I would like to know the advantages/disadvantages of wanting to stick with a first date through thick and thin in order for the relationship to end up in marriage. some ladies like me just love the idea of marrying the first guy one ever agreed to date. Please help as I don't know if it's a good idea!
2006-10-10 13:58:44 · 28 answers · asked by wittybaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BAD idea. You need to test the market. Of course it also depends on how lucky you are. If you have offers all over the place you may want to take em for a test drive. If you think that this is the only guy you will meet for a LONG time, then I would do everything in your power to keep him. It's sad but true.
Chin up.
2006-10-10 14:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Nice Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole idea of dating different people is to learn what you like and dislike. You will never learn and grow if you don't experience dating different guys. You cannot predict when the right person will walk into your life and you need to be open to the fact that it might not be until you are in your 30's. It's true, many people marry their high school sweethearts and die in each others arms in their 90's but that's only because they got lucky. Do you really want to be with someone you don't really like just because it sounds romantic that he's the first person you dated. What if the shoe was on the other foot and a guy stayed with you just because you were his first love and didn't really like you?
2006-10-10 21:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by Christy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey... slow down a little gal! Variety is a GOOD thing! Find out what you like... and take your time. Marriage is for a LONG time! Do all you can to be sure it's right for both of you. It's true, especially when you're older... sometimes you both know right away... but usually people are more in, "lust" than, "love."
Have some fun now... and when you do get married... marry a guy who makes you laugh, treats you like a queen and is your best friend too... along with the ability to take care of most of the financial responsibilities. Yep, I'm old-fashioned. It's nice to know you CAN take care of yourself... before you allow someone else the pleasure. Good luck lady! :-D
2006-10-10 21:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by LL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I usually only date if I think if it is possible to lead somewhere, I go on dates for fun. 2 dates max. However if it becomes a relationship, I try to date for marriage. I would have loved it if the first bf would have been the guy I married but sadly it ended.
2006-10-10 21:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to have a good long term relationship with the first guy you date, but it is rare.
I have been single for close to ten years now. And geesh if I married the first guy in my life the.....I probably woulf be divoriced many times by now.
I am waiting for who and what I need. There are some situations that just can't be worked out.
2006-10-10 21:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait!...how old are you? I'm guessing that you are very young. Please see other people first and then you can decide if you really want to get married. You know, marriage is not just something you go into and later decide that you should get a divorce.... Marriage is something that should be thought about emotionally, physically and religiously.
Enjoy life and meet exciting people. Stop thinking about marriage--at least for another 4 years.
2006-10-10 21:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by jm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not 100% absolutely sure that you want to stick it out through "thick and thin" then don't. Life is too short to be unhappy. You may be young and think you have your whole ahead of you, which you do, but make sure it's a happy one!
Good luck!
2006-10-10 21:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you haven't experienced other relationships, it doesn't mean your marriage will fail.
It actually depends on the person and for you, it may benefit the marriage.
As long as the feelings are mutual in the relationship and you're willing to commit to him, then you should follow your heart and not worry about what others say.
2006-10-10 21:05:46 · answer #8 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the first guy that I dated. I think that I only dated a couple of guys in between. My husband went out with a couple girls, then me, then a couple girls, and wanted me back. He says that after me he kept on comparing the other girls to me. I don't know why- I am your "plain Jane". But we are happily married for almost 5 years. He has a son with one of the in between girls, and together we are about to have our third baby. I think that because we knew eachother when we were younger and 'finding' ourselves, we have a lot in common. We love eachother and it worked for us.
2006-10-10 21:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by kelliemag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh-yeah that would be awsome! one way to go is just skip the whole dating thing and marry the guy on the first date( not the drunk kind but the kind where both of you have that feeling of wanting to be with each other for the rest of your lives)
2006-10-10 21:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by dbobb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋