My ex, who is the father of my two kids has supervised visits twice a week with the girls. I allow him one of these visits at my home. While here today all he did was put in a movie and lay on the couch while the three yr old consistently asked him to play with her. I went into the room they were in to play with her while loser watched a movie. Our older daughter was wearing a tshirt which read,
"friends don;t let friends chain dogs."
We used to have a dog and while training her she was confined to the bathroom for a certain number of minutes before being let outside and then being allowed to be in the house. This took a few months. He made some comment about us abusing the dog and how it was ridiculous for her to wear that tshirt and then laughed at her. I told him that if he couldn;t be respectful in my house that he would have to leave. So he got up and left without even saying goodbye to anyone. Was I out of line, or justified in asking him to leave?
2006-10-10 13:46:02 · 12 answers · asked by ? 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think your just being a good mom! Your kid was wanting attention from the father and he wouldnt give it to her! That right there is disrespectful enough! But for him to sit there and laugh about ANYTHING that has to do with your daughter I think is just wrong. I dont think you were out of line WHAT-SO-EVER. Obviously he has done something wrong for you guys not to be together anymore! For him only seeing the children 2ce a week and not wanting to spend every minute with them, I also think theres somethign just not right there! At least they have 1 parent that pays them attention!
2006-10-10 13:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ciji 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wonder why he even bothers to come over at all. He obviously doesn't care about any of you. My mother used to say that she only raised me out of a sense of duty as a mother, and not because she cared about me. If I could go back I would have asked her to give me up for adoption, which she threatened to do numerous times. So, I think it's better for a kid to have no parents than neglectful or abusive ones.
2006-10-10 21:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I that is the only thing he has done, then you have probably just had a "knee jerk" and kicked him out. IF that was not the first thing he has done, you should have picked up on how he was years ago. You will probable take him back when he comes back and asks you to let come back.
It was YOUR house and you have LET him live there all those years without ANY commitment??? Does he work? Is he a freeloader?
Good luck. Pops
2006-10-10 20:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by Pops 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off, i think it's unfair that the kids can't get their share of a decent man who is also their biological father, you can immediately start seeing why the guy is where he is.
he needs to grow up and perhaps you're the only one who can teach him or show him the consequences of his actions. don't stop trying, you can't be out of line doing that and you're justified because hopefully (really hopefully) for the kids; when they're old enough to really really need him you'll have smoothened out his edges a little bit more than they are right now
2006-10-10 20:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by Can I Be Your Pet? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing hes obviously a loser if he came to lay up in your house and watch TV hes obviously not there for your kids!
2006-10-10 20:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by benard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to be a lazy prick he can go do it some where else. I agree with you. You should rethink the supervised visits.
2006-10-10 20:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definately did the right thing. He doesn't need to come into your house and disrespect you or your children. That's just wrong.
2006-10-10 21:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by StarlightRedemption 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what was right. Kicked his butt to the curb! It's your house and he should respect you in it instead of acting like a slob!
2006-10-10 22:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by katiemcecil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU WERE SO RIGHT; IF HE CANT RESPECT YOUR HOUSE, THEN HOW CAN HE RESPECT YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN. AM GLAD YOU KICKED HIM OUT. IT GOES TO SHOW WHAT KIND OF MAN HE WAS HE DIDNT EVEN SAY GOODBYE; THERE'S TO MANY WOMEN OUT THERE THAT DONT STAND UP FOR THEMSELVES AM PROUD YOU DID. TRUST ME! YOUR BETTER OFF WITHOUT HIM.
2006-10-10 21:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by lovee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think that if you thought that it was out of line you have the right to throw him out of your house.
2006-10-10 20:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by Kayla L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋