I'm very insecure and sometimes I feel people take advantage of this?

Question

For instance people that I know. Sometimes when I talk to them. They really stare at my face a lot. I feel it's like there trying to say there's something wrong with me. I know you think this sounds nuts but it's true. I've even told some of them I think I'm ugly. And some of these people have told me otherwise that they think I'm pretty. But then they do this to me. Are they trying to see what wrong with me that I think I'm ugly. I told one of my friends about how this really good looking guy out of the blue smiled at me but then just kept giving me these weird serious stares. He did this like 5 times. And then when he was with a friend he obviously said something to him because the friend looked back at me and had a smile on his face. I told my friend I think he said I was ugly she just went omg and walked away. Another girl she told now when I talk to her looks at me and really stares. I guess they think I'm crazy. But I really think people are always judging me.

I mean am I just being paronoid? Because people can be mean. And I feel when I talk to people they're analyzing me.

Answer 1

You seem to think a lot of what others are thinking about you and others know how you feel about yourself, so they take advantage of it. There is an online course you can do to raise your self esteem, maybe you can give it a try and see if it helps. I hope you try it and it works so you can think more of yourself and stop worrying about what others think about you. Good luck!

Answer 2

When you are insecure, people can tell. You need to be content with yourself before you can feel at ease around other people. The fact of the matter is that most people don't care this much about other people. Most people will point out someone else's short comings in order to compensate for their own insecurities. If they are not doing this, then odds are, they don't think you are ugly. Their are more ugle people out there then pretty people, if you consider the two terms as television and pop culture define them. Seeing unattractive people is not an uncommon thing. Most people don't stop in their tracks and say to their friends, "Holly Sh*t! That girl is figgin' ugly! I've never seen anything like that before! It's like she got dragged behind a bus or something!" No this doesn't really enter in to most people's heads throughout their day. They have bigger problems to deal with in their own life than you, but this is a good thing in a way. The fact that people only care about you superficially is not a bad thing. You should feel free to experience your life in any way you want and not feel the need to conform to someone else's view of what beauty is. If you think others are judging you, they probobly aren't. It is most likely all in your head.

Answer 3

It's your own insecurity that is making you think that everyone is judging you. To be quite honest, it really does sound like people are staring at you because they think you're attractive. Guys don't smile and stare at chicks that they think are horrendous. They don't want to attract that attention. As far as your friends go, they're probably just getting annoyed by your behavior and that's why they just say omg and walk away. They don't want to hear it anymore. You need to try to be more confident. When you think you're beautiful and you walk tall people notice and draw towards that. Nobody sees a lonely person crouched in a corner who stares at the ground. That person doesn't look like fun to be around. People don't think you're ugly. Just you do. It's up to you to change that.

Answer 4

gurl, u r not ugly. when ppl stare at ur face, they r just tryin to concentrate to what u r sayin and givin u all of their attention. if a guy is givin u a serious stare, then it's not a "ur a freak" stare so what is the opposite of that? "this chick is HOTT" and especially if his friend looks back and smiles that means his friend probably thought u was hott too. ppl r not judging u. just try to not care what other ppl think. its really hard, but when u do, u will be so free.

Answer 5

I am very insecure also and have a hard time looking at people in the eyes. I always think that people are thinking bad things about me or judging me and think I need to ask what people are thinking because I always think or assume they are thinking something bad. I really think they are judging me. I wish I could help you. Maybe your not crazy at all and it's normall. I don't know.

Answer 6

it sounds to me like your a people pleaser, you care about everything,you wear your fellings on your sleeve.In high school I was everyones friend,even with boys,I never tried to push myself on anyone.I don't know how old you are ,but I'm going to give you some advice.One day when you can go out with a really good friend, just one now.Put some make up on,a good pair of jeans, a low cut short.Now before you head in the mall or where ever you hang out at,pretend your pretty, make that image be the only thing you see.put your head up high, smile and enter the room like your that pretty girl in your head,It works, be someone else for one night and see how easy it really is.

Answer 7

they r, i am the same way and i luckily married a man who keeps me form it too much and it helps so i don't get hurt by it...u shouldn't care what everyone thinks, bc they really think what u think about yourself and it shows

Answer 8

do uhave something weird onur face?

Answer 9

Please send me a photo of yourself and I will tell you if your ugly or not. [e-mail]

Answer 10

F*CK WHAT OTHER SAY/THINK/LOOK
get that in u mind.