Alright, gonna put the past 9 months in a nut shell to shorten this up. I am involved with a girl with a child and an ex-husband. I came into this relationship with my eyes wide open, I knew that the ex-hub was always gonna be around because they had a child together. No big deal, right? Well things went smoothly for a while we had our arguements and our fights, but about 3 months ago she told me she just wanted to be alone to think things through. Said she couldnt move on from her marriage and that she was going to try and fix things. (they were only divorced a year when I came into the picture) So I leave, we still talk everyday and whatnot. Well it came down to it and the ex said no he didnt want to get back together. But now because she cant afford her bills shes moving in with him and telling me that she still wants to be with me... That nothing is going on and that she really was never attracted to him she only wanted to fix things for their son.... What to do? Sorry for length.
2006-10-10 13:37:20 · 9 answers · asked by constance 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems everything you are believing is coming from her lips, is that right? Its a crazy situation. Its not like she was only separated, she was divorced and had been for 12 months. What is going on. I wouldnt be accepting anything she was saying to me. I would go straight to the source. Ask her ex-husband. When you talk to him you will have a better idea about what the true situation is.
From what you have said though, she seems to be playing you. I know when you love someone it is really hard to see the truth. Love is blind is so true. If you want the truth, then go ask the husband, if you want to believe everything she is telling you, then keep it like it is. But for your own self respect, if I were you, I would be confronting the ex. Maybe he could tell you a few things about her that you didnt know. But how stupid is he letting her move back in with him if she claimes he doesnt want her back. Its all very fishy to me...you need to find out the truth.
Good luck
2006-10-10 13:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as much as you probably don't want to hear it, I say leave them alone. For whatever reason, (financial as she claims, or as a way to "work on" getting back together) she's chosen to live with her ex. In my opinion, that's a deal-breaker. The smart thing for you to do would be to chalk up those last 6 months as an experience in dating, and finally stop communicating with her. This time, really stop all communication.
Perhaps she and her ex, by virtue of living together and appearing to be a family in front of the child, will indeed get back together--- which I think would really be better for the family. Fixing things for the sake of the son sounds like a good thing to do- the kid didn't ask for a broken home.
Wish her well and move on.
2006-10-10 13:45:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever happened to building a relationship from the bottom up?? I mean, you should be comfortable enough in any relationship to say "this makes me uncomfortable, and this is why". Or, use reverse psychology! Like, "Well, If that's what you want, I won't stand in your way, I want you to be happy, you have my #, when you are sure you don't care for him anymore, call me & we;ll talk. If I haven't moved on by then, maybe we can start over?"
2006-10-10 16:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say good-bye and move on. She seems to want to have u and the ex (which she's moving in with). Tell her you're not putting up with her pathetic drama. Go find someone who will give her whole life to you and you alone. Let her figure out her life by herself. Gd luck.
2006-10-10 13:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by Milie88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 20:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you are better off without her. he is an ex for a reason,but she must not remember that reason. if you stick around you will just end up getting hurt. and no one wants that.
2006-10-10 13:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say just forget about it. obviously she wants you because he didnt want her. didnt she think that she hurt you when she said that she wanted to be with him? apparently she didnt care. and why didnt she want to move in with you? she could have gotten child support or something. i think shes full of it.
2006-10-10 13:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by psychologistnovelist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, cut your losses and move on.
Life's WAY too short for all this drama.
2006-10-10 13:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What to do?
A*V*O*I*D this woman! This is going to be nothing but trouble for you.
2006-10-10 13:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋