I know ur thinking to yourself..."yeah, whatever.. another kid saying they are in love" but your wrong....im 16 years old but not at mind...all throughout my life, i have been told that i am a very mature & responsible young women..which i agree...i have recently ( about 7 months ago) gotten EXTREMLY close to my dads best friend...i have known him since i was very young but we have fallen in love...we are the greatest of friends, have the same goal, dreams, and desires....we want to move to a more intimate realtionship but we have both made the desicion to wait until i am 18 (legal) b/c we dont want to risk anything....i want so bad to tell EVERYONE about the greatest guy in the world...but i cant...so i will contniue to be unknown...but i have to say..its the greatest thing in the world!!..o yea...hes also going through a divorce!
2006-10-10 14:45:37 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are not having sex!
2006-10-12 10:42:05 · update #1
One day when you grow up you will realize how ridiculous this situation is. I do hope you get over this guy who's going through a divorce & getting sympathy from a 16yo girl before you "turn 18 and become more intimate".
2006-10-10 14:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of 6, I can honestly tell you that this is not love. It's your first love. We all have them and we never forget them but they are not real. If you really feel it is, then wait a minimum of 4 yrs. I know that it may sound like a long time but if it truly is real, it will only be stronger when you two meet again. I don't care how mature you think you may be and I do know a lot about that. I have a son that was diagnosed as a genius at 5 yrs old and he has always been years ahead of most everyone and guess what? At 25 he still needs mom and dad's advice. Don't be in a hurry to grow up. You get a measly 20 yrs to be a kid then you may have up to 70 yrs to be an adult.
Oh and another thing, if it is real, then you would not be ashamed and go and tell your parents immediately. If you are afraid, then it's fake. Real love gives you strength beyond what you think you have.
2006-10-10 15:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by califdreamer_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not the soul mate of this guy. His is someone someplace else and he needs to wait yet another year. For real. He would wait that year in jail if I had the ability to tell on people at Yahoo. Yours is someone someplace else too, and you will meet them someday, if you really believe, the way you once believed the tooth fairy.
I'm sure everyone notices you do not go on dates or dances with other guys at school. What do you tell them?
This is stupid. You're going to be pregnant before you get to college...unless he's one of those "get an IUD and don't worry me about a baby" guys.
Hey, how does your dad feel about this relationship? They're best friends, I'm sure they talk... Well, I'm being disrespectful but this don't make no sense...! Not in today's world where you MUST have a college degree just to flip burgers, let alone anything else....
Good rule of thumb: If you can't tell people about who you love, then you shouldn't be with them.
2006-10-10 14:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, first of all he is NOT you father's best friend. If he was he would never prey on his best friends 16 year old daughter. What he is, is a coward. If what you were doing was in any way ok (or even LEGAL), you would not have to hide it. And you maybe very mature for a 16 year old, but you are just 16, and he is old enough to be your father. The reason that guy's like that date younger girls is b/c girls their own age (or even within 10 years of their age) won't have anything to do with them. You should not have anything to do with him and try connecting with someone a little closer to your own age. Believe me you will in the end feel like you were taken advantage of by this guy. And that is exactly what is happening. If you believe that it is truly ok, talk to your Father about it, see what he thinks.
2006-10-10 14:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by amberzworld101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, If this is true love then I am very happy for you. It sounds like a dream come true. But also try not to lose perspective. though you may have a lot in common there are different levels that you cannot relate on because of your age difference. Also make sure he's not just seeking refuge from a ruined marriage. It's easy to fall for someone young and new when you've just got out of a hard relationship.
2006-10-10 14:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by politeplayer12 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what to say. I mean c'mon. He's your dad's best friend do you really want to ruin the friendship they have 2gether. The guy is over twice your age and I really think if you date him you are sick. He has slept with his previous wife already and I'm sure many women before her. You should really not take this risk and tell him that this isn't going to work out. When youre 18 he'll be 35. Don't be mad at me, you asked a question and I just gave you an answer. He only wants one thing from you and you need to stop it before he gets it.
2006-10-10 14:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would most definetly say, that this guy needs to find someone his own age, and stop messing with children! Maybe you are mature for your age, but you are still only 16, and I know a guy from here that went to prison, for that exact thing. So, your best bet, is to get away from this guy, and in a couple of years, you feel the same way, and he hasn't found another kid, look him up.
2006-10-10 14:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by Nicky J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl dont listen to anyone else if you claim your in love and KNOW THAT FOR SURE then your right wait till you get 18 first and then go for it but I HOPE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING THOUGH. but be real are you really goin to wait 2 years just to have sex etc... come on if it does happen and your dad finds out etc.... you may be in trouble you have a lot that could happen in 2 years new people you have college to think about why tie your self down already with just one guy.
2006-10-10 16:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run..... it isn't right! You are young and you will find out that you don't know everything like teenagers believe.... I am glad you are waiting until you are 18, but you are giving up the best years of your teenage life.... He is not being fair to you by even getting involved the way he is.... He is way out of line and I can bet your dad would kick his a$$ if he knew what was going on....
2006-10-10 14:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by Couple of Cents 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i won`t say your wrong,i been your age before,and you probably are in love.But this man should have his **** kicked,unless hes a bit daaaaa..Then there's no way in hell hes going to make you happy.things Will change and he`ll either become ( gag0 to you or you`ll grow up and realize omg i am with a old man,good luck but dang think about what your doing,and that is a big age difference
2006-10-10 14:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋