I want to know of the men. If you had your shopping list of all you wanted in your ideal companion, but did not meet such a woman (ever or yet) would or could you settle for a woman who seemed to match 90% of the characteristics on your list?
Would you say to yourself, "I won't meet anyone perfect, but she is the next best thing."?
Are you the type to settle?
2006-10-10 15:18:25 · 9 answers · asked by dream_angel_come_true 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one is perfect. I'm not, nor do I expect this of my mate.
What I do expect is that WE will be able to communicate perfectly! That we will share perfect trust with each other.
I am married and while we are not together at this time, we are still the Best of Friends. To this day, I trust her with my life. I can tell her anything and not worry. She can do likewise.
I would expect nothing less!
2006-10-10 15:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by Ol' Sasquatch 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
of course! it isn't really as neat as a percentage. It's either a yes 100% or a no 0%. But you know you love someone if you're willing to take the bad with the good; if there's more keeping you together than holding you apart. People who hold out for the perfect have an issue that means they're avoiding the relationship for another reason. For example, you will get someone that might have a really nice first date with a person but not see them again over something really trivial- these 'ticks in all the right boxes' people are running scared of a relationship and are not really ready for one- it's just a defence mechanism to dillude themselves that the person wasn't 'right' or 'good enough' in some way when the issue is on themselves! In reality I think it's more a case of people having to settle for 65% rather than holding out for 85% -does that make any sense?
2006-10-10 15:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. There was a time I would settle for nothing less than perfect match. As time pass by I realised that these things happen in movies only. Lately the sight of happy couples surrounded by children depresses me.
I am quite ready to settle down if I can get hold of a decent girl.
2006-10-11 19:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by netwalker01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off the "list" as you call it is a none starter, as we all settle for something. The whole point of a relationship is to see if you are compatible, I am sure there must be a million and one things I do that tick my wife off but we are very happy.
Like wise there are things my wife does that tick me off but that's just part of us and our relationship.
What you have to do is make sure the number of ticky off things isn't greater than the none ticky off things.
As we change when we get older in lots of ways, what might be the one who tick's all the right boxes on your list today, might not be the one who ticks them in 5 or 10 years time.
You have to work at a relationship it's not just a case of having a check list.
2006-10-10 20:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by si n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no one ought to "settle" while it comprises an prolonged term courting or marriage. you would be caught with this individual for the full relax of your existence, continuously, a existence sentence. in spite of if, all of us who attracts up a procuring checklist for a "desirable" spouse is on thoroughly the incorrect song besides. a individual's desirable adventure is in no way somebody who looks desirable, has money, has such and such occupation etc. a individual's desirable adventure is somebody who "suits' with their character, values and emotional outlook. there are diverse adult men obtainable who think of they like a tall redhead, or a busty blonde. the explanation they finally end up marrying a quick brunette or a skinny mouse, is using the fact they do meet their genuine desirable adventure, and recognize that visual attraction would not count. that may not settling, this is waking as much as your self.
2016-11-27 20:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question... Yes I would settle for someone with 90-95% of the ideal traits. At that point their wonderous traits cover up their worse characteristics.
2006-10-10 15:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes with a woman if you get 5% of what your looking for its a good deal! They are such complicated unpredictable adorable creatures - you just can't help loving them all!
2006-10-10 17:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by scrambulls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from a boys, lads. or a mans point of view women change so many times of there life, so if it was a shopping list as you have asked ??? boys- go for your oats, lads- go for the cake and men keep sampling the fruit till you find the ripe one and don't take the bad eggs of the shelf.
2006-10-10 15:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by fivelighters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, a football watching, beer swiller. Yeah if she did it 90% of the time, I'd settle for that.
2006-10-10 17:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by Blulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋