impurity ?

Question

do you think it is right let alone possible to save yourself until marrage?
i mean everything, kissing touching all that jazz.

I know it is, but what do you think?

good to know about the word "jazz". I will no longer use it.

Answer 1

Not only is is possible, It happens all the time.

Statistically though, only a small percentage of people get married. So you have to be prepared for the long haul.

I'm celibate. Been so for almost a decade. Gave my life to Christ.

That doesn't mean it's easy. There are temptations every day. We have to keep our eyes on eternity and remember that tomorrow is not a given.

Answer 2

Yes. Many have and continue to wait until marriage.
They simply do not get the hype that the impure ones receive.

Modesty in all things will protect purity. How do you act? What do you proclaim through your clothing? What are you conveying with your speech and body language? Discipline of feelings and imagination are a part of modesty.

These if explored seriously will give you a great assessment of your success in maintaining purity.

It is successfully attained more often than is reported in our culture.

Answer 3

Yes, for health and relationship benefits, if not for morality. I think people don't realize the effect that premarital sex has on the marriage relationship. When you marry as a virgin, there is no question, no insecurity, no jealousy for prior affections to disrupt the marriage. Also, I think there is a sense among young people that they won't get any disease... it happens, but it won't happen to them. That's a very dangerous assumption. "Kissing touching all that jazz" are temptations that are hard to overcome once they start. Sometimes things happen and you just cannot help it, but I wouldn't set out looking for trouble. God bless you and keep you safe. Amen.

Answer 4

With what measure will you give, you will be given with that same measure.
This is not just a biblical quote. see Newton's 3rd law of motion.
Its a natural rule the creator has ordained.
I kept My self pure till my marriage at my 30. I had many temptation even to have what ever I wish.
Just like me My wife had also decent friendships alone.
I have many college friends, they used to mock me when they describe about theirr XXX relations with their girlfriends. Now they say their wife are least trust worthy about thei moral side.

Answer 5

No. I mean - I don't think everyone should just sleep with everyone. But I don't think that sex before marriage is as horrible as people seem to make it out to be. I had two partners before I was married, as did my husband. Being a woman who lost her virginity to a virgin - let me tell you it's HIGHLY over-rated. Plus, I do think the quality of a couple's sex life and intimacy is an important part of marriage. How do you know if the man you marry will be able to satisfy you or you him and one of you won't end up stepping out on the other because of it? That's one of the biggest reasons for divorce, after money.

Now I'm not knocking saving yourself for your husband. If that's you're choice - more power to you! As long as you're happy with that.

At the same time I don't think waiting until marriage is right for everyone, nor do I think pre-marital sex is bad. I'm glad I didn't wait and if I had to do it all over again - I wouldn't change a thing.

Answer 6

Marriage in the old tradition requires a woman to be pure before the man she is going to marry. Oftentimes it is a tradition set by family of tribes who wants their family not be marred by any taint of impurity of anyone who is about to become a part of that family. It was one of the reasons why a marriage oftentimes are to be arranged by families making sure both sides have more than just a gift to offer...dignity.
Modern days and liberations of both man and woman on the arranged marriage has made it possible for both to decide their choices of partner in life. More liberated man had already accepted to marry a woman without a need for her to be virgin as it becomes more of a wishful thinking specially if the feeling of love is more stronger than what is ideal.
Now that there is love involved in marriage where there was less of it in arranged wedding, it also gave opening for both to really look for whom have truly have fallen in love with whether the woman is still a virgin or not. Purity now is based on the totality of the feelings for each other and no longer on the physical conditon of woman as far as her virginity is concern. Of course there are still who live in the past specially in those places where religion is the way of life for them.

Answer 7

in ideal circumstances, its preferable to "save yourself for marrige" definitely.

but I don't think its nearly as big of a deal as some people make it.

but it is signifigantly preferable.

I mean would anyone REALLY be comfortable thinking about the fact that the person they want to marry has been with a bunch of other people?

Answer 8

saving yourself till marriage is a beautiful thing. If you really serious about a relationship, I don't see why kissing and holding hands is not ok. however it does lead to other things. Just put God first in your life before a relationship. a true relationship with a boyfriend should strengthen your relationship with God not take away from God.

Answer 9

It is definitely possible. Can it be hard at times? Of course! We're human- we have sexual desire. God doesn't condemn sex- just sex outside of marriage. Sex is wonderful, as long as it is used within the boundaries that God has set for us. He doesn't do this to ruin our fun or anything, it's for our health, spiritual and mental well-being.

Answer 10

I'm 18 and still have my complete purity. I plan to keep it that way until I get married. Never hugged (in an intamite way), kissed, or held hands.