This is just something I have been wondering about for a while since this guy asked me to make love to him!! I just met this guy about a month and 1/2 ago!!I told him that he didn't love me so why did he say make love!! He said that we didnt have to be in love to make love so I want to know your opinions about this!!! Keep in mind that I have not done anything with him!!!
2006-10-10 14:33:03 · 26 answers · asked by ♥♥Mommy to 2 Divas♥♥ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People do not have to be in Love to make Love. It means much more when you make Love to your mate or someone who really Loves you.
2006-10-10 14:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by Olustee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just saying it that way, "make love" because he thinks it will sound better to you. It's like when a guy lies to a girl and says he loves her just to get her to sleep with him. He's not lying to you but by saying make love, it's making it sound like it's more then sex to him. Only you know him well enough to know how much this guy really cares about you. If you don't feel he does then don't sleep with him you'll probably most likely regret it. Girls are more emotional even in the beginning of a relationship, if you have sex with him and he tells you all the right things. You may really get hurt because you'll now have your heart in this. Guys are more physical, especially in the beginning of a relationship. He can sleep with you and leave you maybe the next day. I'm not saying he would but a lot of guys can separate feelings and just having sex. I would definately wait a while if he really cares about you he'll have no problem waiting for you. Good Luck with this!!! And don't do anything you'll regret when the sun comes up, because the sun is suppose to make you shine not cry!!!
2006-10-10 14:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be in love to make love, but be careful. Sounds like this guy is a player. If you're ok with that, no prob. What sometimes happens though is having sex creates the illusion of love, so you have to be really clear about what is going on, don't get any false hopes or expectations. At least he was honest and didn't lie about it.
2006-10-10 14:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by orphanannie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man, if you had to be in love to make love half of us would not be here. But, emotional commitment does help. Half the time(speaking from experience) we don't really know what love is. Guys more than girls(obvious truth) don't have to be in love to have sex, but with all the diseases that are out there, I would be really careful. Herpes is the gift that keeps on giving.
2006-10-10 14:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you're asking why "make love" and not "have sex." I kinda think the same thing, my boyfriend one night out of the blue said he wanted to "make sweet love to me all night..." I thought he was being goofy, but days later he mentioned he started to feel differently towards me that night, so I think he meant he loves me. Words are confusing things, as they can be interpretted different ways.
2006-10-10 15:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by cocoanutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is making love that he wants, then tell him no you cant make love bec you're not in love! Obviously what he wants is sex, if its ok with you then just don't think that what you're going to do could lead to love. Sex, sometimes have nothing to do with love.
2006-10-10 14:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by maimai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the guy wants is to play & toy with you .. leave that thing in a dumpster .. dump him!
& this is a guy telling you.. so you better think it straight !
lol..
no but to be serious you should make your own choices.. dont be pressured my someone else
2006-10-10 14:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by chirayu1990 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he crazy to tell you to have a sex w/ him? Better for you to keep a distance from him, why have sex when you're not his girlfriend? Is he really serious asking you that? You're not a paid woman just to have sex w/ him, he don't even gave you any respect. You might just get a disease from him, or just trying to if your easy to get. Take care...
2006-10-10 14:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think sex is a whole different experience if you are in love, but it can be very passionate even if you don't love the person, so no, if you are not in love then its just passionate sex and if you are in love then it's making love
2006-10-10 14:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay without getting to detail oriented...... No one does not have to be "In Love " to have sex, f**k or however you choose to put it. To make love signifies that the partners are " In Love" so I say No you cant make love without being in love.
2006-10-10 14:35:57 · answer #10 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋