Went to wedding recently. They were both nondenom christians. They had a huge wedding and she had a big honking rock on her finger. Do you think that this is very christian of them I mean considering how many out there are starving. They say to follow in path of Christ. Do you think that Christ would aprove of this? Wouldnt this remind him of the "roman way"?
2006-10-10 13:45:41 · 17 answers · asked by onthefence 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
For those who asked. I do plenty in my comunity to help out. We own a huge house in Elgin that I have opened up to the homeless can u say the same. And about being envious. Dont think so
2006-10-10 13:51:20 · update #1
Dear on the fence,
I think that is a universal truth that we can all do more for our brothers and sisters around us in need. If we each examined ourselves critically i'm sure we all realize that we fall short of God's glory-- how many times over the course of the day do we fail to help every single person we can. I can just say most people do their best.
In the parable of the talents-- God makes a point to teach that it is not how much you do - it is how faithfully you use what you have to serve others. Comparing leads to arrogance and pride. So i would say that God will judge them on how they use their time talents, money, and resources (whether for themselves or for others). It is not fair to judge their Christanity by knit-picking.
Additionally-- it's their wedding day and i think that the husband was showing his affection for his bride with the ring. It's not my place to judge his intentions- but i think we should give people the benefit of the doubt- and it's not crazy to think a husband wants to give his wife the nicest ring he could to show his love- and not to show off.
You're point is well taken that Christians can be sucked into materialism and should be more mindful of others. But your attitude i think is rather "self-righteous" and i don't think any of us are in a position to be...
Kindly,
Nickster
2006-10-10 14:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Nickster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know who paid for the wedding or how much it costs? How do you know the ring wasn't a family heirloom that had been handed down (as several couples I know have done)? How do you know that the wedding itself cost that much? A lot of churches have really inexpensive wedding packages that might look pricey, but they really aren't. Bottom line, you don't know these things, and it's after the fact now, so the best thing you can do for them is to pray that their marriage will glorify the Lord, not nitpick any blessings that might come their way.
2006-10-10 20:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Pastor Chad from JesusFreak.com 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
many people get wrapped up it the material part of the wedding. it's not a christian thing to do. society created the engagement ring some time in the 1900s (can't recall exact year) but rings are a must have. it is the vows that make the wedding and they'll probably realize that when they look at the debt from the wedding bills. it's a sad thing that people think they have to have it. be glad that you're eyes were open to that sort of thing. most people are walking blind.
2006-10-10 20:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by sweetiethatcares 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being that we do not know the finances of the groom, it is difficult to tell if they were overzealous in buying a ring. Typically, the man is supposed to give a ring equal to two months salary. Perhaps he was a man who earns a lot.
Or perhaps the ring belonged to his mother or grandmother. There is no way to tell, but I'd not judge them like you have, I would have simply enjoyed the wedding as Jesus would have done :)
2006-10-10 21:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people make a lot of money, so they may have a lot even though they give a lot, and I don't think that's wrong. The Bible says that we'll be blessed for giving to others.
But I do believe in modesty. I myself would not like to be rich, because I understand the temptation to use money very unwisely, and I understand how easy it is to look like you have a lot of money (like buying expensive jewelry just because you can). I wouldn't want to look like I have a lot of money.
2006-10-10 20:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by ryanjamesm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree! The challenge to rich people in this life is to live in humility not living large but using your excess to bless others. Now I dont know if that is or is not the case with the couple you witnessed but they are perhaps off to a wrong start in life, But then again it is a wedding and it only comes once!
If the people in question went on to live a great life giving to people in need, then GREAT! If they continued their lives in a materialistic fashion, then God help them!
2006-10-10 20:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to enjoy that you were a guest, wish them well, and ask forgiveness for your fault finding (and perhaps envious?) attitude.
P.S. After your follow up comments, I can see these answers are right on the mark about you!
2006-10-10 20:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by Esther 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And how many starving people have you fed?
If they have the money for the big rock, they may also have the money to donate lots to charity.
2006-10-10 20:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna keep my thoughts to myself on this one and grab the 2 points. Some good comments posted already.
2006-10-10 20:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him without sin cast the first stone
if you are so worried about the poor then sell your computer and give the money to them.
you could also sell that huge house and give that money to the poor also.
2006-10-10 20:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋