Mothers needed!!!?

Question

Hay Girls I am a 24yr.old women with 4 kids all girls ages 7,4,3,2 they sometimes can be a hand full. Well my oldest is growing up and I know thats life but God its too fast, she just got her little women hair down there . Its not a bush but about 3 little hairs. I was thinking doing something special for her like have big girls day out just her and I. I was thinking I should wait until the big one what do you think? We have been talking about this sence she was about 5yrs.old. But its like this came from no where.I She is kinda of happy about it, then she started to cry last night thats when we found out about the hair.She thinks she cant play with her sisters no more or her toys(dolls). I told her this just mean she really have to be a big sister and she can still be a kid just a big kid. Do you think I am going about it the right way? My Mother was not ther for me when I was going through things like this,I learned on my own. Sorry so long

Answer 1

Don't worry about what other people say. I too started getting hair down there when I was 7. No big deal. I am perfectly fine today. I don't have horomone problems (like some of those women suggested). In fact, I am a healthy pregnant 20 year old today and my period came when I was 12. Some girls just grow faster than others. :D

I think celebrating is a fine idea.

Answer 2

I think it's a good idea to go out for a girls day, not to celebrate puberty because for kids how exciting is it really?? But to go out and talk to each other, just be careful, she is only 7 and might not understand some things. Another good thing out there are these books, "The body book, it's a God thing" and "The beauty book, it's a God thing" both by Nancy Rue. They help with certain things that girls go through and it is all done on their age level. I got them for my daughter summer of 95, she started to develop as well and it scared us both.She was 7 and not even in 2nd grade yet. These books are pretty neat, I read them first before I gave them to my daughter. They even have a place in there for them to write their fears down and pray to God about it. I took her to her pediatrician as well and talked to my daughter with her doctor. I think you being there for her is great, she needs that but still remember her mind is young and don't feed her too much information.

Answer 3

I'm sorry did you say she was 7. My goodness that sure does seem REALLY REALLY YOUNG to be approaching womanhood. She is just a little girl still. I also don't understand what you have been talking about since she was 5. Do you mean pubic hair??? Why??? And finally, what do you mean when you say you you were "thinking about waiting til the big one". The big one "what"?
I truly am not trying to be rude or put you down , I just have never heard of this before.

Answer 4

My mom was a full-time work mom, I totally understand. I think maybe it would a good idea to go out and have big-girl time, maybe get a pedicure together or something. Not necessarily celebrating her hairs, just good old fashioned girl time. It might help her understand that even big girls have play time, just not with dolls. :-) And maybe help her transition be abit smoother. There is light and the end of the tunnel and that sort of thing.

Answer 5

I think you are a very loving and caring mommy for wanting to help your little girl go through this. I have to wonder though if making a big deal about this really the best thing for her. Put yourself in her shoes, if you were seven and you got a few pubic hairs would you want to go out and celebrate? Normally this is a very private matter for girls, please keep that in mind. Keep re-assuring her that she is going to be fine and she will still be herself, don't treat her any differently. Let her be seven. Lot's of hugs, lot's of talking. See your pediatrician, he or she can help re-assure her as well and make sure she is maturing normally. Again, I think you are very caring mommy and only you know what is best for her. Good luck, sweetie!

Answer 6

I think you're doing a wonderful thing. If you and your daughter are this open with one another then you know you two have a wonderful relationship. When your children seem to tell you everything before they tell their friends, this is an awesome thing. Trust me, my mother wasn't much of a help, and I would have loved talking to her about these things. She needs you more than ever, and you're a great mother. I don't think it's strange for you two to talk on an equal level, but at the same time, you are still her mother. A +. Good job, Mom.

Answer 7

Any time is good just to have a girl time with your oldest daughter, it doesn't have to be a "special" time. You should do it with all your daughters. They are all different and need one on one time with mom anyways. Reassure your oldest that she has a great placement in the family, Tell her if she wants to still play with dolls to go right ahead, try not to let her grow up too quickly, it's such a beautiful time in her life so innocent.

Answer 8

It's nice that you would want to celebrate puberty but seven years old is way too soon. This is called "precocious puberty" and can indicate a hormone problem and could result in her not growing to her full potential.

She needs to be seen by a pediatrician and probably a pediatric endocrinologist as soon as possible to have this sorted out. Please don't delay because sometimes a tumor can cause this and this could be life threatening.

I applaud you for wanting her to have the support you didn't get,but this is way, way too early for her. At seven she deserves to be a "little kid" for awhile longer.

Answer 9

I think it's great that you would want to celebrate her approaching womanhood. By all means, just the two of you go out and do something special. Make it a ritual for every milestone. She will need more of these as she tries to seperate herself from the younger ones and I think this will make it easier when the inevitable rebellion hits in a couple of years.

Good for you!

Answer 10

Maybe play dolls with her, color in a coloring book, make cupcakes or cookies together..let her know she can STILL be mommy's little girl and a young woman at the same time...My daughter at first tried pulling the hairs out...until she FINALLY told me about them..then THE TALK had to be had!!