We all have friends we love dearly, but some do tend to talk on & on & on and need to spend an hour or so getting it out. You know, the "just one more thing..." and... and... it's driving me crazy. I can't be rude but lying to get off the phone is really annoying as well. I even tried to let her know I just have so much "space" to listen to "stuff." How do you deal with these people yet not offend them?
2006-10-10 14:59:56 · 8 answers · asked by Lake Lover 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Be honest in a loving way. always works best in all things.
2006-10-10 15:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by bittywrap 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's hard, because you also need to think that if you were in a situation where you needed to really talk it out obsessivley then she would be there for you, right? but it does get tiring if the other person is constantly obessing all the time over every little thing. try and remember she would and will do the same thing for you if you need it. everyone gets annoyed listening to people talk over and over about the same things, but thats what friends do..they listen, even though it gets annoying. how did you try and let her know? did you tell her? try telling her not to obsess so much over things because you see it is ruining her and taking over her life. tell her you are there to listen but that it is not good for her to talk for soo long about things all the time, because she is missing out on fun times (as well are you, but try and make it all about her and it wont offend her)
2006-10-10 15:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by 47skittles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tough, but u have to be tougher.
Do not ask a question, about the topic ur friend says, because the answer could be very very long.
Try to break the flow ur friend may be talking unless it is very important.
Tell her u have 10 minutes in hand. I have to clean the house before my guests comes, I will call u later!
Ask a question she does cannot give a proper answer. like
why is the sun shining so brightly ?
why/How does the waves move in the ocean?
she may try to answer, but she will come to know she is a chatterbox.
2006-10-10 15:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by Venkatesh V S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am one of those people who talk to much. I am working on it. My niece told me she would call more often, but she always make sure she has time. That was my turning point. I did not get mad at her. It was just a wake up call for me. It did not even hurt my feelings.
2006-10-10 16:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by hello 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just "space out" on them when they are talking. Then say something like "huh?, I was watching TV.....what did you say?" Then when they start to repeat themselves say something like "OMG, I just thought of something really cool!!" then tell them something meaningless.
They will get the hint after awhile.
2006-10-10 15:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by stolibabe2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do like I do... and as soon as they call before they even start talking tell them .... they only got 5 mins b/c your in the middle or something.
OR don't even engage, tell them you'll have to get back to them, another time... and call them at your leisure and not at theirs.
2006-10-10 15:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by * Deep Thought * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use caller id. And, I may call and say-I have to leave or do x in x minutes, so, I cannot talk long.
2006-10-10 15:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by catzrme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the truth hurts - but it's all you've got . She is not cognizant of being rude to you , so she won't be cognizant to hurt feelings when you you suddenly exclaim loudly -"OMG , I've got to run ;" thanks for calling ".
2006-10-10 15:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋