Nothing I do... My occupation, my relationship, my friends... my parents DO NOT approve. They (and my fiance) control me and tell me what I'm doing wrong. How do I tell them to let me chose my own life?
2006-10-10 14:52:24 · 10 answers · asked by mandapierson 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is hard to please everyone all the time.When you are only thinking of what would my parents do, you never have the chance to dream your own dreams about your future. Not sure of your age if you are a teenager or a young adult. But your financee sounds alot like your parents. Meaning you would be going from a home of trying to please and fulfil your parents wishes, demands for you to going on to having a husband the same way. First try to sit back and figure out what your dreams are. Girls dream on getting married and sometimes they jump at marrying the first man to come along to get away from their parents. If you don't do this(figure out your own dreams) you may wake up 20--30 years later and realize that they may be happy but you aren't.
2006-10-10 15:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by seekinghisface1974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and optimum, enable me start up off by making use of asserting I thoroughly comprehend the place your mothers and fathers are coming from. 2 ppl, who've achieved drugs together in the contemporary previous, in a dating on the verge of marriage is a purple flag. whether you're saying the two considered one of you have been sparkling for 5MONTHS i'm nevertheless a sprint nervous concerning the finished marriage element. 5 months isn't an exceedingly long term after having an habit. Your sobriety remains untimely. You/he would have a relapse. And if the two considered one of you're together then it could convince the different. Dont rush into shifting decrease back in together. i'm unsure in case you/he are thoroughly waiting for that step yet. You cant make a dating artwork in case you dont have yourselves together. provide it awhile. A 12 months on the least. i understand this "seems" like an prolonged time yet Sweetheart a drug habit is not any comedian tale. the marriage existence is not any comedian tale. Couples face many stumbling blocks whilst they recover from the edge. think of roughly it... the smallest little bit of sadness ought to bring about a relapse. artwork on you FIRST. Then think of roughly your guy/dating. Cuz if he leaves all you have is YOU!
2016-10-19 04:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by oleyar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents control you,your fiance controls you..hm sounds like co dependency to me,you need to stop living the way others want u too and live your own liife for awhile..being on your own can do great things for one self esteem.good luck
2006-10-10 15:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on with your own life. If they cant appreciate you for just being REAL than that is their prob not yours. If they haven't ever been happy they never will. Another thing you CANT make someone do something that they don't want to do. REMEMBER that OK
2006-10-10 14:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by tqpinklady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by just doing it....chances are they will never be happy with what you are doing unless you do exactly what they want, but you will end up so unhappy...trust me, i do what others think is right and all i wanna do is something for myself but now i am so scared. just accept that they might not approve but assure them you are happy this way and to leave you alone....then just ignore them and think of how much better off you are doing what you want.
2006-10-10 15:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by 47skittles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need a copy of my cd or book, how to build a better you and let me counsel you on this subject. second why r u trying to please your parents, they may not aprove but its, your life and they have to respect it, and second if you fiance doesnt aprove of you, then maybe he's not the one, there is a difference between advice, acceptance and control. e-mail me at admin@outreachfamilycenterinc.com and checkout our site on yahoo! www.outreachfamilycenterinc.com
2006-10-10 17:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by charles h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your fiance controls you then you need to get out of that relationship. you need to gain confidence and stand up for yourself. you're obviously old enough to do so!
2006-10-10 15:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by keep it real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are living under their roof you don't get to choose your own life. For that you have to get out on your own, pay your own rent, pay all the bills yourself, pay for a car as well as to insure it, pay all of your medical and dental bills, purchase medical dental insurance for yourself. Pay for the internet and cable television, pay your cell phone bills and of course pay for your own groceries.
2006-10-10 14:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
run away and don't marry anybody who wants to control you unless you are incompetant and need that guidance you need to break free from their binding chains and be who you are on your own. they will never change and neither will you and you will be miserable if you live like this forever.
2006-10-10 15:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by L.J. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to stand up for yourself you life is all that you have, you have no choice but to make it your own.
2006-10-10 14:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by monkeys_and_the_dancing_sheep 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋