k so i just found out a few days ago that my boyfriend of 10 and a half months cheated on me. and its not like he just kissed another girl, he sucked on her b**b. shes a slut, she always has been. and the thing is, is that i trusted him, and loved him. i just dont know what to do anymore. just say anything you want about the situation, what you think about it, and what you would do. im heartbroken and im so upset he could ever do this to me. he meant the world to me. he was my everything. and now i feel like im nothing and that i wasnt worth his time and wasnt worth stopping himself from what he was doing.
2006-10-10 12:40:49 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break up with him. If he's cheating on you after only 10 months, you can be sure that he will cheat on you in the future. People like that aren't worth it.
2006-10-10 12:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by caylinn1996 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't beat yourself up over this, you are so much better than that. Some people just don't have any morals and see dating as more of a competition rather than actually considering other peoples feelings, it doesn't matter who you are even the most gorgeous women get cheated on by that type of men. I would stop seeing him, it is not healthy for you and there is no guarantee this guy won't do it again as his conscience obviously hasn't stopped him this time. Sorry this happened to you and better luck next time.
2006-10-10 19:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by Em_butterfly 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Baby girl check this out all men cheat at one point. If you are looking for someone to be t faithful until ya'll grow old and crock, it won't happen. You just need to make sure you get you. If you love him don't leave. But if you going to stick around you need to toughing up your heart so if it happens again it will not hurt as hard. I know it sounds crazy, but I have guy friends who are married and have beautiful wives and still cheat. But you know what they always tell me. That they would never leave their wives cause that is who they love. So if you know you man loves you....excuse my french...but **** the other whores. Baby girl you just worry bout you. Then if you have to leave him at least you know you did all you knew how to do to make it work.
Do you know that song "After the pain" by Betty Wright. I don't know if you listen to Oldies but Goldies, but she said:
After the pain
and all that we've been through
I still can't explain
why I still love you like I do.
And then there is another song she sangs called "No pain, No gain"
How can you gain this man heart and true love if ya'll don't go through trials and tribulations?
Check it out. It'll make you feel better. All women go through this so if your friends tell you to leave him alone. They're being fake.
2006-10-13 15:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by Heaven 2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, don't get down on yourself. He just isn't worth that. I know it hurts. You need to dump him, though. You deserve better than some BOY that will cheat on you. Remind yourself that you deserve someone who will treat you like a queen. It gets hard sometimes, but you have to get past him. Spend some time healing your heart before you jump into another relationship. This is the first time he's been caught. It doesn't mean this is the first time he's done it.
You are worth much better than some cheater! As far as you not being special enough for him, that isn't true. He just wasn't mature or ethical enough to control his urges. You are special and in time you will find someone who can be true to you. For now, get rid of this guy and tend to yourself. You are worth it!
2006-10-10 19:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just went through the same thing. I had to break up. People who cheat usually cheat again. And if you want a relationship in the future that is built on faithfulness and trust, you must move on. Don't build your life on shaky ground. Build your life with someone who is like a rock...and full of integrity. You have come to a crossroad...and the decision you make today will affect your whole future.
2006-10-10 19:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by :-) 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel so bad for you, i know exactly what your goin through, my man of three years and husband of a year just had an affair on me, and i was crushed, i love him so much and id never do this to him but it obvisouly didnt stop him, the saddest thing is, im still here, cause i love him and i want to work it out, but you know what dont put up with it you deserve and are worth so much more, find someone who will love you adn take care of you back adn be truthful and beat the sh!t outta her cause thats one thing i regret not doin to the ohter girl
2006-10-10 19:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by beautifulmommy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My advice is that you should dump him. If he didn't respect the relationship and you now that is still in its early stages, what are you going to expect from him later. Trust is broken and believe me it doesn't matter how much you love a man and what to make the relationship work. You will never trust the person again. Why live with the insecurity, find some one who will respect you and the relationship.
Best of Luck,
2006-10-10 19:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by MIRACLE2001 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes loving is a painful thrill, but not to love more painful still, but oh! Its the worst of pain, to love and not be loved again.....first of all...be angry! Use that to help you break it off if need be..then find a friends shoulder to cry on. Don't go after the gal he cheated with..you should be mad at him! Ok..so you may ask yerself..wasn't i good enough? Pretty enough..blah blah blah. Just stop that nonsense if you are. There is nothing worse than broken love, and broken trust. You deserve a prince charming! Square yer shoulders, take yer pride and walk! Good luck
2006-10-10 19:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by tonka 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From what u wrote down i can seriously say he is a complete *** & u should move on alone & when u do don't even think about taking him back no matter how cute he may look begging 4 forgivness. Punish him by dressing yourself up so he can look at u & think 2 himself y was i such a fool leaving that beautiful chick.2 get over him distract yourself with your favoriate activites. don't think you'll get over him over night cuz it will take a while & seeing may hurt u but don't let him c that part of u.
2006-10-10 19:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The way I see it is that he obviously didnt feel the same about you. I think its pointless to cheat. I would just get over him cuz hes not worth the time to be depressed and upset about. Move on forget him. The more you show that your upset and not happy than the more joy he gets from that.
2006-10-10 19:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by Kendra K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋