 9

No O.o you're not right at all
1 ) If you truely think men work harder then women, try raising children yourself! There are women who work too you know, just incase this century hasn't caught up to you yet XD. And did you know that child birth is the most aginizing pain in the world.
2 ) There's no difference XD what they're doing is faire. The women cook and so the men clean. They split the job 50/50 If you wanna hav it the other way around, then you cook and they'll clean.
3 ) Women spend their whole lives cooking AND cleaning for you, maybe you can give them a break on this holiday and do something.

Answer 10

you are so wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
yes that is the way my father was brought up. but please this is ,let me, oh yea 2006!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
why should the women spend all day in the kitchen cooking, sit down eat, then spend the rest of the day cleaning. when you will be totally enjoying your self doing what ever it is you men do.please don't get me wrong .i'm not man bashing. i guess i feel this way because my husband has always helped me with the cooking and cleaning. believe me it's wonderful to have a man help.
now where in the world do you get that men do more hard work then a women. you young man need to spend the day in a house with kids and do what a woman does in just one day, let alone in a week, month, year.