So there is this guy I like, who's my friend, he's 10+ years older than me. We've gone out a couple of times and have had long conversations that lasted for hours about everything from our deepest secrets to relationships. He's given me signs that made it seems like he likes me, for instance, the way he smiles at me then kinda looks away, the teasing, things like that. Anyway, we laugh and joke around with each other all the time. There were times when he would find excuses to touch me, like my hand or my back. It kinda surprised me because I saw him as a very shy, and kept to himself type person.
Now the weird thing is, we have friends who are between my age and his age. Whenever we are around the people closer to his age, he tends to shy off and we don't really talk, but when it's people closer to my age, we act how we do when we're alone. I don't get him. He's told me that the youngest he would date is 25, but his actions speak differently.
Please, I'm in need of advice. Thx
2006-10-10 11:53:58 · 16 answers · asked by CROWN_PRINCESS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I'm 21. And in some ways I'm not like your average 21-year old girl. He's mentioned to me in several occasions that I'm mature for my age and other things that implied he didn't see me as the typical 21 year old. I'm one that's ready to settle down and have a serious relationship, I just don't know where this is leading... It's been going on for a couple of months already. Thanks guys!
2006-10-10 11:54:26 · update #1
where true love is , age is and should not be a barrier. His being shy amongst his age group may be a sign of his uneasiness amongst them... you know, some people develop late and adapts better with the younger generation... his case maybe. And with you , it seems you mature very fast compared to your age group.. but you see, we cannot measure maturity like that. I believe it is best you tell him how you think about the whole situation and the way you feel. he may have his own reasons for his weird actions...which to him are normal. It is best you talk it out with him... if he is not ready to talk, then be patient... allow him more time unless if you know he is definitely not interested in you then leave him.. for out there you will find your perfect match.. but do not forget to pray...for God is the best helper.. God Bless.
2006-10-10 12:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by srjione 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that it is alright. Why be shy of your relationship with other people? Anyways, you are both at the same level of thinking ang you'll know what to do when the time comes.
If you like him, then tell him or express it in other ways, if he's shy then you make your move. Nothing will happen if the two of you'll just stare at each other. If he says that he does not like you, then continue with what you have.
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2006-10-10 19:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by licorice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be rude, but he sounds kind of creepy. A man who is in his 30's should be a little more socially adept with women and people his own age. It's very weird how he can't relate to people his own age, yet is perfectly fine with younger ones. It's kind of creepy how he's with someone so young, too and then says 25 is his limit yet doesn't even listen to himself.
I find grown men who need girls so much younger to be a huge red flag. Ick.
2006-10-10 19:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id talk to him about it. Its the age difference. My hubby would do the same thing when we met. Hes also 10 yrs older than me. We had a problem with it in the beginning till I kept reminding him that he was acting different around ppl. He doesnt do it anymore.
Just talk to him.
2006-10-10 18:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are in love with this guy, and you're afraid of being burned by him because he's so much older and has these little rules to keep it that way (won't date anyone under 25).
It is likely he is afraid of his own feelings (I get this especially from the way he touches you). Tell him sometimes you don't know yourself and are afraid to discover how you really feel and see what that does.
Try to wheedle him into taking dancing lessons with you.
Don't tell him how you feel.
2006-10-10 19:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically he wants a piece of @$$ from you, and he's playing the "game" with you. Trust me...I've been there before in that same situation. RED FLAG...he acts funny around people his own age. He's a player, hopefully you know what that means. Once you give it up to him the game is over, and you lose. Leave his @$$ alone!
2006-10-10 18:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by ladyrapture1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I read it, and let me tell you that you shuold scoop it up to the next level... which is a relationship... it shouldn't matter what the friends have to say... I'm sure they might be proud of both of you.
Good luck with that!
2006-10-10 18:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by precious1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite him over to your place for dinner. Candlelight, a bottle of wine, or two, and a nice easy dinner for two. Dress sexy. Soft music. Ask him to slow dance with you. Kiss him and don't stop. If it doesn't move the relationship along he is dead and have him buried.
2006-10-10 18:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably embarrassed or kinda worried about being with you around him friends who are closer to his age or w/e. because you guys are so different n age he might think his friends will be like woah! f you really like him then talk to him about it.
2006-10-10 18:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by mm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out and tell him that you would like to see if this relationship can be taken to a more serious level.
2006-10-10 18:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋