Me and my old boyfriend started off by hiding our relationship, after awhile i told him he needed to tell his mom about us. i noticed how hesitant he was, part of it is because he is mormon. As a mormon his parents dont let him date anyone who isnt mormon, and im not. What it has come down to is he decided not to tell his mom so i told him i couldnt be with him. What hurts me is that he didnt fight for us, he obviously didnt care about me enough to tell his mom. I'm asking for some advice on what he may be thinking right now, and what do you guys think?
thanks!
2006-10-10 13:26:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats just how some guys are these days. they dont understand that girls like it when their man fights for them.
2006-10-10 13:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by Katy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I'm a Mormon and have been dating my Catholic bf for two years...
He might feel like his parents have a point in their seemingly bogus rule, which makes it easier to just end the relationship. Also it may come down to sex. Mormon's believe that you should wait until marriage to be intimate with your partner. If he feels like this would be hard for him if he was with you, he may have just used the parents as an excuse.
2006-10-10 20:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by DaniLynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie to my knowledge mormons are extremely religious people....he probably lives for the acceptance of his parents. But to tell you the truth if he really loved and cared for you and saw a future for you guys then he shoulda fought with all he had for the two of you to be together even if his parents didnt accept you....they may have been angry with him at first, but if they love their son then they will have to suck it up and grow to love you also. I can't honestly tell you what he's thinking but I can tell you this much he will be kicking himself in the azz later on for not fighting for you and will regret it in the long run. But if he wasnt willing to fight for you then he wasnt worth your time or your love.
2006-10-10 20:32:48 · answer #3 · answered by bebechinadoll_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion can be a tricky situation. He may be honestly scared that his family will turn on him for not following religious rules. Some people are just too stuck in traditions to accept other people, or other religions. Your bf not telling his parents may not be anything personal to you, he may be scared of what may happen if he does tell them about dating someone outside of the religion. It's not that he doesn't want to fight for you, he's just scared that if he tells them, he might lose you.
2006-10-10 20:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by consumingfire783 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask yourself, if he is not fighting for you, is it worth fighting for him? Something a lot of girls need to do more in their relationships is be more selfish and think about themselves. A lot of time we get caught up in it all, "love is blind", but this isn't the right thing to base a relationship on. If you think he is worth it, then approach him about the situation and how it makes you feel and if you are not comfortable confronting him about the situation, then perhaps you should move on. If you are not happy, it may be harder at first, but leaving could end up to be one of the best things you have ever done.
2006-10-10 20:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by cutie pie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do you ask us what "He's" thinking? How is anyone else going to be able to tell you that? Apparently, he's not as in love with you or mature enough to make the decision to call you "his girlfriend".
Find another guy...one who cares about you and move on!
2006-10-10 20:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright this guy sounds way sketch. I mean it may just be because i am close with my mom but he sounds like he was a bad deal from the begining. personally if he didn't fight for you he isn't worth it. you sound like a pretty girl who knows what she wants and if he is too stupid and too afraid to tell his mom he is not worth your time.
2006-10-10 20:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't understand the church and the pressure that they put upon him. If he keeps seeing you, he will lose his place in the highest spot in the highest heaven.
It hurts now to be sure, but he can't fight for you because he will be fighting salvation and the whole church.
2006-10-13 00:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be that he will never marry a girl out of his religion, and he knows his parents will never accept you, unless you become one of them. his respect for his parents and religion is holding him back if he really cares for you. give him some time to work things out. remember abscence makes the heart grow fonder. it could also be that he just wants to play around.
2006-10-10 20:32:44 · answer #9 · answered by shaglemongirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he didn't love you that much. I know i would fight for love anyday.. that is weird that his parents doesn't let him date non-mormons, because i know a bishop's son who lets him date non-mormons
2006-10-10 20:29:05 · answer #10 · answered by Well i Say.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a mormon for you. they'll fight for the right to have 12 wives, but heaven forbid one of them isn't a mormon.
2006-10-10 22:13:11 · answer #11 · answered by sickandtiredinpa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋