My boyfriend & I met on an online dating site, & have been dating for 3 mos now. We live 6 hours away from each other, and see ea. other every other weekend. When we decided to be exclusive I made the agreement to take my profile off & cancel my membership. He said he renewed his 3 wks before he met me. & didn't really clarify to me that he would at least hide his profile or cancel his membership. About a wk ago, I went on the site (just activated my profile-then deactivated it once I found out) to just see if he had cancelled his membership. Nope. It is still on there including new pics. He came out and told me 3 wks ago that he's in luv w/ me. "A lot", he claims. He calls me everyday, & always including me in his future plans as far as marriage, & children & exotic vacations. I have been told "not to worry about it...we've only been dating for 3 mos. & that I should be more concerned if we'd been dating for 6 mos." He's even going to introduce me to his parents in 2 wks.
2006-10-10 14:01:31 · 10 answers · asked by Greeneyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I would ask him about it NICELY. Do not assume anything, and explain why you're asking. You haven't REALLY been together that long at all when you look at it, and he shouldn't blame you for wondering if he's a trustworthy guy. Tell him it's nothing personal, but you prefer to be safe, not sorry in the early stages of a relationship. If you're both discussing marriage and children, then you should like to feel comfortable and able to trust him. Apologize for putting him on the spot, and ask him why his info is still there with new photos. (Are YOU in those photos with him??) Just remind him that you're asking - not accusing. You can always leave yours on the system until he removes his. Keep your eyes open, good luck.
2006-10-10 14:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to break this to you gently, so I'll just come right out and say it.
Your boyfriend is a dirtbag. You guys made the decision to be exclusive, which to means that he should have removed his profile as well. Since he didn't bother to do that AND he has included new pics, I think it's safe to say he's out shopping for another girl.
Him telling you "not to worry about it because you've only been dating three months" is the most asinine thing I've ever heard. What is that supposed to mean? That until you reach the six month mark he's free to do whatever he wants?
I would seriously consider whether I'd want this guy as my boyfriend or not. This guy sounds like a lot of the winners that I have dated.
2006-10-10 14:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl, you kind of sound like me-email me at riakapur4@yahoo.com please! i need some feedback too on my situation-i live in ny-my bf in TN-we met via a site too and he wants to meet up this week-we met 2 weeks ago in delaware-he came up to see me last month-though he's always reassuring me too that he wants to marry me, he wants to meet my folks and that he is ring shopping, i am still a little worried-for one he hasn't called or emailed me since friday! i called his house and his brother was like oh he's been MIA for a few days and we haven't heard from him either-so i don't know what to think-he has been played so i would only hope that he doesn't cheat on me-but with ppl you never know-i am so sick to my tummy coz i am worried really concerned hoping that he is well-and not in any sort of trouble-he doesn't even have a cell phone! i only reassure myself that he and i were friends before we hooked up-i don't know what else to think-as far as you are concerned, yes, he needs to get rid of that profile coz ur exclusive...no ifs or excuses about that one! otherwise, u putting ur profile up too!
2006-10-10 14:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by ria k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying, obviously he is being truthful about how he feels about you or he wouldn't introduce you to his parents. So he is still on the site, it doesn't mean he is actively looking for someone else. Build a little trust!!!
2006-10-10 14:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by gizbit76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be fooled.. if his profile is still there more than likely he is still fishing.. Why else would he put new pics up.. remember that is where you met him and he is probably hooked to that site.. I am talking from my own experiences.... unless he is totally honest with himself he cannot be honest with you.. Proceed with caution. Keep your options open as well.
2006-10-10 14:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by VI H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bail. Now. The warning signals are going off all over this guy.
2006-10-10 14:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK. Ask him. He sounds like he loves you. But still does stuff behind your back... Ask him. You don't have a relationship without honesty & trust.
2006-10-10 14:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by anything2getin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey if he is still on a dating site and actually posting new pics you need to find a new man. he is lying to you
2006-10-10 14:04:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he said said he loves you, and i don't think i'll worry too much about it, unlese you find out that hes cheating on you. and plus, he calles you everyday, right? bet hes mad about you.
2006-10-10 14:05:04 · answer #9 · answered by :D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just ask him what he still does on the site, just don't sound to controlling
2006-10-10 14:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by Brittany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋