I had a lot of sexual and physically abuse from more than one person all starting a few years ago. Since then i keep cutting myself because it gives me temporary relief from my inner pain. I try to hide it so much, but my parents finally found out and made me go to a therapist. I hate going to the therapist and after I go to it usually I just cut myself more. I only have one true friend I can talk about it to and that helps but as soon as he is not around and I have no one to turn to..like right now I can't do anything with the urge. I desperatly want to stop this does someone have any advice i haven't heard?
2006-10-10 15:15:40 · 10 answers · asked by Emily B 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
stress usually makes everything worse
some people who cut are trying to bring the pain from the inside onto the surface
it helps you feel what you know you contain but can't seem to touch under normal cercumstances
there's the rubberband thing which you use to control the urge to grab something and start hurting yourself
cutting can be pretty addictive. i have some advice that i tried for myself that worked. i don't know if it'll work for you but: try picking out mostly things to wear that don't cover where you went wrong. whatever you did to yourself, don't hide it, don't be ashamed. if people are constantly asking you about it [even if it's really obnoxious and nosy] it does keep you thinking about why you're doing it. because the truth is, there have been people in your situation before and there will be more in the future and they didn't all come up with the same behavior, the same solution as you. don't victimize yourself too much because then you just end up feeling weaker, unable to stop. each person copes differently. what you need to do is introspection. look inside and consider what went on and what's going on now. if you feel an incredible amount of pressure (from any source) try and find a way to start relieving it. don't try to constantly relive your nightmares. don't let your days be preoccupied with hidden things. if something horrible is happening to you or in you than you need to figure out why. write what you feel, talk about it, think about it, read about it.... one day you may discover you know how to answer the questions yourself.
there's books you could read (not to help you decide if you are a hypocrite, more to help you decide hoe you feel about what's going on inside yourself)
Cut by Patricia McCormick (one of the most famous)
checkers by john marsden
skin game (i forget the author, go look on amazon)
there's also books claiming to know the reasons behind why people cut. i read one and it was terrible and unhelpful but who knows? they are probably not all like that.
and there's oh-so-many more...
trust me. they don't give you answers but sometimes that's not really what you need anyway...
i hope you find your way towards peace
2006-10-10 15:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by emeraldnoctis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My last therapist had a few suggestions for what to do with the urges to self harm, that don't actually harm while they do hurt.
Get a pitcher, like for tea, and fill it with ice and then water. Stick your hand and arm inside and keep it there until you absolutely cannot stand it, and maybe a little longer for good measure.
Fill the tub with the hottest possible water you can stand and take a bath.
Pull your hair (not out tho).
Pinch your upper inner arms.
There are many ways to feel pain resulting in temporary relief from inner pain that are not going to make you suspect by your parents and that don't cause actual physical harm.
Also I agree that you should insist on a different therapist. Personally I've been through about 25 therapists in 20 years. When one doesn't work, get another. You're allowed to shop around, and only you can be an advocate for your own mental health.
2006-10-11 05:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by apeystar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't know if people have already told you this but i know that therapy doesn't help at first after a while it gets better, i was just like that only i was depressed but things will get better. i am sorry that i cannot give anything good to help you but i think that you should look for more friends that are close to you so you don't feel the urge to do things, like cutting yourself.
2006-10-10 15:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by metalchik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you can get the help you need...seeing a Therapist is a good start but, are you being completely honest with him/her that you continue to cut yourself after your visits?
Hope there is some helpful information here:
Go to this site and in the Search box type in "cutting" or "cutting myself" and you can get some good information that might help you in your battle...
http://www.teenhealthfx.com/index.php
Here's another place you can go that also addresses self-abuse:
http://www.selfinjury.com/
Good luck!
2006-10-10 15:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by GeneL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,i saw this exect same case on Oprah sometime back, the gilrs on the show told that when they see their blood, they feel they're alive... If you really want to get out of it then sit down with your parents and ask for help ...In Oprah they they showed that their parents arranged some help for their daughter and she was taken to some place for a month or so, and they were recovering fast.... Ask your parents to help you,
GOODLUCK.
2006-10-10 15:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
*hugs* Please find an adult you can trust and talk to. Hopefully you can find a therapist you can go to, they should be helping you instead of making you cut yourself more. Instead of cutting, maybe try write down your feelings when you feelings (you don't have to show to anyone if you don't want to). That's good you have that one friend:) Good luck and I hope you can find happiness because you deserve it.
2006-10-10 15:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by rachee_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like your current therapist, maybe you should ask for another. I'm sorry that you have been through so much.
2006-10-10 15:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by ralahinn1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it,put this sh!t behind you or CHOOSE to live a life of hell! Yes,you can choose to set all the crap down and get on with your life or hang on to it and blame anything that doesn't go your way on what happened.You ARE that strong!!!!
2006-10-10 15:27:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try cutting classes instead. It worked for me.
2006-10-10 15:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by David V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this but u need help, bfore u go to far. Good luck
2006-10-10 15:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by tear drop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋