Answer if single over 40 with new ideas?

Question

I'm in my 50s secure, single and just decided to look. (Wife passed 12yrs ago). Seems I get a lot of wise cracks, answers from kids who don't have a clue about age, for obvious reasons.,and useless bull which makes me think dating today is a joke. Lots of women have shown interest, but they see $ signs, and that is a major turn off. Am I doomed to go to the final last resort? The dreaded supermarket?? Compete with the cabbage? I don't go to church, either.

Sigh.. No, sweetie,my life doesn't suck, it is great, I just want to enhance it, that's all. See what I mean guys?

Answer 1

Well, I'm 32 but I feel my many dating experiences can make up for those 8 years I am missing.

You must be open minded when you are trying to date. To be open minded is to expand your mind to new horizons. First, you must get out of the house so you can be seen by the ladies. Get dressed up really nice and stylish and go to an upscale lounge/bar or a night club, the book store or coffee shop. Or get active and join a bowling league, a ski club, take swimming lessons, golf lessons, go play Bingo, take a cooking class or join a gym/health spa. There are PLENTY of single, beautiful ladies at the gym.

Think about things that ladies like to do and you will find them there. For example, women love to shop,so go to the mall and flirt with a few ladies that look single and available. Also, ladies love to go get their nails and hair done so go to a salon or a nail shop and get yours done so you can meet and talk to some of the ladies. Also, you may want to start traveling some to some other cities and states because you never want to limit yourself to one location. You may find a lady in another city, town state or even country at some of those same places I mentioned so go out there and mix and mingle. It's a big, big world!

Another word of advice, don't tell the ladies you meet about the fact that you have money. As a matter of fact, don't even tell them what you do. Just tell them you are a business man and leave it at that. You have to get to know them first before you tell them about your personal and financial business. If you wait to reaveal yourself and be patient, they will start revealing things about themselves and you will eventually weed out the ones who only want you for your money because they will start saying and doing certain things that will show you they are up to no good.

Remember, she IS out there but you have to believe it and get out there. Just be more creative with where you are going to go to meet these ladies, make yourself noticable and you will find her. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 2

There R Some Fine Ladies right Here,U Just Have To Profile Them And Talk To The Ones That Interest U,Build A 360 And My Space Then Make Some Friends I'll Check To See If I Can IM Or E-Mail U Then Add U Then Invite U To 360 Then U Gotta Make Ur Own Cyber Sweeties And Take It From There

Answer 3

Cabbage aisle?? You wouldn't find this 52 year old single female near the cabbage. If you are going to try the supermarket, your best bet is to just go up and down the aisles. You can't get a woman if you are going to stand in one place. Watch for a woman who is picking out the same things that you buy. At least you know when she cooks you a meal, it will be something you like.
And churches? You wouldn't find me there looking for a man because most of them are already taken. And whatever you do, don't go to a bar, that is the worst place to find someone. The women who are there are usually trying to find men with loads of money or don't care about themselves. This is what I have seen years ago when I use to go hear country bands. I don't drink so I have watched many drunks do stupid things.
At our age, dating is harder because we become more wiser when it comes to choosing someone we want to spend the rest of our lives with. Keep looking the woman of your dreams maybe right around the corner. Just don't check out the cabbage.

Answer 4

I am not single anymore, but I just turned 46yrs, this is my helper for you; I have been divorced for over 12 years, with the same dilemma. My friend suggested I go on;
www.filipinofriendfinder.com
and import a wife who is loyal & will sign a pre'nup.
So I did, then I went to Manila to meet her, now we are engaged to be married, she is just 25yrs old but mature & we are both very much in love, we hope to marry next June after the visa has been approved.
Sit on the shelf & live in hope, or jump off & take the bull by the horns.
Life is too short to be alone & sad.

Answer 5

(first of all, I'm sorry about your loss)

As for your question and comments, "dating is joke' sort of... at least here.... some will and some won't give heartfelt answers if they even one, you've seen that already.

As a woman in (somewhat) your age bracket; I am not in my 50's, but am secure, and single. I find it strange to believe that older (single) woman ARE only looking for money; as at this point in my life, I might be single (choice or not) but I HAVE TO survive and HAVE TO support myself, and that has had to be a priority.
Money is important but it will never buy me.

I don't know where to tell you to look, if I knew... I'd meet you there, lol.. I know it's not the supermarket in my town.. haha... the picken's of men there are as lame as the picken's of veggies...but if you figure it out, would you let me know, too?

Answer 6

awwww... I'm a rule breaker here so I just had to answer even though I'm not 40 something. LOL. Damn, life must suck for you. Gaming for points not money.LOL good luck though

Answer 7

I am 41 and married, sorry, but have you tried any other hobbies where you can meet new people?? Try something new and exciting!!! God Bless!!!!