spoiled only child?

Question

I'm not sure I understand the logic in the way wealthy people plan their families.
#1- They either don't have kids because they figure in order to maintain the lifestlye they live a child would only suffer because of both parents working so many hours. (respectable point)
#2- they have just one child, and lets face it most only childs are quite spoiled little people and the parent lives happily giving that one kid all he ever wanted when they are neglecting all the important values the kid is missing out on learning by not having siblings (sharing, playing nicely, patience, etc).
So the question is, why not have 2+ children when you can afford it and in the long run (and not so long run as well) that child could learn to be a more effective member of society starting as early as in preschool? I feel a wealthy family that can afford most anything a child wants can definantly handle 2 kids and would be helping the children in the long run. What do you think?

Answer 1

Actually, there have been studies done that show only children tend not to be spoiled. Because they have always had their needs met, they tend to have more patience in waiting for rewards. They assume that eventually they will get what they want so they don't feel the need to throw a fit. This in contrast to children that have to compete with each other for attention and resources.

Personally, I had two so they could play with each other when they were small. Then the teen years hit and I haven't heard the end of the screaming yet...

YOU TOOK MY..... NO, I DIDN'T! / YES, YOU DID!.... WHATEVER HE SAYS HE'S LYING!!!!!!...THAT IS SOOOO NOT FAIR!... WHY DO YOU ALWAYS PLAY FAVORITES!...

Answer 2

"lets face it most only childs are quite spoiled little people "
I don't really agree with that. If anything, I find that it's usually the oldest and youngest children that act spoiled.

"and the parent lives happily giving that one kid all he ever wanted when they are neglecting all the important values the kid is missing out on learning by not having siblings (sharing, playing nicely, patience, etc)"

Sounds like you have sour grapes. Not every only child is some spoiled brat. Look at the Hiltons. They have what, 4 kids? All of THEIR kids are spoiled.

"So the question is, why not have 2+ children when you can afford it and in the long run (and not so long run as well) that child could learn to be a more effective member of society starting as early as in preschool?"

Did it ever occur to you that not everyone wants more than one child? There are so many reasons: maybe they don't have time for more than one, maybe the mother's body can't handle more than one, maybe one of the parents was 1 of 12 kids and only wanted one child, etc. I don't think you're going to be a horrible person because you're an only child. I think it has an impact on your personality, but not necessarily a negative one.

Answer 3

I don't know why we should regulate people and tell them to have two kids for the sake of not producing spoiled ones when this is a free country and people should have the right to choose what kind of lifestyle they want. This isn't a communist country. Kids can be spoiled no matter how many siblings they have or don't have.

If you want to have two kids because you believe that it will be better for society, by all means have them. But people should have the freedom to live a life of their own.

Sometimes, you have to take into consideration that giving birth is NOT easy at all and can be really painful to a lot of women. You have to also take into consideration that some parents don't feel comfortable having more than two kids because of the emotional, financial and moral responsibilities. Lifestyle of course is a factor, but it really depends on the parents involved, and that's not your decision. Just because they can afford it, doesn't make them bad people by just wanting one child, that's not your say and for less fortunate people to be bitter over their better life is just plain wrong.

Answer 4

Well, I think if you can afford more than one, have more than one...but for some families they can only have one (for fertility or whatever.) Actually, in studies of only children, most only children are very giving and not as spoiled as people think. There is a difference between being spoiled and being a spoiled brat. And, you can have a spoiled brat with more than one child. It has less to do with having multiple kids and how you raise the child or children that you do have. Think Paris Hilton. She has siblings but has no concept of life. I wouldn't blame it on being an only.

Answer 5

I have only one child, and she is not a 'spoiled little person' as you put it. She knows how to share, probably better than other children that have siblings. She is very patient, and loves other children. We could not afford to give her everything she wanted (or that we wanted to give her) when she was growing up, and I think that taught her to be more appreciative of the things she does have and now that she is an adult to work harder so she can have better. She has put herself throug college while working a full time job, and now that she has her degree is going to help her husband through college.

Answer 6

It sounds like you're making assumptions about other people based upon YOUR opinions of how a family should be raised.
Just keep this in mind....most rich people rarely get where they are by making uninformed decisions.
I do agree with you that alot of kids born into wealth are clueless when it comes to dealing with the "real" world,but they do seem to come equipped with the attitude and connections that are necessary to make the transtition into successful adulthood.
Don't let Paris Hilton and Nicole Ritchie fool you! They're just using what they were born with to get a free ride.Don't discount all the children who were smart enough to take advantage of their parents resources as just a "spring-board" to launch their own successful lives and careers!

Answer 7

So you believe that just because people have money, their children will grow up to be more valuable assets to the world as they will have better opportunities. I think you need to look at the statistics of drugs and crime in the private school system before you make your final decision, as many children who have these golden spoons in their mouths dont turn out to be the pillars of the earth as you would assume. I give you Paris Hilton and her sister as prime examples of children with everything.

Answer 8

I think that if people only want one child then so be it. I think the problem that we have now-a-days are the parents that are having children that can't afford them, that can't maintain a job and that are giving their children up for adoption. I think that's our real problem.

Answer 9

People should not have kids unless they are prepared to accept the responsibility and can provide a safe and loving environment. They should only have as many kids as they are prepared to handle. There are no formulas to follow and it is not something that oyu can run a cost/benefit ratio on.

Answer 10

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