Do I write her a letter?

Question

I dated this girl for a couple weeks after flirting for a couple more. She decided she just wanted to be friends because she is still in love with her ex (they broke up on good terms-- he moved 1500 miles away).

For three weeks since then we've still hung out quite a bit. So much so, in fact, that many people have wrongly assumed we are a couple. Our interactions with eachother are also quite couple-like.
I without a doubt have feelings for her. Very strong feelings, actually. She's easily the closest I've come to finding someone with long-term possibilities.

I think she is honestly conflicted because of her ex. I feel for her because I think she wanted things to work out, but it was too much in addition to her stressfull life. It was just easier for her to be friends.

Now we're this psuedo-couple that obviously still has a lot of chemistry, and things are going nowhere.

I was thinking about writing her a letter. All advice appreciated.

~ConfusedB

Answer 1

That is a tough situation. Having feeling for and ex and still being on good terms is very tough for a girl, especially if she wants it to work out. You are doing the right thing. In time she will be ready. Just be friends and let things continue to grow. She will either realize what she wants is right there or that there is something else. You can write her a letter, but be careful because you don't want to ruin the friendship at this stage. She is not ready for anything else but friendship and I think you are doing a great job. Good luck and be patient, writing a letter will be good, just make sure she is ready.

Answer 2

Well, she probably thot of her ex the way youre thinking of her now: long term?

Perhaps she needs some time to herself...she may have dated you in hopes that you'd help her forget him and move on...and obviously, she hasnt. Write her a letter telling her that youre going to 'back off' but you really care to pursue something with her when she's ready.
Give her some space dude. Good luck.

Answer 3

A letter, although quite thoughtful, isn't half as good as expressing your feelings and pouring out your heart in person. Sure, it'll be hard to do at first, but once you start explaining how you feel, you'll keep telling her and maybe by hearing it from you, straight from your mouth, she'll realize you're truly fond of her and want to be in a relationship with her.
Also, afterwards you could always give her a little poem.

Answer 4

nope, just leave her alone and let her come to you!
If its right,she will!